How To Turn A Lifestyle Weakness Into A Strength

A few months ago I announced that I was moving into a Rio slum. Here’s a comment left by a naive reader:

Hey Roosh… I’m Brazilian and I would strongly discourage you to stay where you are… I have lived for five years in Rio and never had any problems personally. But I’ve always known how to avoid trouble…

As for having a place to pull chicks… Good luck having a middle class Brazilian hottie following you into the favela…

I have brought home a girl who lives in a million dollar mansion (her father is a renowned doctor), a soap opera actress, a stage actress, and an American girl who was an “international executive,” among others. Not only did each girl make more money than me, but they lived in a much better area of town as well.

When I read that comment I kind of laughed, because he must have not read about the ease of which it was to get laid when I lived in my dad’s basement. In the end it comes down to how your present your situation, so here’s how I introduced my favela in Rio:

Do you know the Dona Marta favela? I live there, in basically a shack with eight other people…

Yeah I have my own room. My room is nice actually—I have a nice bed, a desk and two fans, but no air conditioning. The rest of the house though is pretty… rustic.

In front of the favela there are these policeman with huge war guns, and they always have their fingers gently caressing the trigger as if they want something to go down. Sometimes I see them walking around with pistols, and this one time I saw a cop with a gun in each hand. Actually the other week they stopped and searched me. I’m lucky that nothing has happened to me so far.

(Notice how I casually presented my room as a place where comfortable sex could happen.)

Curiosity gets humans to do crazy things, like wanting to visit a favela. Spin a tale of danger or something different and people will want to learn more. After my favela spiel most girls straight-up tell me that they are “curious” about visiting. If they don’t then I slipped and got too lazy about hyping up the danger factor.

The commenter above used logic to say why a well-off, pretty, and other successful women wouldn’t want to come to a shack, but I swear when I say it offers me absolutely no disadvantage. In fact, I’m pretty sure it’s an advantage (for casual sex purposes). Every girl knows the shitty apartments in Copacabana or Ipanema, but a favela? I’ve framed it like I’m giving her an opportunity to visit the slum. Hell, other tourists are paying money to tour the damn things!

My Danish roommate, on the other hand, chooses a boring angle when discussing where we live. He says, “Oh but it’s very very safe. There is no crime or anything.” There is nothing special about living in a safe slum. After a short while I got better at painting it in a horrible light, telling the girl not to bring a lot of money in case we get robbed and also not to dress “like a rich person.” And they listen, asking if they should bring identification in case we get stopped for a random search. When we pass the cops with the big rifles and the girls tell me they’re scared while squeezing my massive bicep, I know there is an 90% chance I’m getting laid within minutes.

When I lived with my dad, there were three cases where I had no choice but to bring a girl over. There I framed it in a way that she could only come if she was quiet because I couldn’t get “caught” by my pops. I added that she had to be careful not to trip over any of my brothers toys on the floor, especially the fire engine with the loud siren, lest she wake the entire family up. It was like we were in high school again and I’ll be honest: it was exciting. I was 29-years-old at the time.

There is always a way to spin a perceived negative to be fun, exciting, or dangerous, to be a different experience than what she is used to. The worst thing you can do is hide your situation or make excuses for it, because that alone will decrease her attraction for you more than living with your parents or in a favela.

I guarantee I could get laid if I lived in a homeless shelter as long as I smelled fresh.

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If there is one that that separates you from other Pickup artists, it’s this ability you have to get laid despite what would appear to be poor logistics.

My friends in college park sometimes found themselves in similar situations. They figured out a way to have sex with girls in their car by picking them up and driving to the very top of parking garages at night.

But they had decent car, you live in a favela.

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The essence of Game. “Framing” your situation. How you see yourself and your life is how others will see it.

To be honest i actually got more girls when i was poor. I think cause my attitude was so ” i don’t give a fuck” in those days.

Remembers girls don’t react to logic, they react to their emotions. If you exite them you can get them, no matter your house , car, income, etc.

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oops,

“exite them” = excite them

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Remembers girls don’t react to logic, they react to their emotions. If you exite them you can get them, no matter your house , car, income, etc.

I agree, but it’s hard for guys to understand.

We’re too logical.

The G Manifesto
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Good work Roosh.

