What’s The Rush?

Achievement is no longer good enough. In American culture, you must achieve within a rapid period of time. Become fluent in a language in three months. Become a PUA in a weekend. Get a six pack in six weeks. Start a successful internet business in a month. Learn muay thai in one month. Instant results! Life hacking! Pareto rule! And so on.

Language learning has become especially distorted. What is the point of language? To communicate with human beings on a deeper level than animals, but instead of learning how to meaningfully connect with others, people want to simply say they “speak” a language, a feat that they can add to their Facebook or Couchsurfing profile. What they’re doing is no different than cramming for an exam. By the time they give up, which they will, their brain will quickly forget what they’ve learned.

I learned Spanish the least optimal way possible, by buying a 60-year-old grammar book I found on Amazon for $5. I went through it at a snail’s pace, did Pimsleur occasionally, listened to some reggaeton, and only practiced when English wasn’t available. It took a year in South America until things started to click, when I was learning without consciously learning. Because I learned organically, with no time goal, most of it has stayed with me. Give me a month and I’ll be back to my previous level.

Compare that to my experience learning Polish. I took some advice from the internet language gurus and stacked the flashcard program Anki with 1,000 words. I learned 20 new words a day for a month, pushing my brain to the limit. Polish people speak English so I had to contrive situations to speak Polish. By the end of two intensive months, Anki said I “knew” about 500 words. Fast-forward seven months later, and I can’t even tell you 20 Polish words off the top of my head. They are gone because I rushed the process by using a method that humans don’t use to naturally learn languages. In the meantime, I neglected the fun of learning one word at a time and then using it in a live situation, all so I could convince myself I memorized 500 words.

A lot of guys do the same thing with game. They decide on 10 approaches a day and then after a month they get burned out, because what they essentially did was spam game, cramming like I did with Polish. They would have been better off if they did just one approach a day for a year. Their learning would have been sustainable and turned into a habit. They would have carefully analyzed all their approaches. The occasional surge is welcome, especially when your crave an intense experience, but otherwise what’s the rush? Are you an impatient child that begs for a new toy, only to get bored of it after an hour, or do you want a new skill to be part of you for years to come? Is your hobby true or is your hobby trying out hobbies?

Don’t cram for your goals. Take your sweet time so you enjoy the process that it takes to arrive at something you want, because if you don’t enjoy the process, I promise you won’t stick with it. In fact, taking a long time to reaching your goal is a built-in check to finding out if you truly want it or not, because if you must accomplish it fast, that means it’s not something that you want to make a part of your life. You’re setting a fast goal to motivate you because the actual process doesn’t fit your nature. You just want to say you did it, so you can brag to others that you hit the goal.

You should enjoy each approach, regardless of your game level. You should enjoy each workout, regardless of your body size. You should enjoy learning each new foreign word, regardless of how bad your vocabulary is. There’s no rush. Take your time and enjoy your hobby, because the goal should just be the afterthought, something you may even occasionally forget.

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Ruxman
7 years ago

If i’s not a language then it’s learning the acoustic guitar. Everyone wants to strum wonderwall or some jason mraz shit these days in the hope to cram it in during the wind-down of a party.

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

SECOND COMMENT!!

Ziltoid
Ziltoid
7 years ago

Loved this post Roosh, perfectly summarized.
Been thinking about this for a while, and now I know it’s definitely time to make some changes both to how I approach game and other areas of my life.

People these days are so obsessed with the destination at the expense of the journey, and everyone seems to think change and growth should be this big cathartic event where you become a new person overnight… The generation of instant gratification.

Laguna Beach Fogey
7 years ago

Good advice. Enjoy life.

DdR
DdR
7 years ago

Ahh, the Tim Ferriss way of things: you must learn everything now, now, now, so we can then move on to the next thing to master. Only an American could come up with the perversion of mastering everything now, whereas that mastery is ephemeral.

Life is long. Enjoy the few hobbies that you may be good at. I had a similar experience with learning German as Roosh did learning Spanish: I lived abroad there a year, matriculated to a German university, and slowly came to master the language. It took me four months for things to start clicking, and by month nine I was speaking fluently. I savored slowly mastering the language, taking a word that I heard, looking it up, and beginning to incorporate it into everyday language. I still speak it daily and really enjoy conversing and writing in German, probably because I enjoy the language and I took my time to learn it.

