Why It’s Folly To Design Your Own “Lifestyle”

In my mid 20’s I bought the idea that I could create my own lifestyle from scratch, not based on consultations from wise men or guidance from church and family, but from my own desires. After years of work, I successfully created a lifestyle that satisfied the desires I had in that particular stage of my life, but once those desires changed, I was stuck with a lifestyle that no longer served me, and unsure of what to do next.

There are two ways that men design their lifestyles. The first is within their city, where they try on the party lifestyle, player lifestyle, hipster lifestyle, or so on to transform themselves into the person they want to be. The second way is to uproot themselves completely and find their identity abroad using the travel or nomadic lifestyle, partly because they reject their own culture for having faults they perceive are insurmountable.

The need to develop a lifestyle comes from not liking where you are, who you are, or what you have, combined with a belief that the grass is greener. The actual design of your lifestyle is therefore mainly guided by the emotional or egocentric part of you that has desires and aches for something else. Already, I’m sure you can see the folly of designing a lifestyle based on desire, which is transient and can never be fully sated. Many men such as myself used their desires to design a grand lifestyle that included slaying poosy, making money, and traveling the world, which was nice for a time, until inevitably you arrive at a road block where you’re forced to ask, “Is this it?” You reach your goals but lose momentum, feel empty again, and start desiring new things.

It never happens that you ego says, “We achieved our goals and now that’s enough. We can relax!” Having the lifestyle you always dreamed of is not enough for you to stop desiring for more, though of course it’ll be fun for the 3 or 5 or 10 years you didn’t have to think about the hard questions of what comes afterwards.

Why is “lifestyle design” popular?

Lifestyle design has become so popular among both men and women because meaning and purpose have been removed from their lives, particularly god, family, and tribe. Without those, you have nothing to ground your existence on, and begin gravitating towards creating a lifestyle that you use as a program to live, but that lifestyle will not provide you with permanent meaning. In other words, designing and living a lifestyle is mere busy work for the lost soul who doesn’t know exactly what his life is for.

I’m sure you’ll agree that it’s quite arrogant for one man to think that he can ignore human nature and wisdom from men long gone to think he will find the one way that provides the most joy and entertainment for him, and that he will be able to evaluate all the multitude of ways to live, the thousands of foods to eat, the hundreds of countries to live in, and the millions of girls available to date in order to spit out the one correct answer for him that is the most optimal. It’s quite impossible, and I know this because I’ve tried.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t try yourself, but your brain will become clogged with so much information that you’ll eventually be paralyzed when it comes to making decisions, both easy and hard. For example, for the past two years I’ve been completely stuck on where I should live, and no analysis I’ve done has given me the correct answer. This is because there is nothing in my genetics that was designed for me to process so much information in designing my life and choosing the best city in the entire world to live in, yet today we’re encouraged to do so, especially by YOLO cultural messages in entertainment and advertising that show us how having a lot of sex and traveling will certainly make a man happy.

Lifestyles can only create temporary happiness

You’re set up to fail the second you believe that a certain lifestyle will make you happy, because you don’t have the genetic wiring or ability to determine which lifestyle is best based out of the billions of combinations available, and even if you did, you’d likely adapt to it and see diminishing value over time. Therefore, the pursuit of an optimal lifestyle is a foolhardy endeavor that will not give you as much long-term satisfaction as you believe. Unless it’s in your nature to seek out adventure or to be a natural playboy, I can’t personally advise men to engineer their lives in the way that I did.

I certainly feel more wise from my lifestyle journey, and can now sell more books and get more blog hits from all that I’ve learned, but I don’t feel like a “better” or “happier” person. I’m the same man in the same skin whose body happened to pass through these cities and towns and make love with these women and those, but ultimately my essence, nature, and soul remains unchanged.

While I don’t regret pursuing the lifestyle I did, if I had the meaning in my life that my grandfathers had, I wouldn’t have thought that traveling the world and banging hoes would have benefited me. But us men don’t have what our ancestors had, so we think achieving such a lifestyle will benefit us. We fantasize and hope that future trips, women, and money will complete us and make us feel that we’ve arrived, but it rarely does, and all we can do is wonder why.

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An existential ball of nerves floating about a biological soup through space and time. I’m tempted to pipe up and try and suggest a meaningful and consistently fulfilling lifestyle choice but I’d only be pissing in the wind.

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Yeah man. Sometimes when you get weighed down by heavy issues, you just have to step outside and look up at a dark sky filled with stars and remember how small you are and how quickly your life goes by in comparison to the age of the cosmos. Then all of a sudden nothing feels all that burdensome. You could conquer the world yet still be just a speck within speck. Nothing destroys the ego like staring into the face of God or the universe.

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Another way you could put it is that lifestyle is just another form of consumerism that is popular these days: “experience.” And just like material consumerism, the novelty of experience tends to wear off quickly. This obsession with people wanting a certain lifestyle, adventure, or “discovering themselves” is just another phenomenon of our atomized society where every individual is only looking after his own happiness and satisfaction—which ironically diminishes his level of happiness and satisfaction.