Just wrote a data sheet on the subject:

Player Myth #4080: The Need for a Dope Crib

http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2010/03/player-myth-4080-the-need-for-a-dope-crib.html

– MPM

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That commentator should check out Roissy’s post on that Miss Mexico chick who got arrested with drug lords. Those well-off chicks crave that danger.

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damn, wish i had some lifestyle weaknesses so i could turn them into strengths

Willy Wonka
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Sadly, when I first graduated college and was broke for a couple years, I used being broke as an excuse to not go and meet girls. It took me some time to realize, why should I give a fuck? If chicks will still fuck me when I’m broke, who am I to stop them?

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I guarantee I could get laid if I lived in a homeless shelter as long as I smelled fresh.

Right on Roosh. That’s your next challenge. I say do it for a few months, then write a book about it. Brilliant idea. If you really want to go crazy on this, come to downtown LA, and make a home on Skid Row (area contains one of the largest population of homeless). Plenty of bars and cafes nearby to pick up hipster gals. You won’t even need to smell fresh.

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Long time fan of the blog, had to come outta lurk mode to comment Re: homeless pickup…

I successfully did this off and on while living out of my car in multiple cities throughout the west coast and parts of the southwest (guess that’s not homelessness in the purest sense). It is totally about maintaining a positive/exciting frame on the situation and bringing them into your reality…plus having a gym membership for showers/working out.

Matt Savage
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Oh man, I’ve been doing it all wrong. Whenever I talk to a girl about my neighborhood, they almost always say something to the effect of, “Isn’t that place dangerous,” in which my response is to usually reassure her that it is no longer a shitty neighborhood and actually is quite nice… damn, I should have seen the error in my ways… next time I’ll play it up as a war zone and see what happens.

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Willy Wonka
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@ Aggressive Indiffernce
Man, I’ve been thinking about doing that… living out of my car and hitting various cities and using the gym membership to shower/work out.

Although, even in this scenario, I would still need some money coming in, to at least pay for the expenses of owning a car.

If you don’t mind me asking, what’d you do for money during this time frame?

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No doubt dude!

Moved back in with my pops for a year to help him pay his mortgage — living in the UNFINISHED basement with the water heater, washer, dryer and tons of boxes in the corner.

Still swooped. Never a problem. I remember not telling one girl before hand though, and at like 3am as we were going down stairs– you shoulda seen the look on her face when we opened the bedroom door — it was cute 🙂

Of course, she quickly forgot …

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@Willy Wonka

I had a modest savings and did odd jobs along the way (an online business would’ve been perfect even if it only brought in a few bills a month). My only expenses outside of the car/insurance/gym were phone, occasional storage, gas & food…the rest went to hanging out.

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Thanks Roosh, I’m about to move into a rather difficult neighborhood in Bogotá and was thinking about it as a problem to bring girls, you actually put things on a better perspective, and I agree 100% (I have done too the “living with parents” thing a success rather than an obstacle)

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Your massive biceps?? doubt this blog was written by Roosh himself, reveal yourself imposter! 🙂

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You have also just explained why it’s so easy for firefighters and cops to pull girls, long as they don’t blow it by saying something dumb or being too eager. I tell my brothers all the time that all they have to do is just be aloof and make sure they don’t get too fat on the job.That inherent danger angle works!

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slow 80’s clap for roosh.

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From another Brazilian: I believe you have screwed beautiful girls in your flat, but they are crazy bitches all, doctor’s daughter included.
Normal, decent middle class girls dont go to favelas nor fuck Americans casually. They want boyfriends.

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@19

Although I know Roosh exaggerates in his stories, I don’t agree with saying that girls who screwed Roosh in his flat are crazy bitches.

The idea of “good” and “bad” girls is ridiculous. Women in general have fluctuations and I have seen my fair share of friends anyone would classify as “good girls” acting pretty crazy. Having sex in cars (pretty dangerous in Recife) or dating 2 guys at the same time.

It all depends on the moment, as we say in Brazil “A ocasião faz o ladrão” (the occasion makes the thief”.

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Don’t know why folks are THAT surprised.

Roosh already said these chicks were already into gringos to begin with.

It’s kind of like the “dorky white guy” (zero game) dating the Asian chick that’s “way out of his league”. If a chick is THAT into you, she’s into you and will follow you to the ends of the Earth.

