Timing Is Everything

A woman’s desires can swing wildly from one extreme to the other in a short amount of time. I could have a one-night stand with a girl I approach on Saturday that would have shot me down had I approached her on Friday night instead. On the other hand, a man’s desires are mostly stable and resistant to change. It has never happened that a guy turned down the possibility of sex because he was in a “bad mood.” He could be fresh from his grandfather’s funeral but he’s still fucking that hot girl as long as she’s down. (I could already imagine the guy saying “My grandfather would have wanted me to pork her.”)

Even though that revolting fatty at the bar hasn’t been laid in three months, she’s currently suffering from indigestion after eating at a frou-frou restaurant and therefore will not be open to your attempt. A petty fight with her friend or a pair of jeans that doesn’t fit like it used to can also totally turn her off from sex, snapping shut her vagina like a bear trap, regardless if she should be open to a suitor who obviously has higher value than she does. Yet on another night she could be satisfied with the Brazilian wax and nail job she received from the salon, making her go for sex no matter what. She’d then fuck a guy who was actually worse off then the guy who approached her a couple nights before.

Sometimes there is no rhyme or reason to the men that women eventually select to penetrate their vaginas. I have no doubt that others have looked at me with a pretty girl and thought, “How the fuck did he get her?” The answer is that I approached her when she was open and delivered a “good enough” game at that moment in time. I didn’t know she was open, but because I’m always approaching, I’ll catch girls like her at least on a somewhat regular basis.

Reading the signs of a girl who is open to sex is more art than science, so trying to do it is usually a fancy excuse to not approach. Unless you’re taking a break from sex, your goal should be consistent work, not decreasing work, and as long as you play the numbers game, you’ll ensure that you’ve at least made attempts on open girls. If you only do one approach this coming Saturday night, I’ll bet money that it’ll be on a girl who isn’t open.

In my flying solo guide I mentioned that I make myself do at least 10 approaches a night. If I don’t get any bites by number ten, then something is wrong and it’s best I go home, masturbate, and regroup for another night, since it’s a certainty I approached at least 2 or 3 girls who were definitely open. Without doing 10 approaches, though, I can’t say for certain that I had a bad night—it’s possible that I just had a bad streak of approaching girls who haven’t shaved their legs in weeks. It’s totally fine that on Friday night the pretty girl called me an ugly orangutan because on the next night there will be an open girl who gets approached by me at the right time before another male with higher value than myself is able to put in his bid. I cannot guarantee success on a particular night, but I can on a stretch of nights.

No matter how many different ways I look at it, all answers point to the same thing: approach. Everything else can be taken away. Even game.

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The Dude
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Concise brilliance.

Mala
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So if the girls in Denmark are so bad, would you say they are worse than American (U.S.) girls or just a notch above them? Also, is it looks alone or looks and attitude/personality? Are they fatter or leaner than girls in United State?

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Nothing but the truth, the damn truth and the absolute truth in this post. So true.

It really is betting on a horse race. You can pick the favorite, but it might not win. You can go for the long shot, but it’s not likely. Or you can pick 8 horses and you probably won’t win much, but you won’t lose. And that’s the name of the game.

10 is a solid number. It’s a lot more approaches than you think.

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@#2…statistically speaking there are no other fatter girls than in the US.

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Currently I am a student (MBA) but am considering working part-time instead of a full-time job upon graduation, so I can approach women. I have seen some vids of successful day game attempts and because of my work schedule, that will likely be my focus. With day game I feel more comfortable going out solo versus I feel weird going into a bar alone, although I have done it on occasions (like 20 times in my life). Most of my friends are either married, or they are beta and rely only on social circle game; so they don’t go out.

I want to average 14 approaches a week. I suppose I could work a full time job and do 14 in the weekend, walking up and down the street.

BTW Roosh, I bought Bang and I really like it. I did the palm reading thing and it worked great — an excellent way to initiate light kino. I like the fact that it does not overflow with information. A guy like me tends to over-analyze a lot of things, which makes me spend too much time thinking and less doing. When I am in a set I can really only think about 2-3 structured things/lines before all the info makes me seem too unnatural. For this reason, even though the Mystery Method is correct on the steps, I cannot use it or even think about it when studying or when in the field — it’s just information overload.

I do agree about the approach being the most important thing. What works for one guy may not work for another and only by approaching can someone find out what works for him and tweak it AND adapt it to the situation which is constantly fluid — it is here that the subconscious takes over — of course certain points are to be remembered, e.g. the instadate.

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Roosh, I would really like to see some vids of you in sets; vids are second to a man actually doing if he is to obtain the greatest amount of knowledge. If spy cams aren’t your thing, maybe consider recording just the audio.

