Every once in a while, a woman provides us with a public example that dating doesn’t work. This most recently came from conservative Fox News correspondent Tomi Lahren, who proclaimed all that is wrong with men in a 15-minute video that has accumulated nearly two million views. In spite of her having access to the attention of tens of thousands of men, many of whom are rich and handsome, she has not secured a life partner. While she blames her failure on the state of men, her problem lies with using the secular strategy of dating.

If you’re short on time to watch her full video, view this short supercut:

I was immediately struck by the disparity of her feminine, doll-like appearance to her hostile, stern demeanor. It’s as if you encountered a fluffy cat on the street that for no reason began to bark at you. If she matched her demeanor to her appearance, could she look the same as most card-carrying feminists—heavyset, short-haired, wearing problematic prescription glasses, and covered with tattoos?

This is a message for all the boys who think they’re men, but are actually boys.

What is a boy? Someone who is not responsible, loyal, or consistent. A boy just wants to play. He seeks excitement and fun instead of obligation. For her to utter this statement, and be motivated enough to shoot a video about it, she must have had a lot of experience with immature men she calls boys. But why? Why has she voluntarily cavorted with so many boys that she has developed an expertise in analyzing them? Could I ever have been able to write articles and books on “sluts” unless I had many dealings with them?

All of my [female] friends are attractive and successful. They all have an issue with men. If all of these women are having issues then it might not be us.

She defines a successful woman as one who is in an expert at extracting material rewards from the visible world, no doubt aided by a team of expensive hairstylists, dermatologists, and personal shoppers. And yet they still cannot find a man, only boys. Could it be that the fruit of their worldly “success” is attracting men who are addicted to the fleeting things of this world as much as them?

When listing all the accomplishments of her and her friends, she not once mentions faith. She does not mention her spiritual journey nor her obedience to God. For all we know, she could be an atheist or a Christian in name only, because if you were following Jesus Christ and went on to list all your personal strengths, or at least those things you strive towards, it’d be impossible not to mention Him. She surely has faith in the world, and in the beauty of her body, but from her video I don’t see a woman who is seeking out a man of God instead of a man of the world.

I used to be a staunch fornicator who was obsessed with obtaining sex by the third date. For many years I got what I wished for. My sex life was exciting enough that I could teach other men to mimic my lifestyle, and yet much of my ensuing writing and conversations with friends were filled with complaints about women. Pursuing them in a secular way, in which God had not intended, gave me sexual pleasure but nothing else, and so I wonder if Tomi can see that her secular dating strategy is not only failing but causing her to develop a  belligerence against men. She is receiving unbridled attention from them, and surely no shortage of dates, but what is the use of all that if in the end you’re left bitter and angry?

Tomi has several rules that she wants men to follow. I’ve paraphrased a few of them below.

1. “Be single”

Men who are pursuing her are not single, and since this was her first rule, I imagine that it is a common occurrence. This means they see her as a side piece, a potentially erotic experience. These men are so enslaved to their passions that they dishonor their partners and eagerly seek to commit adultery. Whatever bait she’s putting out there, the type of fish that are biting are the piranhas that just want to gobble her up for a quick meal before moving on to the next woman.

2. “Don’t act like a pen pal”

She experiences endless texting marathons that go nowhere. I would guess this involves men who are involved with another woman. They are trying to warm up their new prospect until the iron is hot enough to create a brief window of opportunity that leads to fornication. Time is of the essence—they can’t wine and dine Tomi on multiple dates, so she is treated like a backup plan, which is devastating to her since she sees herself as successful. Her ego then convinces her that the problem isn’t her, but nearly every man she has ever involved herself with.

3. “Make solid plans instead of texting at late hours”

When a man is not invested into a woman, he won’t care to make plans more than a day in advance. Booty calls and one-time hookups do not deserve advance notice. Even though Tomi is listing different rules for men to follow, it’s clear that they all stem from the same problem of men who aren’t serious about her and just want to get her in bed, either for sexual pleasure or for the novelty of sleeping with a celebrity.

4. “Be consistent”

Men are showing a burst of interest in her and then dropping off, perhaps after sleeping with her or after she states her demands of what a boyfriend should provide her (she doesn’t say). The reason this happens is that Tomi has presented personal and aspiritual qualities that attract fornicators. If a woman puts career above family, dresses in a way to elicit a man’s lust, has an active Instagram account that amplifies that lust further, and wears excess makeup to simulate her face coloration upon the peak of bodily orgasm, she will not catch the attention of a devout Christian man who is the only type capable of providing the loyalty and consistency she seeks, and if she is attracting the Orthodox Christian man but still chooses to remain single, she is mixed up about the kind of man she truly wants.

My guess is that Tomi, despite possessing a high worldly status she boasts about, has not been able to secure the commitment of the right man who wants to become one flesh with her in the house of God. This is because she is announcing to the men of the world that she cannot be a wife who dedicates herself to the husband and home since she already has a husband in the form of a career, and a home in the form of a television studio.

It is not just the guys [who live in certain cities]. A lot of men are trash. They don’t know how to treat women. They don’t know how to pull their heads out of the sand and pay attention… I think men have failed themselves and they have failed us.

There are some men who are trash. I was trash. I treated women as fleshy sex toys and saw them as a means to gain pleasure and feed my masculine pride while the women I dated saw me as a means of novelty and entertainment. Only one loving relationship developed in nearly two decades of secular dating, and that ended in a fireball of deceit and manipulation. Only through God was I able to break that cycle and pursue a life of chastity where I cannot complain about my recent personal dealings with women. When I was of poor character, I attracted women of poor character, and now that my faith has given me moral character, I also attract women of moral character. It’s not rocket science.

Tomi Lahren supports abortion, an abominable act that seeks to terminate the lives of society’s most helpless. If you’re a woman who supports the killing of the unborn, what kind of man do you think you will attract? It’s possible that she would never choose for abortion herself, but if that was the case, why support it for others? The only type of man who would date a woman who publicly supports abortion is a fornicator who is not of God. I wouldn’t recommend such a man for your sister or daughter. Tomi is attracting her mirror reflection, and she is furious at it, yet that anger should be redirected from men to herself for boldly going against her Creator and the love He has for His human creation.

If you want to mix in with people like my friends who are go-getters, who work really hard, who make their own money, who are talented, skilled, and ambitious, please don’t mix us in with the [thots]. We take it as an insult if you are also talking to five other [thots].

If a man is pursuing you at the same time he’s pursuing multiple women of ill repute, that says he sees you as a thot just like them. You share their characteristics, rituals, and behaviors. Those other women you call a thot do not call themselves a thot, yet probably would call you a thot. Every other woman but you is a thot although you’re similar enough to them that men you interact with can’t really tell the difference. At the very least, this should serve as a wake-up call for her to investigate the attributes she shares with thots.

She again refers to the worldly value of herself and the women she knows, not understanding that women prize material success and the stability it brings far more than men. Many times throughout her video she referred to her friends as having “something going on”—some material scheme or ambitious plot that is irrelevant to men looking to start a family. She also commands men to leave her alone and instead waste time on women who “haven’t found themselves,” insinuating that she herself is found and must therefore be treated as she wishes, not at all connecting that how she is treated is a reflection of her true value, not her perceived value, and that as long as we are far from God, we are not found but lost.

She doesn’t help her case by frequently referring to texting and DMs, suggesting she is on her phone for much of the day, likely communicating with various men who want to date her. By announcing this behavior, she is going to attract the type of man who is also on his phone for much of the day, who lives in the virtual reality of photoshopped pictures and witty comebacks.

Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be a bitch. Don’t be a bitch. If you failed and lost a woman of value like myself of my friends, don’t be a bitch. Don’t be butthurt. You did it to yourself.

You may think this anger is the result of one bad relationship, but I see it as an accumulation of failures with men. She is at the age (28) where I believe she imagined herself to be married and living happily ever after, but men of the world failed her and she doesn’t see it as her fault, yet based on her vitriol, she might as well have multiple divorces under her belt. These days, a woman doesn’t have to be divorced for her to carry a lot of baggage left over from a robust dating history.

She mentions her friends yet again. This tells me that they are the enablers of her current behavior and world outlook. Instead of having a spiritual father, or at least an ordained priest to receive guidance from, she has a secular sisterhood. They cry on each other’s shoulders after every failed relationship and reinforce the idea that men are the problem. Where is her father? Why isn’t he arranging for her to marry instead of her arranging dates based on who she is emotionally attracted to?

