Warm Up Before Approaching Women

Let’s say you sit in front of a computer all day without talking to anyone. Then at 6pm, I ask you to go to a happy hour that will have a few opportunities to talk to women. How will your first couple of approaches go? Well, there’s a chance you won’t even take advantage of those opportunities. Your mind will not be primed for social interaction and the testosterone draining effects of computer work won’t even perk up your dick. You’ll come up with fancy excuses to not even try, or to wait until the weekend.

Now let’s say you did a different routine. You lifted weights in the morning, setting a personal record on the bench. At lunch time, you went to Barnes & Noble and picked up a magazine with bikini babes, giving you a 25% boner. You then did two approaches that went okay but didn’t result in a number. Once back at work, you had a five minute chat with the slutty HR gal, catching glimpses of her cleavage. At your desk you took breaks every 30 minutes to explore deep fantasies of sex. Then as soon as you got off work, you called a friend and talked about the approaches you did at lunch.

If you were to hit that happy hour now, do you think things would go differently? How would the first couple of approaches go?

In Lublin, Poland there was a ladies night on Wednesday. This is how I prepared for it:

  • I nurtured my morning boner by thinking of girls I’ve had sex with in the past, but I didn’t masturbate.
  • I went to the coffee shop in the mall that is right next to a popular girls clothing store. I got a seat where I had a clear view of all the female clientele. I stared, lustfully, at the pretty girls coming and going.
  • I did one or two approaches in the mall after coffee shop time.
  • I hit the gym and stared at girls wearing tight aerobic clothing.

When I went to ladies night, I was ready like a motherfucker, even when rolling solo. My dick was my wingman. Sometimes my very first approach hit.

Consider an approach session to be a symphony that starts when you wake. The warmup gets you ready, the actual approaches are the climax of the movement, and finally your results (number, kiss, bang) brings you back down to a hopefully satisfied mood. If you think the game starts with your first approach, your warmup is garbage. You’ll be rusty with desire that is too weak.

You know you’re doing it right when there is almost no anxiety when you start with the actual approaches. In fact, the approach is just a drop in the bucket in the entire process. It’s what you did before that first approach that will determine the bulk of your success.

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Gavin Madden
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Going out alone is something I rarely do. I will usually head out with 1 -3 friends. the conversations we have are enough to get me in the mood to make approaches.

I actually can’t think of the last time I went out by myself, but I could imagine hitting the bars solo straight after a boring day at the office to be quite the mental challenge.

Gavin Madden
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You still watching episodes of Seinfeld before you head out, Roosh?

I’ve started doing that even though I usually head out with friends, get’s me in a sweet mood.

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Basically live your life as a man…and use the situation to your advantage.

If you get your mind going…openers just flow out without thought. I literally started a conversation with a gal because I found a golf club that was in her general vicinity.

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Beautiful, beautiful. This is exactly my issue these days. Stuck at work 8-5, M-F. Leave work after having very little social interaction with any attractive females. See cute females on my way home from work, but never bother approaching — only think about it. Realized the other day I need to get “switched on.”

Thanks for this, mate.

Sphere
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Essentially what you’re describing is immersion and total commitment. Often the difference between success and failure.

dc
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i read this morning in the newspaper:) that you re in my town..hit me up if u want me to show you around,etc.

cheers.

Anon
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Come back to America where fat girls are encouraged to be fat instead of worrying themselves with their physical image:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/thigh-gap-surfaces-teenage-girls-image-obsession-18805729

Long live the gap.

the emperor
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Does no-one ever find that the more psyched up you are, the more fate conspires against you so that there are no fit girls at the club/bar that night, or that they have especially strong bitch shields up?

Its only on nights out when you are reluctant to go out, and have to dragged along by your friends, that you end up pulling. I know this doesn’t make sense but I’m just going on empirical evidence here.

Can anyone explain this phenomenon?

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I find reading about other people’s approaches on the forum or elsewhere in the manosphere always gets me pumped up enough to go daygaming.

