Strength In Weakness is a booklet authored by Bishop Irenei of ROCOR that I picked up in the Jordanville monastery bookstore. It offers a simple but clear answer for those who are confused as to why God allows us to suffer.

The spiritual fruits of suffering

Suffering has the power, despite its origin so often in tragedy, to draw us into a better character of life—and this God permits, for He knows that it can change us.

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Suffering opens the reality of the heart—what is good within it, as well as what is bad and requires healing. In such a circumstance the life of the Gospel is tested and made perfect—for that which is tested is tried, and that which is tried becomes stronger, like iron in the forge, and the weakness of man’s nature is made mighty and capable of bearing the grace of God.

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…suffering befalls us for many reasons and from many sources. Some suffering comes from God, Who rebukes and chastises those whom He loves; some comes from the world; some from ourselves; some from the demons. But whatever its origin, the suffering that we receive in faith is that which can save us.

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St. Maximus the Confessor: “Suffering cleanses the soul infected with the filth of sensual pleasure and detaches it completely from material things by showing it the penalty incurred as a result of its affected for them. This is why God in His justice allows the devil to afflict men with torments.”

Strength through suffering

…in order for God’s power to be made perfect in a man, that man must become weak. He must be rid of the “strength” that resides in his flesh and his will, and learn to be emptied of its illusive power. Then, in a life that is weakened of all its self-possessive fortitude, broken down into spiritual emptiness (often, precisely through physical trials), the Lord fills the heart with a strength that at last has room to reside there.

This book would be helpful for those who are experiencing feelings of despair during a difficult trial, such as a major illness, divorce, or general life crisis. It can give you “fast-acting” medicine to help endure the pain. On the other hand, a “slow-acting” medicine that also helps you understand why God allows us to suffer from a more big-picture view is God’s Revelation To The Human Heart by Father Seraphim Rose.

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Thanks.

Wish there was a lending library through the mail.

I have a post office box.

As affordable as this is, sometimes one just can't swing the expense.

Maybe mailing is same price as purchasing, I don't know.

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This is a great little book. I read it a while back, trying to understand suffering from an Orthodox Christian perspective. St. John Chrysostom talked about suffering a lot. On Wealth and Poverty and On the Providence of God were very helpful in that regard.

I've found it hard to switch to the Orthodox view on suffering, as opposed to the modern idea that suffering is bad and should be avoided at all costs. The modern viewpoint seems to be in the air we breathe from infancy, reinforced by our easy, comfortable, convenient lifestyles.

Suffering seems wrong and unfair when the point of life nowadays is to have the easiest and most fun life possible. It's another example of everything being upside down in this sinful world. It's probably also the reason we whine and complain so much when we have it easier than the vast majority of people who have ever lived.

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If humanity had a great, great deal of its... proverbial together.
A lot of the tragedy & suffering would not exist.

A question readily posed to the atheist; noting the atheist penchant to ask why this or why that?
Also to blame a God they supposedly do not believe in :

In the absence of God, that tragedy should still exist.
Means that tragedy is the fault of man & man alone.

Even with the Sinister influence of Sinister forces.
Were humanity wise enough & smart enough to look beyond earthly pleasures or earthly desires.
A lot of the tragedy & suffering would not exist.

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Purification of the inside precedes purification of the outside. Before the physical corruption of the body is dealt with. The Spiritual corruption is cleansed first.

Then the Perfect Resurrection Body follows.

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"Their suffering is for the purpose of their conversion" - St. Andrew of Caesarea


I recommend attached video by Fr. Peter Heers put out a on this yesterday.

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The Lord chastises whom he loves. We are built to improve our lives and the lives of others, as is natural, but we go too far with this and forget about God - it seems to me as a matter of fact and principle of life - in cycles. The hardest part I think is that it seems so needless, to be quite honest, but greater introspection will show that if it weren't this thing, you'd be complaining about another. And if not, perhaps as Fr. Peter says, your conversion or something to make you think about becoming more holy wouldn't be there.

I'm critical of the modern day and the clown world we live in. If we have hope in the Lord and in eternal life, which is surely greater than anything we've experienced by magnitudes in its glory, does not this defeat having the silly hope of "being born at the right time"? I must say it does. At least we have this gift of faith and hope, however much we complain - the Lord can work with it.