I do have high standards and high expectations. My friends too. Do you want to know why? We worked for those? We work hard, we’re successful. We have a desire to be something more each day. We’re not difficult, we have a baseline standard.

Who created the material standard of success that she follows? Certainly not Christ, for He told us to live in the world but not be of the world. I don’t see her standard of success taught in the Bible, certainly not in the First or Second Epistle to the Corinthians where St. Paul gave lessons for women about conduct. It does not come from the teachings of the Orthodox Church or the Church Fathers. She learned it from the great deceiver, the father of lies. He deceives people into thinking that they are at the height of value because they are attractive and have money when in fact, due to their lack of faith, they are facing judgement.

It will be a cold day in hell when I chase a man. There is not one single man on planet earth who doesn’t make a woman feel good enough.

If a woman is chasing after positive feelings, what she’s really chasing is dopamine, and the type of man who releases dopamine is the exact type she interacts with—fornicators who cheat on their girlfriends and string her along with low-effort text messages until trying to set up a booty call. The good man, who is ready to protect and provide for his family, releases not dopamine but serotonin, a hormone of peace and calm, feelings that modern women choose not to have due to empowering their disordered passions.

Conclusion

I wish Tomi had a spiritual elder that could tell her she’s merely attracting the male version of herself, and that the value she perceives to have is opposed to securing the type of man she thinks she wants. I look at the type of woman I attracted during my pickup days and compare them to the women I have corresponded with since turning to Christ—they are a world apart. I forgot what it’s like to have wild interactions with women with accompanying tension, disappointment, and anxiety that follows acts of illicit fornication.

If Tomi asked me for advice, I would tell her to repent and declare Jesus Christ as her Lord and Savior, not with memes posted to her Instagram but with the entirety of her heart. I would tell her to quit her job and remove herself from the hell-pit of career, fame, and money. I would tell her to stop dating and beg God to reveal a path forward that will save her soul and provide a family through which she honors God. Good can only come from God, but that means putting Him first, a hard decision for a woman who Satan is actively tempting with fame and riches of the world.

Christ clearly teaches us the kind of life we must lead while in servitude to Him, and until we embark on that path, we will encounter needless sufferings that redirect the hatred we have of ourselves due to our misconduct to those around us. If Tomi embarks on a righteous path, she will soon be able to recognize a different type of man, a man of the faith who does not excite her emotions but pleases her soul, because it’s through this man that she will serve God and not the world. May God bless her on that journey.

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pdwalker
pdwalker
2 months ago

your writing continues to improve, as does your wisdom.

JonW
JonW
2 months ago

“She learned it from the great deceiver, the father of lives”
Typo?
Great article by the way, I’m really loving your stuff.
God bless.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago

Roosh, so glad you commented on this. 😉 I posted a comment about it last week. I was stunned by what I heard from Tomi, whom I consider an opportunist and a feminist. She is not a conservative, not even close.

The issue is that so many men consider her a conservative shows the imbalance between single men and single women in the Conservative movement. Single women, especially single white female Careerist urbanites, are overwhelmingly leftists (I have seen stats that over 80% of those voted for Barry Husseinand/ or Hillary).

That is where the term AWFUL came from: Affluent White Female Urban Leftists.

Tomi is just one of them, just not as radical left. She is more of a center-leftist.

Conservative men need to be on the lookout for the Tomi Lahrens of the world and not end up wifing up one of them. Their life will be a living hell if they do.

OnlyByGrace
OnlyByGrace
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

My opinion: as Christians we should work to foster Christian values in the world regardless of whether they are associated with the left or right. We are not Republicans first and Christians second. Nor are we Democrats first and Christians second. Our allegiance is to God and His kingdom before all things.

Identity politics is demonic. Abortion, for example, is evil but so is capital punishment. There are social justice issues on the left that are entirely consistent with and better represent a Christian worldview. There are other issues on the right that better reflect Christian values.

As Paul commands, we are not to be divided. Christ prayed that His believers would be united so that the world would believe that He was sent by God. By allowing the great deceiver and his dark armies to divide Christian believers against each other into left and right camps, we act against the prayer of Christ and hamper the ability of the great commission to be accomplished. That plays right into satan’s hands. Souls are being lost because of our egoic and prideful allegiance to political ideology before and above our allegiance to Christ.

A Christian
A Christian
2 months ago
Reply to  OnlyByGrace

My friend, let every downvote you receive from perusers of this site be an indicator that you truly are a man after God’s own heart. By being a Christian first, and a member of [insert political party here] second, you have removed your ego from the forefront of your identity to make room for the Holy Spirit to define it.

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  OnlyByGrace

Its crystal clear that a lot of people dont understand the message of your comment, if they did no one would have downvoted. You’re right by pointing to the fact that morals, rules of order to keep us all intact, to be and stay true civil, has to be at the absolute top,. The Rules of order are above secondary structures like politics and systems, which are meant for social management purposes and just serving the rules of order at the top.

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  James Bale

If true, sane minded leaders would be in control, politics as we know it, wouldnt exist, instead some sort of democracy would be in place. Morals and saneness would be at the top, it has to be in order to keep society intact and people civilized, to avoid noxious behaviours in society as much as possible.
People will still have their free will of course! But they will be educated about good and bad the right way, so people know from early age on what is right and wrong.

Yash Yadav
Yash Yadav
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Hey Christian Cool!
I left a comment for you on other post of Roosh’s blog.
You’re pretty conservative and I am a social conservative too.I am a 20 year old from South Asia.Are you there on Roosh V’s forum!?
Can we connect there if you don’t mind!?😅

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  Yash Yadav

Hi Yash, I wrote a reply to your comment but was not sure if you were going back to see it. I can post it in the old forum before, that wa s a great discussion going.

I am not registered in the RooshV forum, but may register soon.

My issue has been time lately, I have been slammed (very busy).

Where are you from? I am guessing… Philippines? Me, from Rocky Mountain region, USA. I am originally from Florida, though.

Yash Yadav
Yash Yadav
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Hey Christian Cool!
How are you!?
Damn…this is one of the best places to meet some kindest people on the planet.On other platforms,not everyone replies with this sincerity!
Well your guess was close.
I am from India.
I was lucky to meet another countryman,2 weeks ago and you had also commented on my comment there.We have connected on Roosh V forum.He is a great guy and I literally Thank God that I got someone redpilled from my own country.
Here I believe we are that starting line of feminism where red pill content will be bashed by both,liberals and conservatives alike because “nothing of that sort is going to happen” “you think too much” ” wow you’re such a by-product of patriarchy!”…but honestly this is what the West would have also thought while passing the 19th Amendment and look where it is now.The social fabric of the West is ruined.
By the way I like your idea having a full background check of a girl by a private investigator before committing to her.Now that is something which will offend many but given the degenerate modern times,even I believe it is necessary.
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Also I read about the unfortunate loss of your wife and I am so sorry for that.
I know how difficult it can be to live alone and being lonely is really a big problem.Men need a playmate to do life with.
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Regarding Roosh V forum,I hope you join soon too.My name on the forum is The Truth Seeker.Message me when you come there.Honestly,there is literally loads of content.
I wish you All The Best ahead!!🙂🙂
And yes,keep posting more conservative truths…we need more red pill guys like you.I like reading your answers.😅🙂

Elizabeth
Elizabeth
2 months ago
Reply to  Yash Yadav

Just as long as you don’t mind the same being done to you. Are you perfect? No one is. I hope you do trust in God enough that he will send you someone special just for you. But trust is huge in a relationship. By starting off will a security check, you are setting yourself up for two things. A possible explosion when she finds out you didn’t trust her or your own feelings, and the fact that now you will never trust your own instinct. Pray to the Lord to help you through your dating life. Find like moral, but like interests. Women today are educated, and will want you to spend some time on them. That is real courtship. If she finds out later that you didn’t trust your courtship and had to check out her past, you =have already lost her. She will never trust you again. You said you are 20. you are young. Figure out what it is you want most in the relationship. Not just a women to take care of you, your home and your babies. You will first need to know how to talk to her. Just as Tomi has no clue how to talk to a man. How many males actually made it through five minutes of her rant?

Rev.Constantine
Rev.Constantine
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

100% right!

RJH
RJH
2 months ago

Amazin’ article! Tomi needs to seek first the kingdom of God, as well as forgive her mother and return to the Father.