What are you good at? I know that dudes who play the guitar get disproportionally laid more, but if you don’t enjoy the guitar, then you’re wasting your precious time on Earth.

My loves are surfing, skiing, languages (German right now), lifting, and cooking. I’m still not a master in any one of those, but I enjoy practicing them every day.

Mike
7 years ago

Great post as always Roosh. You hit the nail on the head.

thecaptainpower
7 years ago

Most bodybuilders peak in late 30s, even early 40’s…..

arafat scarf
arafat scarf
7 years ago

Good post. Learning a second language is like going through puberty. There’s really no comfortable way to do it.

uncle
uncle
7 years ago

hats off for this.

samseau
samseau
7 years ago

Great post. You can apply this example to anything. People are always trying to get through life so fast, but only women have a clock to worry about.

Eisenheim Mindcrusher
Eisenheim Mindcrusher
7 years ago

Great post bro.

When i was younger i was one of those “knowledge eater”. I mindless devoured all kind of philosophy books, history books, and so on just to say that i read “Kakfa and Dostoievsky” for example… But it was mindless, i wasnt internalizing what i was reading or doing, i was just spamming “knowledge goals” to praise myself like when we finish a game…

Now i changed, i police myself to just do what i trully want to understand or achieve, and i do that without rush as you said. Now i read like 10 books on a year, and just watch movies or documentaries that i really want to, and for sure im internalizing better things doing this way…

On the age of the information the fight of the wise man should be to reduce the amount of junk and mindless information you see.

Sticks
Sticks
7 years ago

same goes for banging women, what’s the rush, if it takes one date, two dates, three dates, just let it takes its course, and you will enjoy the moment better than trying to force the situation.

nguyenimproved
7 years ago

another useful roosh post.
roosh’s advice is often contradictory to what other bloggers say because the guy’s a scientist and always challenging hypotheses and he’s now successful enough that he’s not scared to rock the boat with his findings.
it’s weird i find myself mulling over your findings during the day. usually thought provoking stuff.
noone’s infallible but a lot of the shit on this blog really resonates.

nguyenimproved
7 years ago

@11 yes there’s a difference between reading a book to say you have and digesting it slowly like a fine Persian meal.
he wasn’t the sanest guy but mein kampf’s author the austrian painter had something to say about the difference between knowledge/ history etc that was learnt as we learn trivia or memorize dry facts and the actually STUDY of history/ philosphy and how we could apply them to life.

Quintus Curtius
7 years ago

Great point about the languages. I have always thought–and have said it in previous posts–that the language books from the 1960s and even earlier were better than most of the newer ones. People want to masturbate over the mechanics of learning a language, rather than actually learning it. They want to know about the language, not the language itself.
The Nintendo generation, man.
Nowadays, it’s all about flimflam, bells and whistles, and such.
Nobody wants to roll up their sleeves and pay their dues.

JB
JB
7 years ago

Best way to learn a foreign language is to watch TV shows with English subtitles (if available, obviously.) You get idiomatic use and cultural context all in one.

C.J.
7 years ago

Agreed. Everything nowadays has to be tailored to the short attention spans of the population. No one wants to take the time and do it right, whatever “it” might be.

I read an article recently that posted an 8th grade exam from like 1914 and the questions asked on there the majority of people couldn’t answer. I’d say humans are getting dumber not smarter.

Harland
Harland
7 years ago

Hey, Anki does, in fact, work. It places words in your long-term memory. It’s not magic, it’s just a replacement for flashcards that you used to make with index cards and magic marker.

I think flitting from country to country and language to language is the problem. You can’t just study for six months and then stop, language acquisition doesn’t work that way.

Raj
Raj
7 years ago

Man I did this with guitar and am a pretty bad ass player (can play Maiden and Megadeth solos by ear).

I hated college-my Mom brainwashed me to go and I have 2 degrees but the truth is I pissed away my 20’s being a pro student at douche bag schools with no party life. I wish all this game knowledge had been around when I was 16 or 20-and when I read the forum and see a kid who’s 16 out gaming his ass off it makes me light up inside with joy. Iv’e edecided I ain’t going out like no bitch and am gonna game hard untilI get that area of my life handled. Already between you and Ross Jeffries teachings Iv’e done 150 approaches and no longer am afraid of approaching. My mid game is shit (but at least Iv’e gone from walking after scared after opening to being able to hold a 5-20 minute conversation on a good approach) and I wish you’d write more on what to do after opening.