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I've found it hard to switch to the Orthodox view on suffering, as opposed to the modern idea that suffering is bad and should be avoided at all costs.

Being a Slav helps. ;-)

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I've found it hard to switch to the Orthodox view on suffering, as opposed to the modern idea that suffering is bad and should be avoided at all costs.

Suffering seems wrong and unfair when the point of life nowadays is to have the easiest and most fun life possible. It's another example of everything being upside down in this sinful world. It's probably also the reason we whine and complain so much when we have it easier than the vast majority of people who have ever lived.

I find that hard as well. Meaning in pain and suffering, which is completely opposite to the hedonistic life I lived.
I know this is truth but it's hard to grasp for me. It seems to be one of the main mysteries for me.

But it is true, the most interesting people I know went through great suffering. Many of the saints went through great suffering. Somehow it seems that suffering is the mirror that shows what we are at that moment.

And on the last sentence:

It's probably also the reason we whine and complain so much when we have it easier than the vast majority of people who have ever lived.

I don't agree, I know the elites keep telling us: Be happy! You know kids in Africa are living of 1 dollar a month. Your grand-grandparents had hunger in the winter of 19xx, don't whine!

But the complaining and whining I hear of people is mostly of a soul crushed level. When people complain all the time, even if it's on the weather, it's because they are suffering. Many who complain have material wealth, but material wealth doesn't bring salvation.. so what then? This whining is a form of desperation.

The people who are whining and complaining are receiving a gift of grace. Suffering, while having everything. What is there more then Lord? Why am I not happy? I have a house, a car, food, health. Why? Why do I feel so empty? What is there more?

I think whining and complaining is the seed.

In modernism we should act happy, no whine, not complain, you have everything goy! Quit whining.

I think thats false. I think we have less, far less. The amount of broken marriages, child murder in the womb, prostitution, the constant preaching of sin, the sense of feeling lost, the desperation with how the richest fly to yoga and other cultish behaviors, the self help books, many are desperate.

I think there is a true emptiness in the heart that's behind the seemingly insignificant whining of many which Christ longs to fill.

I have had it quite some times, when I ask a person who is whining: "What's up? You don't seem in a good space." That it's the start of a meaningful and good conversation.

And the other way around. I experienced it, which is beautiful. Being seen as a human in your suffering.

The environments that keep repeating how good we have it, that we should be thankful.

I feel that that has been misrepresented a lot. To thankful when we feel good and when we have worldly pleasure.

How about feeling thankful for suffering? Thankful for His love for us? Having faith that he will give exactly what we need, even when we don't see the meaning of it.

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I find that hard as well. Meaning in pain and suffering, which is completely opposite to the hedonistic life I lived.
I know this is truth but it's hard to grasp for me. It seems to be one of the main mysteries for me.

But it is true, the most interesting people I know went through great suffering. Many of the saints went through great suffering. Somehow it seems that suffering is the mirror that shows what we are at that moment.

And on the last sentence:

I don't agree, I know the elites keep telling us: Be happy! You know kids in Africa are living of 1 dollar a month. Your grand-grandparents had hunger in the winter of 19xx, don't whine!

But the complaining and whining I hear of people is mostly of a soul crushed level. When people complain all the time, even if it's on the weather, it's because they are suffering. Many who complain have material wealth, but material wealth doesn't bring salvation.. so what then? This whining is a form of desperation.

The people who are whining and complaining are receiving a gift of grace. Suffering, while having everything. What is there more then Lord? Why am I not happy? I have a house, a car, food, health. Why? Why do I feel so empty? What is there more?

I think whining and complaining is the seed.

In modernism we should act happy, no whine, not complain, you have everything goy! Quit whining.

I think thats false. I think we have less, far less. The amount of broken marriages, child murder in the womb, prostitution, the constant preaching of sin, the sense of feeling lost, the desperation with how the richest fly to yoga and other cultish behaviors, the self help books, many are desperate.

I think there is a true emptiness in the heart that's behind the seemingly insignificant whining of many which Christ longs to fill.

