What Else Is There?

Previously: The Thrill Is Gone

“The moment a man questions the meaning and value of life, he is sick, since objectivity neither has any existence; by asking this question one is merely admitting to a store of unsatisfied libido to which something else must have happened, a kind of fermentation leading to sadness and depression.”
-Freud

“[Men] are born for the solid earth, not for the water. And naturally they won’t think. They are made for life, not for thought. Yes, and he who thinks, what’s more, he who makes thought his business, he may go far in it, but he has bartered the solid earth for the water all the same, and one day he will drown.”
Steppenwolfe

I’m sitting on a pile of money.

I have three monthly expenses: cell phone, hosting for this site, and student loans, which are very low (public university). I can pay off those 4% interest loans now but I rather have the cash flow.

I live like I’m poor. I can afford to buy a car but I don’t want one. I can get my own place but what’s the point if I’m not staying long. I never liked dining out. I’m getting close to the level of cash I had before I went on my trip last year, and I barely do any work. At work my manager asked me if I wanted to add some more shifts, but I declined.

I sat on the kitchen table and looked at all the Black Friday advertisements. There’s a lot of things I can buy right now: nicer winter coat, boots, fancy SLR camera, and better laptop. But I don’t need them. I looked through the fliers for an hour and the only thing that got me out the door was K-Mart’s sale of thermal sweaters for $3.97 each. My mom and sister asked me what I want for Christmas and I told them to get me a card. If you said to me I had a month to live I wouldn’t buy or change anything.

What a weird place to be in with no dreams, no goal of conquer.

A few years ago someone told me, “Sometimes it’s better to want something than to have it.” I understand that now. Wanting puts you in an insecure state of mind that distracts you from the big questions which reveal the absurdity of most of what we do. It distracts us from our existence.

So I’ll hit the road again. I’ll have tons of interesting experiences—more than I’m having here, for sure. But without purpose it can be just as shallow to rack up countries like it is women. What’s going to guide me to a glorious end? What will motivate me to get up when I fall? What will make me a better person?

Maybe having a kid would do it. I can go to Brazil, marry a beautiful girl, and try to crack it there. That’d keep me challenged for at least a few years. For the majority of human beings, having a kid solves the purpose problem. But no, I rather remain single. Monogamy to me seems like early retirement from the best parts of life.

You know how when someone is sure to die they put them in a hospice so they are as comfortable as possible? I feel like I’m in life’s hospice. Just fucking around to entertain myself, wishing the clock wasn’t moving so fast. I’m not rich but this is how rich people must feel. It’s a hollow feeling. Not unhappy or sad, just hollow.

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Cold Weather
Cold Weather
11 years ago

It’s winter in DC man. The cold weather and short days get everyone really down. Wait for spring with warm weather, mini-skirts, and sun dresses.

Randy
Randy
11 years ago

Hi Roosh,

Love your blog, man. Keep up the good work and make sure you post from wherever you are.

I just came back from a cool trip to the Dominican Republic and am planning on a trip through South America.

The U.S. sucks so get out while you can.

Good luck.

By the way this kid could be biting your stilo.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28049776/

Anonymous
Anonymous
11 years ago

Yeah staying single is the best thing Roosh.lots of women in their late 20’s -30’s will push marriage right away instead of dating to have fun.Its like you take one out to dinner and she is asking you about marriage before the salad even arrives to your table.
Hollowness?get used to it.It just seems now adays that Im just trying to keep myself “entertained with something”just to out do the feeling of emptiness.or distract myself with something interesting.
Brazil sounds good, but Brazilian women are very Jealous.But what a beautiful counrty.I loved visiting there.
We all are just saving our money these days in these uncertain times or trying to.to bad we cant save our happiness if our life depended on it.

S
S
11 years ago

Are sexy Brazilian girls down to marry us American -Persian hybrids?

The G Manifesto
11 years ago

“It’s winter in DC man.”

Dead on.

“I just came back from a cool trip to the Dominican Republic and am planning on a trip through South America.

The U.S. sucks so get out while you can.”

Dead on again. This is the kind of positive talk that will get you out of your doldrums.

Buy a plane ticket.

– MPM

The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Real Hip-Hop: Shyheim, On And On feat June Luva.

The G Manifesto
11 years ago

Or start taking extacy.

“What’s going to guide me to a glorious end? What will motivate me to get up when I fall? What will make me a better person?”

Deep thought is good, but you are over thinking this.

“Glorious end?”