But things like this will never happen for you sit around assuming it’s impossible.

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Agreed.

A few years back, I spent nearly a year jobless and broke. For months there was an eviction notice pinned to the front door of my apartment, which smelled of dirty feet and unchanged cat litter.

I could (and did) speak at length about the immediacy with which I could loose my car or apartment, the money I owed, the legal trouble I was in. I did it in a way that suggested unpredictability and adventure, not helplessness.

I was definitely a bad boy, and not “courteous” in the slightest. I was looking over my shoulder for the dude who was coming to take my shit.

My bartenders forgave unpaid tabs out of a mixture of pity and this-place-wouldn’t-be-the-same-without-him-ness. At several bars.

I was not in a good place, but when it came to women, I didn’t give one solitary fuck. Result? I pulled. Never “got lucky”, but if I thought to myself that this weekend would be a good weekend to have a ONS on Friday followed by one on Saturday, my chances were pretty good.

I pulled only certain types of the city’s women (one weekend I spent the night with two women, each of whom had a pet hamster, kept in a small cage on the kitchen counter in the girl’s efficiency apartment), but I was able to stay out of bed with the beastly element of the female population. I would chub out today at the naked sight of any of the girls I bedded.

Think about it: when you drink for free, your landlord doesn’t have the sack to toss you out, and you’re getting laid, what message is the universe sending you?

In part, girls have the strangest buttons, and during this period, I learned how to push them all.

I spent a few years getting my life back together (I was pretty fucked up, and decided to pursue some of the benefits of being a good boy); they were pretty lean times, pussy-wise.

I’m just now in the process of willing myself to voluntarily push the buttons that my former lifestyle and personality pushed effortlessly in my former life.

It’s working. It=aloofness=game.

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roosh i am curious about your time living with your dad, because i am in that situation now.

presumably most of the time you went to her place, i am wondering how you brought that up, or more accuarately, how you got them to bring it up…
when you don’t want to go back to your place, at the end of the night you cant really use the standard “you have to check out blah blah, come back to my place” so how do you go about getting to her place instead?
i have been lucky (or just naturally skilled) so far and have been getting invited to her place but im sure that the streak will run out, or i might meet a girl i absolutely have to bang that doesn’t have her own place or some shit

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thanks.
it is a temporary transition (weesh economy + bogus college degree= no good noncriminal job for me) and if a real date is happening, then like you said, not really going to put her off. i was talking about for one-nighters. those tips are good, i will try them out.

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One summer during college, when I was back home with the folks, I also had a key to a place me and my friend had which was basically a small studio apartment in his grandmother’s garage.

Nobody was actually living there, it was just a place we used to hang out. Occasionally I would meet chicks and take them over there to bang them. Most chicks knew I was in college and back at my parents for the summer, but I do remember completely lying to this chick, who happened to be a stripper. I told her I lived with my GF and we had a kid together, so she couldn’t call me or ever come over, but I could bang her in the studio apartment. She was down for that. I don’t even know why that worked, but it did. Fuck it.

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roosh why dont you just post photos of the girls you say you fuck? you talk like a superstar of sex….where you arrive girls are waiting for you.

you are just full of shit and all this americans who read the craps you write are so inocent stupid that make me fell sorry for then.

90% of the girls you say you fuck only exist in your dreams…you are good writing what stupid people want to read, but your true story its just plain idiot.

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buy roosh books, hes a good story teller, he will write everything you want to ear adn you finance is trip… this guy its not inteligent hes just sorrounded by stupid people….is readers.

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as a matter of fact if you all want to learn how to fuck brasilian girls you should act like the locals who dont lose time with stupid tactics and blab bla bla…brasilian girls are smarter then all americans toghether, they fuck americans to get your money, your green card or anything in between who offers then more security… its not your bla bla bla american stactics who fuck latin american girls…its your passaport and money… you waste to much time and fuck few girls cause you talk to much …you look like a girl roosh… are you gay?!!!!

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Mick@ Posture Brace
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That’s living the life man 🙂

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Hey Roosh, want to make a quick fortune? Replace “getting laid” with “closing a deal” in everything you’ve ever written and market your books as sales training manuals. Your excellent advice is seamlessly portable.

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Crap, wrong article.