I have had it quite some times, when I ask a person who is whining: "What's up? You don't seem in a good space." That it's the start of a meaningful and good conversation.

And the other way around. I experienced it, which is beautiful. Being seen as a human in your suffering.

The environments that keep repeating how good we have it, that we should be thankful.

I feel that that has been misrepresented a lot. To thankful when we feel good and when we have worldly pleasure.

How about feeling thankful for suffering? Thankful for His love for us? Having faith that he will give exactly what we need, even when we don't see the meaning of it.

I think you have a point on the whining and complaining, that it can be caused by the emptiness of a life without God.

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Excessive complaining is silly and annoying, and most of us do it, but it is most common in youth and the elderly. God's prophets even complained to God, Elijah and Jonah are good examples, the latter even being upset that He didn't destroy the Ninevites.

The only good explanation I can come up with for the subversion of the family and the generational corruption of those who would make good family heads or partners, is that getting married/having children in this current age may end up being more of a curse than blessing. Of course, this is dependent on the participants, but again, one just has to look as to what generally happens in the society - school, law, relationships - to recognize how poorly it "works out" for a large, large portion of people. A good example of this would be the suffering one might endure due to forced jabs on kids, forced stealing of money from marriage, forced sexual manipulation to young kids, etc. It's not widespread (yet, except for the marriage/divorce scam) but it's out there.

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A better question would be, how does Christianity approach the reality of human suffering compared to other worldviews, say, Buddhism or atheism? Or better yet, philosophies such as Stoicism, nihilism and existentialism?

Buddhism presupposes suffering as something to be avoided, and can be avoided by eliminating one's desire (hence the emphasis on asceticism to attain nirvana). But Christianity on the other hand tells the inconvenient truth that suffering is bound to happen one way or another, and even tells people to embrace and undergo suffering. So which is which?

It's easy and intuitive to complain that life is unfair, and more commonly, for people to blame God for everything and abandon their faith. But is this a universal human thought process, or something brought about by whatever popular conceptions people have about God?

I've undergone a great deal of personal struggle with this question, chiefly due to how Calvinism warped my mind into rejecting my own free will, initiative and agency. With everything I've been taught by Protestant pastors and teachers, it felt like there's a cruel twist to Murphy's Law applying to my life as a Christian. It straight up discouraged me for years, thinking that any endeavor I undertake will inevitably fail because of suffering. It took Orthodoxy to clear up the truth on how demons would constantly attack Christians with logismoi and such, and as a consequence the Christian must constantly be vigilant. In the Orthodox perspective, human will and action are given value as being synergistic with God's grace, something I would never learn from TULIP.

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Buddhism presupposes suffering as something to be avoided, and can be avoided by eliminating one's desire (hence the emphasis on asceticism to attain nirvana). But Christianity on the other hand tells the inconvenient truth that suffering is bound to happen one way or another, and even tells people to embrace and undergo suffering. So which is which?

I think it is both, depending on the type of suffering, because 'eliminating desire' also has a proper place in Christianity. Before I became Catholic I used to say (out loud and frequently) "I want to be rich." And I was suffering in order to achieve that goal, by saving and investing a large portion of my income, forgoing lots of fun or enjoyable things that cost money. I also suffered working long hours in unpleasant circumstances with some unpleasant people, in order to have a larger salary.

Now, though, as a practicing Catholic, I have eliminated the desire to be rich. I am even wary of being rich, because of Christ's teaching about the perils of wealth. So God in His mercy has provided other ways for me to suffer.

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A cross post from the Elder Aimilianos of Simonopetra Monastery thread, that's pertinet here:

"God never gives you a Cross without first weighing and measuring it very carefully to make sure that the Cross will result in your spiritual growth.

So don’t think it’s random, don’t think it’s chance, don’t think it’s too much. It’s been very carefully weighed and very carefully measured, so that it will result in spiritual growth and spiritual benefit."

And:

"God cannot be born within us without birth pangs. And the suffering that we experience, whether it’s emotional suffering or physical suffering, these are the birth pangs, the travail, the suffering in our life that will enable God to be born and to grow within us."

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God does not will our suffering, yet He permits our suffering, through our suffering we're made holy.

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