Who says you get one? If you are lucky if you get shot in a barbers chair or in front of a famous steakhouse.

The rest of us end up in a hole filed with lime.

– MPM

The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Real Hip-Hop: Shyheim, On And On feat June Luva.

Doug
11 years ago

You are in mourning. Mourning your past life. See, the way I see it is that your conquest of all things female has been so all encompassing, that now that it’s not there, if feels like there is a huge hole in your life. It happens to a lot of people. I’ve heard numerous stories about sports coaches and business executives that died shortly after they were forced to retire. Why? Because they weren’t strong enough to find another purpose for their life. The thing is, there isn’t a huge hole in your life… there’s a huge opportunity. An opportunity to go and do something great.

Doug’s last blog post: TMI Thursday: Work Edition.

Kerouac
Kerouac
11 years ago

You are what you make of yourself.

Find yourself a value system. What do you believe in that is positive? What is it that only interests YOU? What are some things you looked up to before but you’ve forgotten about?

This is the important step. Maybe before getting the Girl was the challenge. Now that you’ve accomplished that to a sufficient degree, you may have found yourself in a situation where you’ve forgotten about everything else.

For me, I remembered that I have very many wants in my life, and they are things that can never be sufficiently accomplished, which in effect keep me wanting them even more. For instance, learning to play an instrument like the Piano at a difficult level, learning to play tennis, etc. There is so much in this world to WANT that are not material things. Material things are CHEAP and EASY to get. Life is beautiful, as cliche and cheesy as that sounds, when you strive to attain what is NOT EASY and CHEAP.

speakeasy
speakeasy
11 years ago

You know I find it hard to believe that between this blog and the previous, you still have people suggesting that Roosh chase more ass, see more skirts, travel more, have more fun, go to clubs, etc etc. Do you just not get it?? It’s like telling your friend who has a hangover to just take a few shots to make the problem go away.

The problem Roosh has here is a problem of the soul. Or something from within. It won’t be solved by tagging more ass or seeing more beautiful women, or wandering around more strange streets in cities he’s never been to. The problems of the soul will follow you around wherever you go. YOU CANNOT TAKE A VACATION FROM YOURSELF.

Suggesting that he distract himself with more meaningless distractions as some sort of remedy to his obvious issue, a lack of meaning and purpose in life, is doing him a disservice, and I’m sure he’s intelligent enough to realize that for himself.

To Roosh, I say hang in there man. I’ve gone through similar feelings to what you’re experiencing, albeit for different reasons. It will take some soul searching and a re-orientation of your life and priorities, but you will get there. True, long-term happiness is an inside job and it starts with a change in mindset and perspective and goals. Happiness can be found when you learn to find beauty and amazement in even the smallest details of life. It’s found when you learn to appreciate everything you have, your life’s experiences, your potential and possibilities of discovering more. And having something to live for beyond your carnal needs. It’s found by helping others and feeling you are contributing to the whole to make a difference. Running around in a never-ending goal of more sexual conquests is not a meaningful goal. It will be fun, but it won’t make you happy. And that’s the problem I see with a lot of the guys giving you suggestions, they don’t seem to realize the difference between fun and long-term happiness. They are not the same.

I think everything is going to work out fine for you, bro. You’re clearly an intelligent and insightful guy. I’ve never met you and it’s a bit funny that I’m typing up a lengthy reply to someone I don’t personally know, but I’ve got a lot out of reading your writings since last summer and if I can return the favor I’m glad to do it. Just remember, from an outside perspective you’re actually in a pretty good place. You did what very few guys will ever do. You experienced more women then is probably good for you. Well, that’s not a bad problem to have. Now, you are at a milestone in life where it’s time to grow beyond that. Rather than despair, look at it as a new insight and a catalyst to move yourself forward.

Good look bro!

rooshjr
rooshjr
11 years ago

I recommend reading Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina. It’ll help you find your life purpose,among other things. Hope it helps.

Rajia
Rajia
11 years ago

Just curious if you’re helping your parents out with the bills now that you’re sitting on a load of cash and living in their house.

The G Manifesto
11 years ago

“Do you just not get it?? It’s like telling your friend who has a hangover to just take a few shots to make the problem go away.”

I think that is a great way to get rid of a hangover.

Along with a workout, and if you burn, twist up a J of the G-13.

Followed by a Kobe Burger and a nap.

Works every time.

– MPM

The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Real Hip-Hop: Shyheim, On And On feat June Luva.