Also-
the more I read your blog and go out I can see what gruesome monsters American cunts have become. Their are shit loads of 6’s and 7’s out here acting like theyr’e Penthouse Pets which is comical. You shouldv’e seen how this 6 rejected me-she wasn’t that hot and I found out she was from Orlando,FL (I hate that shit town! Corny ass people who think they are so cool. They ain’t shit compared to Miami or Atlanta) but the silly bitch really made me laugh at her arrogant she was-at the end of the day Zionist created feminism and social media (Facebook-that shit site wrecked my nuclear family and will probably cost me $$$ because of the shit bag corny red neck con Libra-that sign is like Orlando,FL to me!!! piece of shit my Mom met on their).

???????????????????????????
wHiCh cITy IN eAstErN eUROPe IS BEsT FOr nEwbIEs TO gAME iN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????????????/

i WANT TO DO A GAME TRIP AND THOUGHT ABOUT A COLLEGE TOWN lIKE TEMPE OR TALLAHASSEE BUT AM REPULSED MORE AND MORE BY ZIONIST BRAINWASHED AMERICAN WOMEN. i THINK A NICE POLISH GIRL IS IN ORDER.

Raj
Raj
7 years ago

CJ-
that true man.

I saw a 5th Grade Exam from the 1950s this Old spook I know had and it was like a Classics Exam from the local U. America is total dumb ass or they wouldn’t take this Orwellian Grey cubicle misery bull shit bunch of candy ass bitches. Anyone that knows history knows that only 3-5% of the Population ever takes any action. Everyone else is just like a Cow in the field going-mooo!

You guys are all smart boys-
Who’s 2.5% of AmeriKas populatuin who bangs you up the ass from the time you arise and eat your GMO corn flakes, drive down the Street under Statsi cams, sit at your Grey Corporate hole alday, go out and see a show or movie/cultural brainwashing, try to make your Federal Reserve Notes mean shit, talk to a plain bitch who thinks she’s hotter than 2 Tera Patrickks???

2.5% owns Americastan’s ass!

PS-
All yuo readers check out-

Smedley Butler-War is A Racket

Fritz Springmeier- Bloodlines of The Illuminati

John Taylor Gatto-Dumbing Us DOwn

Anything by Nesta Webster, Carroll Quiqly, Eustace Mullins, or Ezra Pound.

EJC
EJC
7 years ago

What’s the rush? Because life is short, and you wanna get it all in before you’re dead.

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

Well, now I don’t feel so bad about taking 2 months just to get to lesson 12 of Pimsleur Russian. It’s just so different from our native tongue that I’ve had to listen to many of the lessons twice just to get the material down. That said, it feels great when you’re going through the lessons a second time and everything just starts to “click”.

To be honest, without the help of this cute Russian girl at work I wouldn’t be trying as hard. When I ask for help, she corrects both my pronunciation and spelling (it’s amazing how easy it is to misunderstand the two native speakers on the Pimsleur CDs). She’s taken -naturally- but given her incredibly sweet disposition, good looks, and Law Dogger’s report on Russia, I’m entirely convinced that it’s all worth the effort.

Thanks for this post, Roosh – I needed it.

unpluggedbeta
7 years ago

Roosh, I think you have been misinformed by the language gurus as to what Anki does.

As Harland pointed out, Anki isn’t for learning anything quickly, it’s for studying things over the long term and keeping them in memory forever.

Anki gives you flashcards just before you’re about to forget them; of course you’ll forget words you’ve learned in two months seven months later if you don’t keep using the program in the five months in-between.

I use Anki for all of my courses in college, but not to study for the same semester I take the course. The idea is to keep that information with me forever, and that’s what Anki is good at. It’s the very opposite of short-term.

BetasRUs
BetasRUs
7 years ago

I only go out to game 2 nights a week usually , but my main reason to go out is just to have fun. I think this is something a lot of pickup guys seem to forget with their huge 30 day challenges and such.

Sure you will most likely get good results because of the large amount of women you’re talking to, but you’ll probably lose your soul in the process haha. Talking to girls is just a natural extension of me having fun. I think that’s how I best learn, although I am planning to go on holiday (vacation) and just game every night.

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 years ago

Macro goals are like farming and you have to have patience.

In the heat of battle or approach, you’d better throw yourself into it.