OnlyByGrace
OnlyByGrace
2 months ago

Roosh, great article. Great points.

BCB
BCB
2 months ago

I’d say most men would be happy with 1&2. If she is nice/sweet, odds are she’ll be a good nurturer to children. Good cook/housekeeper is nice but a bonus, not requirement.

BCB
BCB
2 months ago

First time commentor who has been aware of your (previous) work and recent conversion. This particular piece is outstanding. A really fine piece of writing that should be widely read by women.

The simple reality is that women reward the behavior of the type of man she describes – she’s no different. If she and her friends wanted nice, committment minded guys they would be competing for those men (who do exist). They aren’t.

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  BCB

Exactly. She’ll be looking for “nice” guy after 35 though :). Women this days are killing they future when young. We men at least have enough capability to live on our own and still got meaningful life.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

You would think she will be looking for “nice guys” after 35. Women like this get picker and even more bitter by 35 and demand even more.

Have you ever heard of the TBN (Christian network) Wendy Griffith who got married the first time at the young age of 54??! No, not kidding.

https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2017/12/08/devouring-a-lifetime-of-courtship/

Her list of demands was finally defeated by the reality of aging… at 54. By them, she definitely dropped a lot of her demands on a man and “settled”. At 54. Fifty-freaking-four! 😮

Tomi will be single and miserable, ranting on videos year after year, well into her 40s, unless she settles down or finds Jesus in time. Her list of demands will continue to get more absurd well into her 40s, at least.

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

You have some right about that. Last year I have been in relationship with women like this, I thought I have found “love of my life” :). It ended up badly, but it helped me to rethink all my life and get back fully to Faith.

Michal
Michal
2 months ago

Just listen of her voice tonality is enough to know what kind of “women” she is. Like wretched radio. Typical modern narcissistic princess with high ego and tons of insecurities covered up by makeup and attitude. Calling that thot “conservative” is almost a blasphemy. Good article.

dudge
dudge
2 months ago

I don’t even find her attractive.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

I don’t find her attractive either. If you were to describe her to someone, they would think she sounds pretty good, right?

But nah… it just does not come well together.

I think it is the b!tchy voice and the entitled attitude hat takes off a good -2 off of her from the top.

And the little nose ring thing… ugh… she has it off for this clip, but has it on a lot of he time. Total turnoff.

Nothing tuns off a guy more than entitlement, tattoos, or b!tchiness on a woman.

Rob Banks
Rob Banks
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

word

Ray
Ray
2 months ago

Excellent article, Roosh. You didn’t shy away from the problem and gave really good advice/solution not just for women…but for men too.

Tomasz
Tomasz
2 months ago
Reply to  Ray

Ray, great profile picture!

o_rety
o_rety
1 month ago
Reply to  Tomasz

St. Maximilian Kolbe

Max
Max
2 months ago

The sad truth is that she complains about men because the ones that could give her the stability she wants either don’t want her, or she doesn’t get the ‘tingles’ from those men.

She complains because she is attracted to these men that she despises.

I have learnt a lot on my path, one thing is that you attract what you are. That is the one golden rule above all. You attract what you are.

If you’re in it for the wrong reasons, so will your partner.

dudge
dudge
2 months ago

if you are a male virgin following Christ, even if you were attractive, wealthy and accomplished, you will generally not meet women like this. I can guarantee you that. It’s due to the lifestyle. They smell you a mile away and turn away in disgust. The only exception are those who want to “crack” (i.e. defile) you.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

Dudge, I can say for certain, as a man who stayed virgin until (almost) 19 due to Christian faith, “church girls” get surprisingly turned off by virgin men. Why? I think because they assume that a man who is a virgin into adulthood (almost age 19 in my case) must be “low-value” to other women and therefore get rejected. I have heard this form numerous Millennial guys I had mentored in the past and these were no pathetic Betas, they were good looking solid guys, fit and all.

My own experience may be unique if you are not a Gen X kid who grew up in Middle America. Granted, I was NOT wealthy then, but was god looking and jacked from working out at the gym and shredded. But I had a great sports car and good paying job, but I was not rich at all, but could afford a decent life and my own apartment if I wanted to move out (I had not yet moved out as I was saving money for downpayment on a house).

Funny story, after I lost my virginity to the girl I had been with for 18 months and we were engaged, the next woman I met that was a “church girl” broke it off with me after she learned I was not a virgin anymore, as she was and wanted to marry a guy who was also virgin at marriage.

Go figure, right?

But again, that was the late 1990s and early 2000s in “middle America”… it feels like An eternity ago! 😮 Feels like a different world and different country almost.

“Friends” was the hit show, Seinfeld was still funny, and music was still awesome. Dating, not the h00k-up culture was the norm (relationships, LTRs, that kinda thing). Finding a church woman that was serious about Christ was not an impossible task.

Say what you want about the Generation X, we are and were the most stable and positive generation since the Greatest Generation, no joke. The entire concept of the Manosphere (Game, Red Pill, etc) is all Generation X work.

Somehow, the “Latch Key” generation, ravaged by the divorce revolution, managed to escape the corruption of the Baby Boomers and The pathetic Beta mindset of the Millennials. Somehow, we managed to have stable and lovong relationships and even marriages that lasted. We managed to develope good social skills without being hindered by the smartphone or the h00k-op culture.

When I see Tomi, a product of the Millennial feminist education system, I feel even more blessed to be a Gen Xer, who actually enjoyed a great time to live and grow up in America.

dudge
dudge
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

I’m 56 and still a virgin. Not coz I lack the looks, education or job. But by choice. And I’d do it all over again. It used to be common before the 68 revolution.
Many “churchgirls” are no better than the worldly ones. The reason is simple. The “churchgirl” is in a clique at school or uni. Her friends are not christians, and the christians are “uncool” anyway. She does not want to be uncool, and she is tempted by everything around her. So she follows their advice. That’s why most “churchgirls” are no longer virgins, especially if they are attractive. Was Tomi ever a Christian?

Yash Yadav
Yash Yadav
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Now this scares me a lot.I’ll be a virgin until marriage because I believe couples should have strong platonic relationships first.Know each other inside out COMPLETELY.Logically couples have their whole married lives to bang each other’s brains out.People today give such stupid reasons like “trying to test sexual compatibility” and “what if he is impotent!?”
I say there is an effing Urologist present down the road..take your boyfriend to him to confiirm his non-impotency whenever he wants.
This scares me because I am afraid of getting paired up with a non-virgin.
I will never accept one but what if I bite into a bad apple because of my badluck..or say she hides it from me.
Seriously,some people in my life try to convince me that it doesn’t matter but it EFFING DOES!
For men with Retroactive Jealousy this will crush them on the inside.To even start to come to terms with that the love of my life and the future mother of my children has gone to bed with someone else hurts a lot.

dudge
dudge
2 months ago
Reply to  Yash Yadav

I’m afraid that roosh is romanticising this virgin thing. It’s a hard grind, even though it does have it’s share of benefits. I know. But if you are serious about Christ you have no choice. It is simply something expected from you as a disciple. You will probably also not be rewarded for it. You very well may end up having to take a non-virgin, if you do get married. It’s not just a “spiritual” form of game, it is a requirement for being a disciple of Christ: be pure, like He is pure.

Yash Yadav
Yash Yadav
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

And resent her my whole life!?
Marry a non-virgin when you waited for her for years and turns out “you are just thinking too much Yash”.
No sir.The fact of even being with a girl who WILLINGLY gave herself up before even thinking that there is a 1% chance that they might not end up being married….gave her most precious possession to someone….hurts a lot.
It is not about romanticising.
It is about following what God knows what is best for us.

dudge
dudge
2 months ago
Reply to  Yash Yadav

As a virgin, you have no benefits, no privileges. If you take a non-virgin as a bride, and I assume you are not being deceived, what matters is that you love her and that you both follow Christ. She will regret it if she is a true Christian, you do not need to shame her. If she is blase about it, then why would you want to marry her anyway?
When it hurts that may be because of jealousy, so you need to grow. Virginity is not something we can demand from others, it is the result of our own personal obedience to Christ. In Christianity we cannot earn anything. We can be obedient to Christ, and receive blessings from Him. Nothing more. We live by grace and not the law.