Anonymous
Anonymous
11 years ago

# 7,#11,
Nicely put #7 I couldnt agree with you more.After one wins the “Race” then one needs to start a new one.
#11.
I had to move in with my own mother last year due to the economy and loosing a high paying job(50,000-60,000 a year)well it is was enough for my needs im single now.
But I work a regular low paying job and help moms with things like rent and food.
Im 35 years old and had been married before with 2 homes one rental property and cars paid off.
but now adays I have to “face reality”and make the best of it.
Shoot,im just glad I can still eat these days.and have a J.O.B.
I realized its was a humbling experience to say the least but im happy despite everything else crashing down( the economy,the american society)
But getting a new purpose is key.sometimes its a simple purpose like just plain “survival” and being glad to just be alive.

bjd
bjd
11 years ago

What else is there? You’re too smart to fall for religion, nationalism, or materialistic crap.

Helping others? I want to do that in theory, but in practice I usually find it tedious, which I guess makes me a bad guy; but maybe you won’t find it tedious.

Maybe it’s writing, or some other form of artistic expression. I think you enjoyed the process (in the Hemingway sense) of getting tail as much as the tail, it just got old; and it sounds like you still enjoy the process of writing.

Winter Downers
Winter Downers
11 years ago

completely agree. winter in DC sucks, depresses the fuk outta me every year….makes me want to get fat just for tha extra warmth……nah not really. take a flight where the girls are browner and the drinks are stronger.

Ben
Ben
11 years ago

Prozac

KassyK
11 years ago

What about artistic expression by way of creative hobbies? Not material things but real hobbies? Things that give you joy.

Get into film, read more literature, expand your mind, learn an instrument (I think someone else mentioned that), there are so many incredibly rewarding experiences in this world that have nothing to do with chasing tail.

Learn to feel truly at home with who you are…find out what you like besides “ass”…

You love to travel and if you can afford to, go for it. Enjoy the other cultures and feel lucky you do not have to work at 9-5 like most of us.

Also–I know its a money suck but living on your own is a really powerful thing. Constantly living with other people is a drain on the soul as well.

So maybe take that trip to another country but stay away from hostels and get a place. Just you. And live like a native.

Good luck. 🙂

Tampa
Tampa
11 years ago

Can we get back to banging bitches and rolling over hoes?????

This blog has gone to the shitter..

Lets get back to Legs in the air and four at at time?

Anonymous
Anonymous
11 years ago

Go to the Peruvian Amazon and find some Ayahuasca.

The G Manifesto
11 years ago

“Get into film, read more literature, expand your mind, learn an instrument”

Agreed. The best part about doing these things is you can spin them into swooping more girls!

– MPM

The G Manifesto’s last blog post: Real Hip-Hop: Shyheim, On And On feat June Luva.

todd h
todd h
11 years ago

you wrote a book right? and you’re finishing another.
you’re a writer. that’s your calling. your goal/objective: writing.
keep at it… embrace it. “what else is there?” open your eyes amigo. the world awaits you. start traveling again if that’s what fuels you. and write about it so those of us stuck at a desk can share these experiences…

justme
justme
11 years ago

Neo’s answer is much more profound than most people realize.
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Agent Smith: Why, Mr. Anderson? Why do you do it? Why get up? Why keep fighting? Do you believe you’re fighting for something? For more than your survival? Can you tell me what it is? Do you even know? Is it freedom? Or truth? Perhaps peace? Yes? No? Could it be for love? Illusions, Mr. Anderson. Vagaries of perception. The temporary constructs of a feeble human intellect trying desperately to justify an existence that is without meaning or purpose. And all of them as artificial as the Matrix itself, although only a human mind could invent something as insipid as love. You must be able to see it, Mr. Anderson. You must know it by now. You can’t win. It’s pointless to keep fighting. Why, Mr. Anderson? Why? Why do you persist?

Neo: Because I choose to.

Gabi
Gabi
11 years ago

then come…

James G - Expat Rock Star

I was at a similar point about 8 years ago. Some bread in my pocket, and extremely unstaffed with life, like I was just floating, almost like not even existing.

So I sold all of my stuff and moved overseas, first the Middle East and now I live in Southeast Asia (Bangkok, Thailand and Jakarta, Indonesia). It was the best move I have ever made…

I can honestly say that I am now happy and fulfilled everyday without exception

James G – Expat Rock Star’s last blog post: Traveling Working Gals in the Middle East.

todd h
todd h
11 years ago

READ: MAN’S SEARCH FOR MEANING.

BY VIKTOR E. FRANKL