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I got shit to do man, stop making me want to go out right this minute and throw out a couple of approaches.

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Orangutans have lighter hair.

Gmac
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Approaching women is like blind whack-a-mole.

Chad Daring
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I”m not half bad at whack-a-mole.

Tonight will be the first night I’ve gone out since I read through Bang, and you’ve truly got something my friend.

Thinking about dedicating a whole night to trying to, and probably failing, to chat up the womenfolk would’ve demoralized me a month ago, now I cant wait for the fucking clock to move so I can get out there

Hopefully I’ll have some luck behind me tonight and the timing will be right.

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Jesus seano9. You’re fucking creepy on so many levels.

loser

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Classic material

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So True. When I first started going out I noticed that the fatty was often equally as receptive as the hot girl on any given night. Unfortunately most guys don’t realize this and never go for the girl “out of their league”

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Yes. One has to be willing to scrap it up a little. It’s ok to start low and work your way up…..especially when in the midst of a drought.

Gmac
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“Jesus seano9. You’re fucking creepy on so many levels.”

Classic example of game obsession.

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“Jesus seano9. You’re fucking creepy on so many levels.”

Classic example of game obsession.


I love how these thoughts are being expressed on the blog of a guy who quit working all together so that he can game as many women as possible in as many nations as possible.

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“I love how these thoughts are being expressed on the blog of a guy who quit working all together so that he can game as many women as possible in as many nations as possible.”

Big difference between that and sideline obsession. Sounds like you’re jealous.

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This makes sense. It doesn’t matter how badass you are if you don’t approach.

In fact, a lot of guys probably think they’re badass, and they avoid approaching to keep their ego up.

Then they approach, get rejected, and stop doing it to rebuild their ego.

Only a few keep approaching and sacrificing their egos on a consistent basis to build real confidence.

Their reward should be obvious.. woman, and lots of them. smile

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“In fact, a lot of guys probably think they’re badass, and they avoid approaching to keep their ego up.

Then they approach, get rejected, and stop doing it to rebuild their ego.”

Another thing these guys will do a say that “there are no good looking women here” to avoid doing any approaches.

In my experience, excessively high standards = no balls to approach.

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“In my experience, excessively high standards = no balls to approach.”

Some guys do have ridiculously high standards and won’t fuck unless its an 8 or above. Could be do to what they’re used to from a previous relationship or what not. Or they’d just prefer to jerk it instead of going with an ugly.

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I’m convinced menstruation is a major factor on this topic.

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I feel this post was written for the asians in the house.

Good post.

It’s true that due to a myriad of inner game issues a lot of guys are so caught up in their heads they don’t get out of the miasma and into the real world and approach.

“You miss 100% of the shots you don’t make”, “Not all who chase the zebra catch him, but he who catches the zebra is one who first chased him” and other such Vietnamese Fortune Cookie offerings all make this point.

Roosh is a bit like the real-life, hairy and middle-eastern version of Will Smith from Hitch. He’s here to help.

His pragmatic advice might not be as package-able but I think the viewers can take a lot more out of these nuggets than say De angelo’s 4,001 CD extravaganza on every facet and minutia relating to how to win over and keep a 10 or some other pua’s cd/ audio book/ encyclopedia sets at very low prices. (not naming names to keep some Mystery alive of course).

It’s like his book Poke, i mean Bang. Both the title and content is succinct. TO THE POINT. designed to get you off your ass and into action.

And by ‘action’, of course i mean ‘vagina’.

By the low amount of comments here I guess the call to rally the troops really worked and that computer screens and I-phones are being abandoned left right and centre all over the cosmos to respond to the call.

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“No matter how many different ways I look at it, all answers point to the same thing: approach. Everything else can be taken away. Even game.”

I’ve been pushing this point for quite a while. Glad to see you agree. Approaching is indeed the only thing that matters. The rest is just noise.

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“My grandfather would have wanted me to pork her.”

And the guy would be right.

Anonymous
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Nah,this guy isnt creepy,just sounds like someone who wants to get out there for a change+try new things.

Listen,Sometimes focusing on the”super hot chick”isnt always a good mind set.
Try the oldest age of women you wouldnt mind doing and work your way down the age/beauty scale.
Lastly,remember,fat chicks suck the best dick+usually swallow because they are always hungry 24/7.I’m just sayin bro.

Socialkenny
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Great friggin’ post here.It’s a bit old nevertheless it’s great.

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So, women are fickle. Like sales, knock on enough doors and you’ll eventually close the deal. Got it.