Yash Yadav
Yash Yadav
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

“As a virgin, you have no benefits, no privileges. ”
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Oh yes I do!
No STD scares but saving your virginity for your future bride makes the wedding night a lot more special.
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“If you take a non-virgin as a bride, and I assume you are not being deceived, what matters is that you love her and that you both follow Christ. ”
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That is what is difficult for me.Judging people whether they are decieving or not.
Yes,but what if she doesn’t regret.Lori Alexander literally has a whole article on this topic.A man married a non-virgin and her repentance was fake….just to make him accept her.Turns out she wasn’t repentant at all.I can give you the link if you want to read.Virginity is special.Many people are making a light of this as if it doesn’t matter and it isn’t God’s plan….one man,one woman,one lifetime..both being virgins.
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“When it hurts that may be because of jealousy, so you need to grow.”
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Better tell the world to make good choices.Need to grow and what?
Be a cuck.Normalize this cucking and see where the West is now.
Why should I be the fool and accept her when others have gotten it without investing anything.A woman’s virginity is her glory.For most of history,people knew this.
Men’s glory is their bravery and valour.
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“Virginity is not something we can demand from others, it is the result of our own personal obedience to Christ. In Christianity we cannot earn anything. We can be obedient to Christ, and receive blessings from Him. Nothing more. We live by grace and not the law.”
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So you’re saying to reject God’s plan for us about sexual immorality.Honestly sounds like you have also given into the lukewarm Christanity and egalitarianism..which is false btw.

dudge
dudge
2 months ago
Reply to  Yash Yadav

Being a Christian is not the next iteration of the manosphere, even though roosh may have been the ultimate player and at times portrays it as such. It’s becoming humble and following Christ. On the outside it may at times have the appearane of cuckness, whatever that is. If you hold on to Christ you will not be afraid of that. Virginity is simply the outer manifestation of the heart. You can be a virgin without a chase heart, then how are you different from Muslims or observant Jews? Virginity per se is also meaningless.
I you think that I am a cuck, then try and live the straight and narrow like me until you are 56 and get back to me. It takes much more self-discipline, resolve and comittment than you can imagine

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

You dont get it, your “tongue” is used by the devil, if you believe virginity is meaningless. Thats the devil inside you who tries to convince you to believe in such insane thoughts.

Virginity is the key! The very key! In the virgin state you are pure, pure you! Your soul is clean and bright, you are you, in full form. Sex is the ceremony of bonding,the fusion of two souls, they fuse because of undeniable, sincere, true and all glory love.

The soul of each one, man and woman, have to be pure heading into the ceremony for the goal, to create a new life, a child, born from all glory love between the parents. Sex is not for entertainment, íts primarly for sincere family creation. Creating a child with eternal love for each other is holy, no wonder its beautiful to bond and an obtain such marvelous memory for eternity. They share their selfs with each other, to bring absolute love into existing. Loyality, support, unity, they learn, teach and grow together, raising their chid, children, to carry the pure light of bonded love in the heart and soul of their offsprings, which leads them for greatness.

These offsprings who heed the rules of order, from god, of the universe, will bring and place heaven once again on earth.

weioalnlv
weioalnlv
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

Virginity is only good for women. The man who breaks her hymen will always have an emotional impact on her. Not so much for men.

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  weioalnlv

Let me ask you this, because your unknowing suggest your standpoint: how is it down there, at the sump of foolishness? Dark and very much cloudy, probably.

Virignity is equal important for both men and women. Same effects occur on both genders. The hymen has an important meaning, it stands in direct constealtion with virginity of women no doubt. Certainly not the only factor though. So not the way you imagined the whole time. You thought, the hymen is the only indicator because its physical verifiable, how small-minded from you, that outlines your unknowing unquestionable. Its obvious that you aren’t aware about the whole process of sex and its effects on different layers on the whole being. 
Its impact is indisputable on multiple areas, such as physically, psychologically and spiritually, to sum it up in short.

Like i mentioned before, sex is the ceremony of bonding, a whole chain of influence and impact are happening to involved ones. There are clearly identifing indicators for men, to know if he is a virgin or not, too. Psychologically signs are just one factor,common sense, you think this is all to perceive, no no you are simply not on the level of knowledge yet, there are physically clues on the surface, precise ones, clear indications, they are the most easy ones to detect actually, and to give you a little hint, these things are not involved in anything down inside underpants, everything else outside of that it, is my last tip.

There is a reason, i adress this subject only remotely and vague. Its necessary that people reach a certain level of understanding, by that time, they can come to the same or similar conclusion at least by themself, just by their own understandig about these highly and most important topics in the world, really.

weioalnlv
weioalnlv
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

If you’re a male virgin following Christ you’re a beta.

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  weioalnlv

People who believe in gamma, delta, alpha, beta, are lost brains, such things are not existing, they are invented by psychopaths and sociopaths for psychopaths and sociopaths, to replace the word psychopath and sociopath, with a new term alpha, in hope to re-frame bad human characteristics with patheticdefintion to desperately paint the alpha as “good” being, this is the joke of the century.

Reading comments from people like you, who hanging on such misbelief , is a sad thing, really. People like you are currently handicapped, mind sick, get back to the truht, find your way back, heal your self as much as possible, enough with insanity, grow up, boy or girl, whatever you are!

Andrey
Andrey
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

So what? Christ himself died a virgin. Apostles were either childless or have left their families behind.
“I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.” (1 Corinthians 7:8)
Stop caring about women and marriage, stay alone and pure, ignore social pressure and fight your lust. Women will only destroy your body and soul, believe me. They have always been and remain the best weapon of the Enemy.
Behind almost every sin you can find a woman promoting it either directly or indirectly:
“Go to the night club”, “Buy a fancy car”, “Get drunk”, “Take steroids”, “Beat up this guy”, “Earn more money by any means”, etc-etc
And yes – every single woman I know is into occult and sorcery at some degree. It may be some stupid superstition or astrology or meditation – anything which should help them in this life. They just can’t comprehend that this life is short and doesn’t matter. That’s why I am absolutely sure that most saved people are men. Here is my old comment about it https://www.rooshv.com/roosh-hour-52-acceleration#comment-185897

Bernie Farber
Bernie Farber
2 months ago

Hate speech against women. Attn: TPS Operations

icutrauma1
icutrauma1
2 months ago

I once asked a woman and her 2 female freinds(age 25-30) what they had to offer a man besides their vagina as they discussed the type of man they were going to “catch”. To this day their answer shocked me. I expected, ” I want to care for him when he’s sick, become grandparents, build a family, make his favorite meal, go on vacation together, take care of his cute mother”,,,None. They did not have an answer. “No one ever asked us that.” Obviously themselves included. They did not have an answer because it was their belief all it took to interest a man was their vagina. That is all it was going to take to give them the right to divorce a man, take the children(if they are his), his house, his alimony, the car and whatever else they could get with their vagina in exchange.
So, who, in this generation of women, are doing the objectifying?

Jaszczorka
Jaszczorka
2 months ago
Reply to  icutrauma1

Funny story: Back in the 80’s, a friend of mine worked at Wendy’s and there was a cute gal who asked if any of the guys could take the closing shift in her place. The closing shift is the hardest shift since it requires cleaning the grease fryer, cleaning all the floors, etc. and guys were fighting to do it. This was before the term “simp” had been coined. He laughed and asked himself “Why are men fighting to do this? What does she have to offer?” and he said he saw me saying to the back of his mind: “Because she has a pussy, that’s why!”

weioalnlv
weioalnlv
2 months ago
Reply to  icutrauma1

Doubt it.

icutrauma1
icutrauma1
2 months ago

These type of women are purely materialistic. hypergamous. I see it in my industry every day. A man wants a woman that is loyal, takes care of their health and will care for him and his children. I see male doctors married to nurses, physical therapist, yoga instructors, teachers, even a gym instructor. Female doctors? I’ve never met one married to a plumber, accountant, male nurse, lawn service owner. Nope. They date and only marry men that are doctors, lawyers, dentist. The standard is money money money.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  icutrauma1

Right, the hypergamy is a huge issue for sure and it is so ingrained in the female brain, it is very hard to change even after 6,000 of human “evolution”.

One problem we are going to have in this society where female hypergamy is so strong despite the “equality movement” is Tte imbalance of men and women getting college educated. Higher education (colleges, Univ) is such a toxic environment for men, that the # of men getting college educated is dropping very fast while the # of women getting college degrees is going up.

Joker did an analysis video on the subject of open spots for men in colleges and what happens when “college educated women” demanding a college educated men becomes mathematically impossible to match (due to the artificially-created imbalance:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Fju41LUFGmU

Another issue: the # of slots open for female students vs male and the # of scholarships available only to female students is so skewed towards women, the # of male college graduates will continue to drop.