Like Gavin says, I go out with my two best mates and it’s that much easier after a blowout to laugh it out if you have someone else to laugh with.

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*i like this post*

The gig I have in luxury hospitality is my practice.

Most guests are pleasant, while others with negative attitudes will seemingly go out of their way to make someone else miserable, at all costs.

As I am directly involved with their experience, making it a positive situation is the goal. I find that the most important things are selecting the correct words and tone of voice to use with each different guest.

Then I take my mental notes at the end of the day and review them so that I can always create good energy in approaches, no matter what the type, girls, potential clients, people I should know…

Cute girl doesn’t think I’m her type? Sounds like the man who asked every question about every expensive bottle of wine, before he settles on the one originally suggested by I. Let’s go!

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the emperor, your described-phenomenon is not something I am familiar with

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This technique works similarly to the weightlifting advice known as “greasing the groove,” where you do some pushups, pullups, squats, etc, throughout the day, keeping your muscles & tendons, not to mention your nervous system and metabolism at a high state of readiness.

It makes sense; our social apparatus, the limbic system is just like any other part of a human being; it responds to training, and grows weaker with atrophy.

Plus, “grease the groove” can be interpreted as getting her box wet & ready.

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“My dick was my wingman,”!!!!
Best.Line.EVER!! Instant classic! Thx Roosh, I’m an avid reader. My father told me to visit and meet the girls of the world before I settle down. I live in San Diego, “America’s Finest City”, but I still find it lacking. I appreciate what you’re doing bro, I am inspired…

John Rambo
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“My dick was my wingman”

LOL

Bark Chompson
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Return to form dude, bravo.

earl
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“Sometimes my very first approach hit.”

I’m taking to approaching women is like playing the game “Battleship”. Even on your best nights it’s probably hit or miss…but sometimes you get lucky and get a hit on the first number-letter combo.

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This is very solid advice. Props to Roosh on another gem of a tip for everyone on here.

Chuck
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I guess it can be compared to warming up for a job fair where you gotta deliver your pitch to a million companies (bonus: some of these companies have smokin’ hot recruiter chicks that you’ll wanna ask to join you for drinks later!)

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Matthew Rivers
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Making love is something that I can do. Jumping ship I’m prone to just the same.

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This is a total aside, but do you have any female friends? Have you ever met a woman you liked, not on the grounds of feminine charm, but because of, say, enjoyment of conversation or shared activities? Have you ever met a woman you respect, intellectually or character-wise? Whatever interesting things might be written on that Return of Kings site, and there are quite a few, the tones of rejecting classical liberal tenets reduces the effect of other points of merit. Do you think women who are capable and desirous of pursuing competitive sport or, I don’t know, being a mechanic, should be legally forbidden or agressively intimidated (for real, not crazy feminist definition) from doing so? Is the freedom of people to be themselves, within some constraints, something you wish to take away? I’m asking for real. I’m not trying to get you to make insincere PC apologies to feel secure in getting ‘the upper hand’. I really want to know if these men who are asserting their masculinity and discussing cultural trends, which are interesting, are actual misogynists, not ‘modern’ ones (I took a test in a friend’s psychology class textbook and got a score of sexist toward women, ridiculously, when I am one, because I stated my preferences about treatment in a romantic, not peer, context, and agreed with statements about apparent sex differences- not about their goodness, even, but accuracy), but real ones. Because it sure sounds like it, sometimes, and it’s alienating to me, and probably others. If masculinity must come with the desire to actually subjugate women, then I must reconsider my current beliefs- well, vague beliefs. Though, they should be continually reconsidered anyway. I know lots of guys who are not pussies and who have no desire to subjugate women, as friends and peers, though that doesn’t change their romantic and sexual preferences. That seems more reasonable to me, as is men desiring that cultural forces, with base in government (like school, law) punishing normal masculinity be fought. But, would those non-mysoginist men be less likely to stand up to feminists publicly, so people who do have something else to them…. It seems only women do that, like Christina Hoff Sommers. Perhaps they know the political climate is too intense to. I don’t know. Anyway, that is all. I was just wondering if that website is more a place where angry assholes congregate than where people present ideas, as well as advice on how to get laid.

