What Manning Up Really Means

I noticed that you never hear a young girl telling a guy to man up. The demand is always coming from girls over 25, sometimes much older than that. I think I know why this is…

A woman’s desire for men to “man up” is inversely correlated to the number of dating options she has.

The more men she has in the pipeline, the less likely she’ll care if a guy mans up or not. Do you think a hot 21 year old co-ed, who is getting more attention than she can handle, who has guys desperately trying to wife her up, really notices that men in Western society are withdrawing from the marriage game? Things couldn’t be more peachy in her world because of the nonstop attention party she’s enjoying.

But all parties come to an end. The young girl will make the decision to pass on many suitors to perpetually live the Sex and the City lifestyle. When she turns 30 the wrinkles around her eyes are no longer easy to hide with Covergirl, and guys suddenly become more lazy in trying to get her out on a date. They are not contacting her after she puts out like they were before, even though she made them wait three full dates before opening her legs instead of three hours. They’re not so eager to introduce her to friends. The attention she gets on OK Cupid is good for only a temporary confidence boost since 99% of the guys messaging her are lower quality than what she could get in the past. Something is off, but since it definitely isn’t her, since she has done absolutely no wrong in her life and made no poor decisions, what must have happened in the previous six years is that men became boys. There is no other logical explanation.

She has fond memories of being 23 and wanted by every guy without having to do any work on her part. But even though she’s now more cultured, more traveled, more intelligent, more polished, more cuntish (in a way that female authors argue is attractive), none of that is hooking them like they did before. She remains oblivious to the fact that age and beauty matters. She sincerely believes that suddenly men have lost interest in being men. The sad truth is they have simply lost interest in her. She decided not to get on the ship when it was boarding, and now it has sailed away, never to return.

This is what manning up really means: for you to accept that she was a party slut in her early 20s while in her physical prime. Manning up means to forget her past, her mistakes, and the opportunities she passed on. Manning up means to commit to a “strong” woman who has read a lot of books and dined in many restaurants that got positive reviews on Yelp. Manning up means chasing older women who have been pumped and dumped dozens of times. Manning up means decreasing your sexual opportunities by not learning game and not traveling to countries where you can get better women. Manning up means marrying a spinster who has shown no signs she would be a good mother. Manning up means committing the rest of your life to an entitled woman who will let herself go and care only about her career accomplishments, not her appearance, and definitely not your happiness.

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Tampa
Tampa
8 years ago

Pretty much the sad truth when it comes to women these days. I still perplexes me how women see nothing wrong with waiting until their mid 30’s to find a husband. I guess they haven’t read much up on fertility. Talk about risking it all to find for the possible home run. It’s laughable.

George
George
8 years ago

In a culture where most women are thin, then having a few wrinkles in her thirties will be a major detriment. However America is an obese nation and the hot 23 year old will still get male attention well into her thirties and forties if she is “just” fat or slightly less than fat.

The amount of fat women with normal looking boyfriends and husbands is ridunkulous in America.

The divorce rate wouldn’t be so high in America for women in their thirties and forties if they still couldn’t hook male suitors.

Solo
8 years ago

Dear Roosh and readers and commentators

We must ban together as brothers black and white, Asian, blue etc. Put our differences aside and put these entitled Slores down. Entitled Snooki Slores are becoming the norm this is not acceptable. Even single mothers think they deserve a Top Notch dude and have this entitled attitude! If the tide doesn’t turn, it’s gonna be bad. For white guys take it from a black guy who knows. Do you wanna deal with entitled single mothers? it’s already fucked for black men but you white dudes still have a chance to stop your women from this bullshit.

1. No dating entitled Slores (even if she is hot,)
2. No dating entitled single mothers and wifing them up (why The fuck would you take care of someone else’s kid who ain’t even taking care of his own?)

If not feminism is gonna fuck you in the ass like it did to the black man, where single black entitled mothers are looked at as “Queens”. And will try to shame you if you don’t date one.

Written

By a “Frustrated black Man”

Don Dressel
Don Dressel
5 years ago
Reply to  Solo

coming from a white man you said it brother! You are right!!!!!!!!!

red knight
red knight
5 years ago
Reply to  Solo

You have said it all my black brother. I am an asian and I agree. No matter what my race is, I am after all a man, and I stand united with you all.

Eric Korbly
Eric Korbly
4 years ago
Reply to  Solo

I think a tipping point has been reached, I believe there will always be men who are vulnerable to social shaming but, the majority of guys know better than to get married. That’s why such strong shaming tactics are being used. It’s a desperate attempt to save the titanic.

I think it’s more than men are not interested in marriage, men aren’t interested in the energy women demand be invested just to possibly have a relationship. The payoff isn’t worth the expense.

DW
DW
8 years ago

Theres going to be a lot of loneliness in the future for the oldest women of my generation (Millennial). They bought the lie hook, line, and sink her and now they find themselves with no prospects for marriage except to the men they would have scorned in their prime. I wrote an article on this and the topic of manning up not long ago. It’s just another way of diverting blame for making one of the worst decisions of their lives, since they’ll be damned if they ever accept responsibility for their actions and try to WARN the younger women.

jon bon van dame
jon bon van dame
8 years ago

Excellent spin on popular saying! I hear the term manning up all the time. It usually is about manning up to marry if she has your kid though, not manning up to marry with no kids involved.

George
George
8 years ago

I have never heard the term “man up” coming from anyone in real life.

It’s used by female bloggers and liberal journalists to shame men into providing free money to women, but it’s original meaning is about going out there and fighting, playing football, or competing against other men.