So how will so many “college girls” marry up college men when the #s are so skewed? Tha math is simply not there, especially if they add stuff in like being over 6’2” or whatnot.

Something will have to give, at some point.

icutrauma1
icutrauma1
2 months ago

Men are the superior of the species. This is why. I once asked a nurse, who lived with a firefighter. He had 2 children, she had 3. I was curious about the “fire escape plan” and asked where was the meeting place, which tree do you meet at, do you have a rope ladder to go down one by one as the fire engulfed the house. I prepared myself for fun cute stories of teaching the kids all the rules if there was a fire. Here was the exchange:
“There is no plan. I grab my kids and were gone.”
“How are you going to grab 5 kids?”
“5? I only have 3.”
“I’m talking about his children.”
“What about them. I grab my kids and we’re out.”
“But you ‘re going to go back and get his kids too?”
“My kids come first.”
Over my shoulder another female nurse that was in a similar relationship chimed in, “That’s right. My kids come first too and they will always come first.”
Weeks later I was getting report from the male bf firefighter and asked him the first question I asked his gf. No matter how many different forms I asked him he replied “his” children which included the ones not his blood. He considered them ‘HIS’.

Like a Bluejay that will push out the eggs from another bird to claim the nest are women.

In my book, women are evil sinister creatures.

Ray
Ray
2 months ago
Reply to  icutrauma1

Men are not the ‘superior’ of the species…they are the head of the family.

Hence it would make sense he considers all the children in his house…’his’. Meanwhile the woman would consider the children she bore…’hers’. Those other two kids (especially if they aren’t married) why would she consider them her responsibility?

Besides if they aren’t even married and living together that’s another quagmire they are created.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  Ray

Were you “Earl” on the Dalrock site? Same image…. 😀

The issue is again, fear men have today, of getting married in a “government marriage” system (i.e. courts are involved).

Living together is messy for sure, especially raising a child. But that is the result of such an unfair system.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vFzEOL2kbZU

That is a Bill Burr video on this topic… he is the comedian best known of this fear. (Warning – heavy language).

Antonio Zoli
2 months ago

Good article. As hard as it is to pray God pleasing prayers for Tomi Lahren, the admonition at the end of the article for her journey to lead her to righteousness is spot on right (think of the 4th century St Mary of Egypt).
My late father was a WWII era man. He used to say “sweet for sweet”. Tomi, and her girls, evidently attract, or are attracted to, roguish and libertine men. I’d venture that it’s mostly the later, and I’d venture to say most of the men on here agree.
Tomi states unequivocally that it wasn’t just younger men she has ire for. It was also men in their 50s and 60s. While I may need to confess the sin of pride, at 62, with all due respect to Tomi, I was walking the earth long before she and her girls existed.
I won’t listen to neoconservative women commentators (think Lahren, Southern, Stuckey, Owens, Loesch, Coulter, Malkin, Pavlich, Perino, etc.). Not just the parroting talking points, but as Christian Cool has aptly said in his analysis, the embracing of a dark left leaning feminist worldview.
“As a ring of gold in a swines snout, so is a lovely woman who lacks discretion”
Proverbs 11:22

almadison
almadison
2 months ago

this is all about garden variety hypergamy. She and her friends cannot find a high status enough man willing to commit and marry them.

Those kind of men have options and do not seek “career” women.

The men who would marry her…the standard professional type who makes figures would not interest her due to the fact that she makes so much more.

Roosh is correct here. Only accepting Christ can she reign in her hypergamous instincts and accept a man who would love her.

choko
choko
2 months ago

i get the feeling she doesnt ‘talk to ‘ others..but instead ‘talks at’…

Rtalker
Rtalker
2 months ago

The Feminists have won the battle. They’ve destroyed the partnership/relationship between men and women.

So don’t waste your time hoping for a Godly women. Don’t waste your time in Russia or Poland or Vietnam trying to find that foreign wife. Good women effectively don’t exist any more, at least not enough to matter. There are now so FEW Godly women, that it might as well be zero.

The vast, vast majority of women are Satan’s brides, beholden to him. The world is now overthrown by them.

The only thing left is make war on Satan. Real war. That is the future in front of us.

You don’t debate or explain this to women, they will never understand and it’s not your job to explain. Just make war on the devil. Ignore anything and everything that any woman, anywhere, says. It is not their decision any more.

Then…when righteous men have won the world back from Satan, when Western society has gone back to the normal condition of “Men in charge, Women in the kitchen or bearing children” then we can restart negotiations. Until them, don’t waste your breath.

If you think this message sounds extreme…you’re not watching things carefully enough. Take off the blinders and face reality

dudge
dudge
2 months ago
Reply to  Rtalker

They muddy the waters and tempt people away from the Lord, but the root problem is the sin in our hearts. If you are pure at heart, they can do nothing to you.

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  Rtalker

You nailed it! Its not far fetched to say all of them went the devil road . The small number of women who didnt lost the way, who are virgins, beautiful, faithful, intelligent, having right manners, trustworthy, warm hearted, and doesn’t follow the mainstream like sheeps glued on smartphone devices, those women, are nowhere to be found.

The devil and its army of corrupted people, fullfilled their task by dragging the maority of women into the pit of the damned. They all forgot and ridicule the meaning of sex, of bonding. Instead, fornication, Sex and the city, is what the devil preaches. Those fallen people do not seek life partners, they look for genitals, to use for meaningless, narrow-minded, time erasing, obnoxious desecration.
You know the saying: popping someones cherry. Well if the cherry got popped, it popped, no way to return, fusion had taken place, purity is gone, once and for all. 

Holy minded people must conquer the battlefield, defeat the known enemy, the devil himself and chain him down, below hell into absolute nothingness. To end this vileness for good.

weioalnlv
weioalnlv
2 months ago
Reply to  Rtalker

“The Feminists have won the battle. They’ve destroyed the partnership/relationship between men and women.”

  • And you betas let them.
James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  weioalnlv

Infact you”weioalnlv” let them win, with your brainless behaviour. I told you above already, but stomp it on you again, it seems like, you enjoy outting yourself to be a proud, obedient, mindless, controlled sheep, that knows nothing, and is only capable of spitting out gibberish.

Are you lost little sheep? The sheepfarm is not here. On this site you get the chance, to identify your sheepness, and maybe if you have some dignity left, how small it might be, you might find a little more, if you read and think carefully through posts and comments written by people with sanity, clearness and intelligence in mind.

Rtalker
Rtalker
2 months ago
Reply to  Rtalker

Be a warrior for Christ.

Women in positions of political/legal power are an abomination. Women judges are inherently wrong. Women prosecutors or police officers or soldiers are simply wrong. it’s not just that having women in these roles destablizes and degrades society. It’s also that women are honestly terrible at these jobs. Women judges are a total disaster — most of them are radical manhaters and if you look at their records, they throw young men into prison for horrible long sentences for minor infractions, while letting women “off the hook” when they shouldn’t.

Women are inherently parasites. They look for a strong man or big organization and latch on and just drain the blood out. Then there is nothing left for men to do, and men end up homeless and destructive.

Women do nothing to build or grow…except in the home, in childbearing where all their creative passion is focused.

God created them this way. Or call it Evolution if you want. It’s all the same. Women’s natural and healthy role is to bear, raise, teach, and protect children. Mens role is to fight and build and provide for the family. When Satan, the great liar, persuades people to swap these roles, the system collapses almost immediately.

It will take 40 years maybe to destroy Feminism completely, to bury it utterly, and to drive the witches out of society. It might be that NONE of us men alive today will enjoy happy family life…we will spend our lives battling to destroy the Feminist abomination. But we’ll leave a world where the next generation of men can once again prosper.

James Bale
James Bale
2 months ago
Reply to  Rtalker

Women absolutely tend to abuse their position in politcs or legal power constitutions, for selfish reasons no doubt. They ignore the natural order, starting by the time when they got corrupted by satanic behaviour or influence, in a crucial way, and support evil agendas and insane minded leadership devotedly, paying the price with their diginity, body and soul.

If they choosed the wrong road, or somehow tragically ended up on there, becoming and being the devils bride, as possesed ones, they urging for experiencing bad masculine, satanic power inflcition over people by themself, or using men to do it for them by giving them the order. They want to be tormentors, like the devil himself, who they worship, or who they got submitted by, if the wrong sex, demonic bond or influence, or violent act occured on them.
In other words again.