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I enjoy the process of getting myself into a good mind state. I like to hear about other guys routines as well.

Because I usually drive to my day game hunting grounds, I have learned to warm up in my car..

I play loud crazy music, I scream and yell at the top of my lungs, I recite my favorite lines from movies, I do practice approaches on imaginary targets in my mind, I rehearse what I will say, I talk like a black pimp from the hood, i say sexual stuff that would get me arrested if I said it in real life, I drive fast and aggressive..

When I park my car I’m ready to go..

http://www.rooshvforum.com/thread-14130-post-411134.html#pid411134

My dick was my wingman
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This was an instant classic. Put some stories of what you’re doing with romanian girls smile

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This was an instant genius classic. Put some stories of what you’re doing with romanian girls smile

Anonymous
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A bit sad to read what you life seems to evolve around.

thecaptainpower
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Mental preparation, all the top athletes do it.

I usually just pregame with my crew and put on some music…Gets me ready!

Fluffy McGee
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Even more than getting yourself into social mode, is approaching targets in a social mode. I personally find that if I show up at a party right in the begining, the first few approaches or two are almost always meh. If I show up 30 minutes after the start, this usually isn’t the case, because the women are already in social mode.

Due to this, I usually choose a mediocre set for my first approach, or sometimes just chat with my bros / own the venue to pump up my social standing for the night.

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I fucking love it Roosh. I never really thought about the “warm-up stages”.
The more I read your page and the more I game, game is really more of a lifestyle too

Tom Dane
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Yes, and the constant approaching makes them even more un-approachable.

Jimbo
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To what extent is Roosh or anyone involved in PUA fearful of reprisals now or in the future?

It seems crazy to me but its like this line “I stared, lustfully, at the pretty girls coming and going” is regarded by many as some sort of thought sex crime.

Perhaps Ive just been reading up on it a lot more and so Im bumping into the anti-male sex drive brigade more but do you see this being ramped up more in the future?

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Nicely put, warmup works well for me as well.

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Yep — getting yourself in state is so key. My job requires me to be on the computer, and I work too much. Transitioning from sitting at my keyboard for 12 hours to walking into a lively bar is a tough one… I sometimes prime by calling people up for convos beforehand (including mom, grandma), or go to a “warm up bar” where I have a drink and force myself to make small talk with people and approach anything that moves before going on to the target bar at which point I’m in state…

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I have seen literally hundreds of “sweet sweet innocent looking intelectual head of class” girls that love agresive sex and can’t get orgasm and dump you if you don’t spank them

Alan Lubbard
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“Victorious warriors win first and then go to war, while defeated warriors go to war first and then seek to win”

― Sun Tzu, The Art of War

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It made me wonder if Lublin could be a better game spot than all this Warsaws and Poznańs

Ronan
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As usual great advice your giving here for free! Being in the right state of mind is crucial when doing the approaches. I just started out after reading the Tao of Bad Ass on Tim’s site (timreviews.com/tobas) and finally got social life starting.

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HI ROOSH IS A HANDJOB FROM A HOT YOUNG MASSEUSE IN LINGERIE A GOOD WARMUP? THANKS
Truly I am not trolling, most masseuses won’t rub my inner thigh for 15 minutes straight :/ is it better to forgo the happy ending??

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Just don’t fap for a couple or more days and your confidence, self esteem will just sky rocket.

I usually hit the gym before hitting the mall and again before going out! It just boosts you into a very positive mood and eat healthy. You feel based on what you eat and she can feel your energy! To get a even better boost, I meditate for 30-60 with grounds me and I don’t feel any anxiety at all! Getting a good night sleep also helps dramatically.

Reading information such as this helps gets you into the mood hence why I’m here or watching motivation videos on Youtube! Work out what fires you up and puts you in the best mood!

Dropping a zinc tablet helps boost testosterone (alpha state) which attracts women!