Marmot
Marmot
8 years ago

@George: I do hear it as “Why are all men such pigs” though, which is almost the same thing…

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

“Man Up” – Do what I say or I’ll question your masculinity

Proper response: backhanded bitch slap

wolfen
wolfen
8 years ago

solo number 3 is dead on but men are to blame totally for this situation it will never never change men are to weak

Pete
Pete
8 years ago

@Tampa, I think that a lot of women realize that something is wrong with fucking around through their twenties and waiting until their thirties to settle down. Its just that they don’t realize it until they get to their thirties because they drank the feminist kool-aid that it was their right to and men should just accept that. There are two reasons why that kool-aid is still around. The first one is that beta males enable these women to demand this. The second is that older women are too delusional and/or selfish to warn off the specters of their young selves from making the same mistakes.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

To paraphrase Roosh – “Oh you mad cause I’m stylin on you”

Giovanni
Giovanni
8 years ago

100% agree with you Roosh… I still see many guys running behind women though (without getting them) and settle with less they should when they become older. Ah well… I just hope more & more men will get the point of being a man, and use the position they are in, in stead of going for a safe bet in stead of the best they can get.

Odds
Odds
8 years ago

Feminism: Older women trying to keep older men from dating younger women.

virgle Kent
8 years ago

LOL there is so much truth in this post, The truth is a woman with real option and her pick of men won’t wait for you to man up or grow up to get with her, she’ll simply pick the best man that fits her at that moment if she’s smart she’ll get with that older guy who has his shit together that the spinster all want but can’t get anymore

flyfreshandyoung
8 years ago

Damn man. Earth, scorched and all that.

Oskar Anon
Oskar Anon
8 years ago

When the lad is right, he’s spot on. Nice one.

CC
CC
8 years ago

Great article, though it’s more admirable that she cares about her career accomplishments as opposed to riding the coat-tails of your success.

M.
M.
8 years ago

@George – it also comes in the form of “Grow Up” said to a man. It’s the same sentiment and you’ve probably heard it, depending on your age.

My hot, 22 yr old most recent LTR used to try to shame me with that tripe all the time since I’m in my 30s and wouldn’t commit to marrying her or getting completely out the game.

Using the knowledge gained here and on Roissy, I dumped her and was deep in a new 21 yr old less than a week later on my first night out.

Lesson: Gentlemen, learn and get out there, and don’t put up with that $hit.

samseau
samseau
8 years ago

And yet, despite how transparent the shaming language of “manning-up” is, millions of men will fall for this bullshit and marry 30 yr olds.

The human race continues, but only at the sacrifice of men who voluntarily opt to be ground into lube for the sake of reproduction.

Lord Rooshman
Lord Rooshman
8 years ago

Isn’t the average age of marriage for women 26?

The stupid women who wait until their 30’s to marry are a lost cause. I don’t listen to what they say and neither should anyone else.

Diomedes
Diomedes
8 years ago

Roosh, great post.

Rich
Rich
8 years ago

Everything here is right. The details are what hits home (the Yelp comment). 2011 marks a changing point for me due to your posts and others (CH, Assonova, VirgilK etc.) It’s not hatred I feel towards today’s woman. Now, it is true and utter pity.

I know these girls as friends, co-workers, and lovers. The confusion and pain in their eyes, as the MAN section in their LIFE PLAN doesn’t follow the directions, really hits at 33+. When seeing that girl you sweated just five years ago, you don’t even consider her with interest.

Those wrinkles around the eyes at 29 seem to frame the beginning panic. The thinning skin at the cheekbones, those wrinkles which appear at the bottom of the throat, the weird way in which smooth young taunt skin from the butt to the breasts changes from one piece to a bunch of barely perceptible slight bulges.

My work Christmas party was tough. I noticed guys were not talking about previous years “hot” co-workers anymore. Those women stood in key high traffic areas waiting for attention most of the night. The wives of male co-workers, aged from 30 to 50, no longer ask me if I’m serious about the girl I brought. The male co-workers tell me their wives does not want them hanging around me anymore.

This red pill, it does bring you happiness in knowing the real rules. No one really discusses the costs though. You can no longer look at women the same. That hope, that you have when first meeting a girl, that she may be different, is no longer there. You know which of your female friends are doomed to being lonely. They ask when men will come. You can identify every reason why your current lover will never make it past the current level. What are the personal costs in knowing the next two moves? Rich, 37 yo male. There is no going back, and no wanting to, but there are clear costs.

Piano Keys
Piano Keys
8 years ago

Brilliant Post

this line in particular is so true, “Manning up means to commit to a “strong” woman who has read a lot of books and dined in many restaurants that got positive reviews on Yelp.”

This is Church Roosh.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 years ago

Have you read Why Men Marry Bitches? I saw it in the library yesterday and skimmed through a couple of seconds. It seems that she argues in favor a female equivalent of game, and even steals game concepts like shit tests, claiming the men use them to test a woman’s confidence.

Bongo
Bongo
8 years ago

FYI: very thin women wrinkle faster and those who stay thin through years of yoyo dieting or smoking turn into hags FAST. Now I don’t advocate finding a fatty. What I mean is that if you’re looking for a woman for the long term its better to find a normal BMI woman than one who is rail thin. My cousin married a Russian when she was 25 and he was 37. Sounds perfect and it was when she was this thin and tight young thing. She’s probably barely 105 pounds, just like the day she got married but now at age 35 she looks older than he does.