Why do they do this? In most cases evil people possesed by the devil, tormented them, corrupted them, this could be all sort of things, abusing partnes, manipulators such bad environment, media, close people, toxic friends, bad parenthood. Wrong managed goverment and society painting women as the servant, which is a crime, there are not servants! Never were! Sane women are such important to the world, for humanity, they build the future, they bring new life, the next generation. Like you mentioned, women with saneness mind and heart, have to bear a child, raise, teach, and protect children.

All the good and power i contain in me, as a man, where it comes from, this source of might, is my mother! My mother entered marriage with virginity, she beared my siblings, and me, with her purity.
The love and brightness she shared with us, gift us, is everything i stand for.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago

Thank you for providing a site of sanity in times like these Roosh, it’s like an oasis in a desert. I’m a 29 year old woman who doesn’t want to share Tomi’s (potential) family-less future. Unlike Tomi, I don’t hate men and I would happily be a stay at home housewife. However, I don’t think men would like finding out that I have social anxiety, no friends or previous boyfriends, and no job experience. My parents wanted me to focus on getting a degree first before getting a job or boyfriend, so that I could afford to start a family. Now I find out men don’t care if a woman has a degree lol.

A lot of people here in Canada are practically communists, so I feel isolated politically. It’s basically illegal to say stuff like it’s okay to be White. Unless I’m gardening or grocery shopping with a loved one, I never go outside, because I don’t have friends to go to events with and meet men. Is there any hope for me? How do I meet a man who wants to start a family, when churches here are either subverted/pro-Marxist, pro-mask/social distancing, or closed?

Also, I’m Christian, but idk which denomination of Christianity to choose. My dad is Catholic, my mom is Protestant, and both would never “settle” and go to the other spouse’s church as a family, so we all never went. I’ve never been baptized. Would it be too awkward if I just walk into church by myself one day? I don’t even know the normal process for arranging to speak to a church elder.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

Hi Stephanie. Unfortunately, a whole generation of men all over the Western world (including the US and Canada, of course) have been raised to be “beta” (weak, timid, un-attractive to women) and a lot of women were raised to think men and women are literally exactly the same and therefore should like and want the same things (like all men “should want” a woman with college degree, for example). There is simply a mismatch in what men and women want And what feminist society has trained each to believe. That is why Tomi is angry and frustrated ad so is much of the modern world.

Social Anxiety is a real issue. The first woman I truly loved and was engaged to when I was 18 years old suffered from a serious social anxiety problem, to the point she was afraid to drive on highways (due to aggressive drivers), she only met my family in person twice in almost 2 years together, she refused to move away from the area she grew up in due to fear of the unknown.

The good new is that this can be treated. Back in the late 1990s-early 2000s, that was very little they could do other than heavy medication. Today, it is much more manageable with counseling and other methods. 🙂 Do not let that discourage you from trying to meet someone.

Finally, as for Canada, the left here is trying to push the same type of “speech police” they have in Canada, where speech is heavily criminalized. America still has the 1st Amendment which is very important, but the Left is now using social media to create fear and deter free speech (example you say something the Left does not approve on Social Media, they get you fired from your job).

This fight for free speech will continue here for years to come, I am sure. Hopefully Conservatives will get their act together and will begin working on their own platforms for free speech, including social media platforms and ensure anonymity, so Americans (and even people from other countries) can speak freely again. 🙂

You sound like a nice person with Conservative values, so you have a good chance of meeting a great guy and being married and creating a family of your own in the future. 🙂 Do not be afraid of online dating, especially off Christian Online dating websites, you may be surprised whom you can meet there.

Best of luck to you. Do not be discouraged, stay focused on your goals, of figuring out your Christian faith and moving ahead with building a family, these are good and honorable pursuits. 🙂

“Let’s us not become weary of doing good, for we shall reap a harvest, at the right time, if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Thank you so much for your helpful comment, Christian Cool 🙂 I think Americans have a greater percentage of the population who will resist the commies than in Canada (most people are too passive here). At this point I think people need to stop looking for leaders and lead the change they wish to see themselves (as cliche as that sounds), rather than trusting in political parties. Every institution, including political parties that may claim to have the same values, has been subverted. If you look up Yuri Bezmenov videos like this one https://www.bitchute.com/video/v3z4HHz7eoEI/ , he explained decades ago how nations become subverted by communist ideology. Have a nice day 🌞

dudge
dudge
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

Read up about the denominations and then choose the one that appeals to you. After that make an appointment with the pastor/priest. Get his number from the web site. They are usually very friendly. You can tell him about your anxiety, most pastors/priests have a minimum of counselling training, so they should know how to speak with you. He can then set you up in a home group. There you can learn to reduce the social fears in a smaller social setting, and perhaps even find a husband.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  dudge

Okay, I’ll look into the denominational differences. For a while, I put it off because it seemed daunting, and I wasn’t sure where to start. But I gotta start somewhere. I didn’t know pastors/priests had some counseling training, and the small social setting sounds like a good idea. Thank you so much for your helpful comment, dudge, and have a nice day 🙂

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

I second what Michal said… so because my ex-fiancé from back when was so pretty, I easily overlooked her SA (Social Anxiety).

Basically, what Michal is saying is “focus on your strengths”.

You are shy… embrace that and make it cute with soft make-up (say pink blushes, for example and pink lipstick) and dress in a cute manner (trust me, there is a HUGE market for guys who like that). 😉 Long hair and good hygiene goes a long way too.

Keep yourself in good shape and make your life interesting. If you like reading, read books and talk about them with guys. If you stay home a lot, learn cooking and impress your guy with your skills.

Also, consider the market of men you are reaching out to: conservative, Christian, probably you wan someone more outgoing than you…

Being shy is a strength for women in my opinion. I find these ladies irresistible. Nothing worse for me than a loud, annoying woman with a “big personality”.

Again, stay focused and always work on improving yourself. That is the trick of life, always keep learning.

Ps. You are learning about your Christian faith… focus on that as well and get the denomination or type of church figured out. Again, there is a huge market for men who want to marry from churches. 🙂

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Well at least I have long hair and good hygiene, my hair isn’t a rainbow, no tattoos and no bull ring – basically what used to be the norm – so that’s a good start ahead of all those commie women out there 🤣 It’s refreshing to see that men still like shy women. I hope men don’t fall for the media stereotype of shy women portrayed as “boring”/with no personality, or are “old fashioned” (as if the latter is a bad thing). Although I work out and enjoy cooking, I’d like to learn painting or making things with clay (like gardening pots).

“Always keep learning” – that is a good saying to remember, especially if I feel like procrastinating. God bless ✝️ and have a nice day Christian Cool 🌞

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

How old are you, if I may ask? I am asking because age is a big factor in finding a good man/woman for first marriage. One big thing is guys who never marry past age 30 have a really hard time ever marrying (due to their choice). It is much easier to meet and marry in your 20s, I was 22 when I married, so was my wife… after 30, gets much harder, so may wanna think about that when “procrastinating too much”. 😉

Time is like a bank account, you draw from it each day and suddenly al that extra we had in there, suddently we look at the account statement and see it is lower each day and panic. Something to keep in mind. 😉

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.  For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves.” 1 Peter 3:3-5

Some Christian take this as women should not wear make-up or not wear pretty clothes or jewelry. They miss the point: your true beauty should come from within. BUT it is not a forbidden thing to make yourself and present yourself as your very best. You should always put your best foot forward in everything, including your appearance. Men are visual creatures, PERIOD. That will not change, unless you are into blind guys! 😀 lol

(Continued….)

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

Continued fro above (pending comment approval)

Stephanie My late wife would wear perfect make-up everyday, she would wear very nice clothes (not sl00ty, tasteful and attractive), pink lipstick, and cute shoes. Nice splash of some scent to make it perfect (if she was wearing something yellow, she would use some citrus girly scent, if she was wearing pink or red, a Sakura blossom, if she was wearing powder blue, Angel by Thierry Mugler, etc). .

Put your best version of yourself out there, but in the context of who you are, NOT what our corrupt society wants you to be.

If you are shy, dress cute and feminine (think knee or below summer dresses, cute colors like pink, powder-blue, and red, heels). Do NOT dress like you are going for a drunken h00k-up in a club in Vegas. 😉 Know what I mean?

Trust me, there is a HUGE market for such cute/shy women today who have a “traditional look”.

Send out the signal you are a woman of inner beauty who looks good. Be honest that you are more on “the shy side” and chat a bit with guys online and see where it leads.

And do not listen to the naysayers about Christian online dating. Once you figure out your faith more deeply, set-up a profile (pick a Christian site, even eHarmony can work, really, just NOT Tinder type apps). Be realistic with expectations, take it slow as a “fun side project”, not as your main focus in life and it will all come together. We live in a world where it is HARD to meet quality women and quality men. Online Christian dating is a must today.

I met my wife in such way back in early 2000s when Christian online dating was “weird and new”. One guy here on Roosh site says his friend met a woman other side of USA and is marrying soon. Today, Christian online dating is a must, you cannot rely on local churches or people to introduce you to someone you may want to date/marry. Widen your pool of suitable men and keep it real. Scree the guys for fakers and again, keep expectations reasonable/realistic. God will help guide your steps. 🙂 Just do not be discouraged, be realistic and keep the faith.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

After reading more comments here, it makes me happy to see that there are men who do appreciate shyness/introversion in women. I absolutely love cute pastels and the like 💮
The Christian dating site idea seems like a very good idea. It’s just the horror stories that stopped me from ever trying that out earlier. Come to think of it, the horror stories were just about dating sites in general, not Christian sites. It’s good to read that you had positive experiences with that, it put some fears to rest. For sure I’m staying far, far away from degenerate sites like Tinder, where the godless hedonists have accumulated. You’re right, it’s very difficult to meet a like-minded quality potential spouse (for men and women), so it makes perfect sense to try online.

Thank you so much for your help and advice Christian Cool, I really appreciate it 🙂

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Also, I don’t mean to sound cliche, but how do you really, truly know in your heart that you’ve met “the one”?

Antonio Zoli
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

I’m a former evangelical (grew up Independent Baptist, then Southern Baptist) who converted to the Eastern Orthodox Church 22 years ago. I only regret not doing it sooner in life as a younger man.
I don’t give anyone unsolicited advice, but I’d caution anyone to avoid the “entertainment focused” Hillsong style mega churches so plentiful out there.
I belong to an Antiochian Orthodox parish, and I serve in Minor Orders as a reader. I believe you’d find the Antiochian parishes to be welcoming.
May God bless you on your Journey.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Antonio Zoli

I’ll take that into consideration, Antonio. I usually hear only positive things about the Orthodox churches. God bless you and all of us here ✝️

Charlie
Charlie
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

Stephanie, I’ve been reading Roosh with interest since his providential and prophetic conversion, but have refrained from commenting. I’ve read your recent comments here, and think I might have some helpful advice for you. The first major point is to not worry too much about the historical divisions in the Church.

A lot of people (including myself) spend a lot of time and energy thinking and arguing about these issues. I’m a Catholic who converted to Orthodoxy but has since basically reverted.. I could talk with you for hours about Church history – Judaism, the Apostolic Church, the Fathers, Arianism and other heresies, the rise of Islam, the the Schism, the Gregorian Reform, Scholasticism and Gregory of Palamas (Hesychasm), the Reformation in all its permutations, Pius V and Trent, occultism (hermeticism/gnosticism/catharism/bogomilism/New Age corruption) in the Church, the Enlightenment and Modernism (religious indifferentism), Vatican I & II and Orthodox ecclesiological incoherence, Protestant inanity, all of it.. All of it, and for hours unto days.

All of it matters.. All of it is relevant. Except in the most fundamental sense.

Which is your own personal love for and dependence upon God. Start by giving your heart completely to Jesus. Tell him you love him.Thank him for everything. Tell him you are sorry for everything evil you’ve ever done. Seek forgiveness from everyone. Forgive everyone who has harmed you for everything. Let your anger and woundness go, it will dissipate in love. Bless everyone, especially your enemies and those you dislike. Be kind to everyone. Turn your every need and desire over to him, and ask him to take care of you and lead you to where to you need to go, to find those you need to meet. Do this in the morning when you get up, do it when you are sad/angry/sinning/depressed/confused/tempted/sick/despairing, do this when you are happy, do this every night before you go to sleep. If you have a bad day, turn it over to him. “Jesus Christ, Son of God, have Mercy on me a sinner.” Tomorrow always brings something good that heals.

Ask him what you can do to please him, and he will tell you. It won’t be more than you have, and whatever he asks you for will make you very happy when you give it.

He’ll take care of everything else. You’ll get everything you need, and most of what you really want.

Go to every church near you. Talk to everyone. Ask every question that comes to mind. . I say go especially to your local Catholic and Orthodox churches (the OCA and Antiochians are usually the best, if you ask me) and see how they feel. The sacraments are real. They are not works of men, they are Christ’s works. He will come to you through them. Confession every few weeks or months will change you life. The Eucharist, too.

Find them. They’ll help you find him. Don’t be discouraged by human frailty and sin. That you’ll find everywhere, don’t let it distract you. Keep your heart and mind with Jesus. That’s the only thing that finally matters.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Charlie

Beautifully written, thank you for commenting, Charlie 🙂 While I need to do some research on theological differences and church history, at least I know one thing for certain, that my heart, mind, and soul are with Jesus. That is despite going through commie academia for many years. I knew from the start they would try to take me away from Him, and they never did.

It’s not easy to find a church that has not been subverted with modern, progressive “values”, such as the acceptance of sodomite “marriage”. Being against that used to be the norm, yet it’s so rare to find here in trud eauland, but I will keep looking. God bless ✝️ and have a nice day 🌞

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

I got “social anxiety” :). There is no cure in modern medicine or psychology for that. Most likely, like me, you inherited some of that from your parents. What you need to do is spend time on your own without distractions. Pray, talk to yourself, fight your demons. Do not try to fit into society or be like others, accept the fact that most people will not like you no matter what, embrace your uniqueness. There is nothing wrong with you. I personally have found most people with SA as good hearted, compassionate individuals who are afraid that is something horribly wrong with them. You are not worse than rest. God bless and do not worry girl:)

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

As someone with SA you suffer from low selth worth or “self esteem” witch couses you to be overthinker. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is the modern solution for SA but it’s not guaranteed or permanent, your anxiety can come back if something “traumatic” happens. You need to go on fight with yourself. But how? Let me give you some advice, first on behavior:
Do not drink or take drugs of any kind. Period
Sleep as much as you need.
If you drink coffee then slowly cut it down.
Exercise everyday in the morning. Just do it.
Cut off social media and other mindless surfing around Web.
Eat healthy diet. No fads.
Now more important, your inner game:
Take time every day to be on your own with your mind and soul, no technology. That will be scary as you will find lots of contradiction in your thinking patterns, ton of bollocks. You got to challenge this with rational dialogue. I assure you: you are OK, most likely you are intelligent human being that has been hurt many times so you developed victim mentality. Do not blame yourself for that but slowly start to own your mind.
Most of people you are afraid of or social situations you avoid are not worthy. Do not follow the crowd. Do not try to “fit”. Embrace who you are. I do now, every day. In the morning after wake up I say to myself that I will have hard day and encounter wrong people and I will not bend myself to that. Brush it off.
Do not worry about being alone or no “friends” around. If I could tell you how many “friends” I had trought my life and where they are now you would not believe me:). Look for the valor in yourself and others, just because someone is social or attractive doesn’t mean this person is good company for you.
Be patient, it will take a time before you rewire old patterns, be consistent every day.
God bless 🙂

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

Thanks for the helpful tips, Michal 🙂 At least I already do some of those – I don’t drink or do drugs, I exercise, eat healthy, and only have coffee once a day. But I need to work on cutting down the time I spend watching live streams, and spend more time away from any screens (even to check recipes).
My sleeping pattern isn’t too good, I can’t sleep until the morning. I stayed up later and later, researching and worrying so much about things like mandatory vaccines, economic collapse, and a potential food shortage (my Dad says I have to take the vaccine and wear the mask, neither of which I’m okay with). Anyway, it’s more resetting bad habits than fighting them. By now, with the state that this godless world is in, I’ve pretty much written off trying to fit in. God bless ✝️ and have a nice day 🌞

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

Set the time to sleep and wake up. Do not think about vaccines, economy or similar stuff. It will only drive you crazy. Go to interact with people about normal day to day life. I’m on the same cart as you, I have been worrying about world condition, state of man, this and that. Do not think about it. Think about yourself, be more selfish. You can talk to us here.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

Good advice, Michal. There’s no use in worrying about things that I can’t control.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

Michal, having dated a woman close to 2 years who has SA (Social Anxiety), she was drawn to me because I was confident, outgoing, extroverted, and kinda cocky. I was attracted to her because she was a solid 9, 9.5 well-dressed… and she was cute/sweet as heck.

Thing is she told me it helped her to have a man in her life who was such an aggressive, outgoing type. So I don’t know if spending time alone helps or not.

A lot of women do not understand that men often like women who are kinda shy. 😉

Matter of fact, if I meet a girl who is shy and kinda quiet, I feel a lot more interested in her. Men like cute girls, hot/sexy is all good at home, but in real life, a woman who is a little more on the shy side is awesome IMHO.

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

There are women who like more quiet and reserved guys, not necessarily shy. In my opinion the best way to start interacting for someone who got SA is to find safe environment, like church or charity organisation where people are better and less judging. Today’s world promotes extroverion to the extreme, we need more silence 🙂

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

We have been told by media that being extrovert is only way to go. Thing is that people are different. Spending time alone with your own thoughts is crucial for mental health. This is ultimate form of meditation. How can you know yourself if there is constant distraction like in our modern times? We can be in group of people and still feel lonely, we can be on our own and had a good company. Do not live i’ external world.

Christian Cool
Christian Cool
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

Well, I am naturally extroverted and talkative, I am not “faking ‘till I make it”. I embrace that extroverted side of my personality, that is why I encouraged someone like Stephanie to embrace her shyness while putting most positive foot forward. Take what the world see as a flaw and turn it into something positive. In this case, make your shy personality into a beautiful, of quiet spirit style and focus on guys who are into cute shy girls. 😉

The other day, I met this gal working at the florist here in my suburb. She had these cute glasses, pink lipstick, little make-up, but beautiful long hair. Her clothes were jeans and a white T-shirt, nothing revealing (she is at work, after all). No weird tattoos, no weird/disgusting piercings that I could see. I was immediately attracted to her, starting chatting and all and found out she is a bit too into art and sci-fi for my taste and was 21 (I am pushing 38) (is a bit too “Otaku” for my taste and way too young for an LTR), but I was this close to asking her out. I was attracted to the fact she was more shy and simple, cute looks. I get feeling she would have said yes, we chatted for like 40 minutes, so… yeah, even an ultra-extrovert like me was all into this shy, simple cute girl.

Society today embraces slootiness and they mix that with extroversion.

“Loud, Large, and In-charge”. How often do you hear disgusting types glorifying that crap? They sell that crapfest as “extroverted, curvy, and empowered”.

Our society today embraces and values evil. Everything that destroys and denigrates rather than build and encourage. The only thing they egg-on is “you go girlism”, which is more toxic than feminism (and it is sold as “extroversion”). “You Go Girlism” is encouraging women to embrace their worst impulses and behaviors. That is what our social media and entertainment culture pushes on women.

“What people value highly is detestable in God’s sight.” Luke 16:15

Consider this: the Myers-Briggs-Type Indicator test (MBTI) has 16 personality types. 8 of them are Introverted based.

Do you think basically 1/2 of the US population is useless or less worthy because they are more introverted? It is preposterous. This is coming from a raging extrovert here.

Girls who are a bit more shy are cute as heck. Just ask any man serious about a woman. The shyness is such a turn-on in today’s sloot world.

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

Oh yes I agree with you that shyness is attractive in girls but can be also in men…depends how you feel about yourself though :). Problem wit social anxiety is that people who suffer from it got very low self esteem and no one wants to be with someone like that. I’m talking from my expirience. Personally I’m extrovert but also recovering from “victim syndrome” (main couse of low self worth in my opinion). Shyness is incredibly attractive only when accepted by yourself as a gift not vice. Unfortunately, as you pointed this out, modern customs telling us that being shy is something to be ashamed of.

stephanie
stephanie
2 months ago
Reply to  Michal

You’re right Michal, it’s the modern world that makes us feel like there’s something wrong with us if we’re not super extroverted. In grade school I was always asked “Why are you so quiet?” – or worse, when other students would look at me and say out loud for everyone to hear, “Does she (meaning me) talk?” 😂 I laugh about it now, but as a child it really instilled in me the false idea that my shyness is something negative that I had to try to overcome. Now I realize that some people are just shy/introverted, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  stephanie

Nothing wrong with being shy, as myself I personally like quiet and shy girls most, specially when I matured as a men. And this is my advice to you: look for men not boys, real masculine guy will appreciate feminine women. Guaranteed. Just don’t worry too much, you are ok:)

Michal
Michal
2 months ago
Reply to  Christian Cool

I’m going to make a forum thread about SA soon, it might be helpful for many readers to counsel and support each other. I belive lots of Christians have this problem now…and how to blame them if whole western world has gone into madness of secular fuckery?

Outdoors
Outdoors
2 months ago

I wonder if Tomi attracts “wrong kind of men” because she so desperately tries to look artificially sexy? Like all younger women try to. Unless, of course, they try to look like hideous monsters.

I am 13 years older than Tomi, and when I was at her age, there was more variety, when it comes to being “goodlooking woman”. Everybody knew that those wo really, really hard tried to look sexy, had issues with their self-esteem and father relationship (that’s where it all comes from, you know). The rest of us were pretty in many different ways: “girl next door”, or “tomboy”, or “sporty-outdoorsy” (that was me), “bookworm” (also me) or maybe “romantic”. We did not try to be hot: we tried to be the prettiest version of our true selves. Very convenient for men, I assume. They actually knew ’bout our looks what they were going to get.

Nowadays everybody looks the same: slutty and artificial, and obviously you men make the (right) conclusions.

Some years ago I read an article called “The Death of Pretty”. I cannot find the original post, but another page has little quote of it:
https://ladiesagainstfeminism.com/2013/04/13/pretty-versus-hot/

It would be interesting to hear male opinions of that. Pretty vs. Hot? What do you gentlemen really prefer? Would you prefer your wife to be hot? Or like Caesar’s wife, above suspicion?

Ray
Ray
2 months ago
Reply to  Outdoors

A good answer to that is how the Bible described Rachel….beautiful in appearance and form. In fact a lot of a woman’s beauty does come from the inside and it’ll manifest on the outside.

Rob Banks
Rob Banks
2 months ago
Reply to  Outdoors

This.

As a relatively young man, I can’t stand the artificial plastic look that passes for “hot” in the modern world.

Here’s an unpopular opinion: Makeup is for prostitutes.

In the old days, makeup was seen as being for prostitutes. Not something a lady would wear.

I mean, it’s called “makeup” for God’s sake. That literally means it’s fake and not real.

I have never seen a woman who looks better with makeup/dyed hair/tattoos/piercings (or any other body modification) than without. MAYBE earrings (if they’re small and not obnoxious), but that’s it.

Rob Banks
Rob Banks
2 months ago

So, in other words, modern feminist woman is angry at men.

Only this particular woman happens to be famous and “conservative.” But really she is just one more feminist who hates men.

In other news, the sun rose this morning and will set this evening.

Rob Banks
Rob Banks
2 months ago

Yeah, because violence and murder is the answer. I’m sure Jesus would approve.

What are you, a Fed trying to get Roosh and his readers to promote and/or commit violence?

If you want Jews dealt with “like termites and cockroaches” (i.e. killed), then lead by example. Put your money where your mouth is. Otherwise, STFU.

Yash Yadav
Yash Yadav
2 months ago

Oh my God!
What!?
Men not committing!?
How could they do this?
.
Well what happened to your favourite word “choice” now huh????
You said now you have the “choice” to bear children or abort them,the “choice” of having sex with one man your whole life or swallow the whole football team’s semen.
Your “choice” to have sex outside of marriage.
Then you bitches turn around that “feminism is about equality of sexes” to support your shitty liberal agenda but the whole world knows how false is that.
.
So if you have the choice,men do too!
This proves that women need men,not the other way around.The Bible is right.
God is right.Woman was created for man,man wasn’t created for woman.
Of course he is right.He made us.
.
Now the thing is I don’t live in the West,I am from South Asia…and these leftist bitches in my country have also started with their “muh independence” crap.
Patriarchy is just a facade here.
Coupled with the smartphone,women in my country are oversmart then they have ever been.
And no,the men in my country are not tyrants.This effing leftist media paints my countrymen as such.