All men must strive for a higher purpose that will continue beyond his own short existence. Because otherwise, you will just be a lost soul leeching one pleasure and one satisfaction after another.

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Creating a concrete legacy or an intangible one is a purpose many should aspire to create.

That legacy should ultimately be beneficial to you, your family, and community.

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The problem is it’s all me me me, my lifestyle, my experiences, my wants my needs NOW.

I find all this current talk of existential malaise funny, as if it were anything new. The questions have all been answered centuries and millennia ago; if only people would learn from the past.

You’ll never be happy if your goals are all about satisfying YOUR desires at a point in time. As Roosh found out, emptiness lies at the end of that road. Instead,

1.) have a specific goal that leads to the betterment of those around you you care about (your family, tribe, nation, humanity, whatever)

2.) Create something meant to last long after you are gone.

1 and 2 can be part of the same goal, or mutually exclusive, whatever.

The real problem is that it is absolutely fucking hard; most people are too scared, narcissistic, nihilistic or simply have attention spans too short to look beyond their own lives. Hell at least 80% of humanity can’t even plan ahead in their own lives.

Some extreme examples:
1.) Build a trans-generation family empire that will last centuries – e.g. Prescott Bush, Mayer Amschel Rothschild. (yeah, yeah, these 2 aren’t exactly popular around these parts)

2.) Discover some profound truth or pursue such excellence in your field that your name will not be lost to time – G. H. Hardy, Gauss, James Joyce etc.

You don’t have to succeed – by its nature you aren’t likely to do so in your lifetime. You just have to make progress, and hand over the keys to the next generation. You are just a link in the chain you created – a spark heralding the flame to come long after you are gone.

Reading recommendations:
What is the Good Life by Luc Ferry
A Mathematician’s Apology by G. H. Hardy

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Roosh is going to sell us all out and get a standard job, get married and settle down…i suspect father has laid out an incentive thats too good to refuse.

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Sell YOU out? How fucking selfish are you?

I hope you were joking (I realize you probably were). I, for one, hope Roosh is able to find the right woman and start a family. I would hate to see him grow old alone, childless and bitter, holding onto the “player lifestyle” as long as women are willing to sleep with him.

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Having children and family has been the paramount experience of my life. The day your first child is born, you get “it”. You suddenly understand what your priority and purpose is on this earth.

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Word. While I agree with the bulk of wisdom here, I think there is something to be said for minimizing harm and maximizing pleasure.

On the one hand, I believe that with the right mental state (or whatever our ancestors had), one can be quite happy in almost any environment. I’m very wary of media stereotypes, and while I think North Korea *is* probably a bad place for many reasons, I also believe there are likely some good qualities to life there, and I firmly believe with the right mental state and strong societal framework, one could be quite happy in a life, surrounded by a loving family, with positive, cultural reinforcing institutions there. I say this not as an endorsement of likely one of the worst places on the world in which to live, but simply to show that one can find happiness and enlightenment anywhere (and also to acknowledge that while it’s surely a net negative, there ARE some positive things about society there).

On the other hand, I do believe in ordering one’s life in a way that is most consistent with one’s personality, ethics, and goals. For one thing, the consumerism, the silly left/right politics, the belligerence, the misaligned priorities and awful economic policy of punishing savers and rewarding takers, political correctness, pop culture, and the overall poor physical and mental condition of most Americans makes it a very weary place for me to live. Perhaps if one set out with the clear understanding that things are not how they seem in the west, and to take an objective view of various other societies before picking one, WITH the understanding that a new lifestyle isn’t going to be a utopia, one could be at peace and find happiness. Or perhaps I should just wife up the latina I’ve been talking to, bring her to the states, and continue what I’m doing, living my liberated redpill life and ignoring 99% of what other Americans are doing.

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One needs a mission in life, both in and outside themselves. I’ve found peace and purpose by helping others, volunteering for causes that improve peoples lives or make my community a better place to live.

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having your ideal lifestyle is a suitable mission. most people spend their entire life trying to craft it. “retirement”. As your lifestyle desire changes, so should your goals to achieve it.

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Living in Mexico, I do recommend wifing up those Latinas. However, taking to the States is a different matter.

A few years ago, a nephew from here in Mexico moved to the US for a while, and his wife joined him later. I was talking to her after she returned, about just how disgusting AW are. She agreed, but added that it only took about two years for Mexican women who move there to be just as bad as AW are.

Ignore her advice at your own peril.

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yeah, be like Jeb Bush

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Lifestyle is the new American Dream. Buy lots of extra shit you don’t need to show-off and then do it all over again in five to ten years. There’s freedom in being able to move quickly and travel light. The only roots a bachelor needs are the friendships created on your journey. Guys getting out of College should take heed.

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A while back I heard that one ‘trend’ among the hipster fags & millenials was comparing how many countries one has been to, how many immigration visa stamps etc. Traveling is great but one need not visit a ton of countries to get the experience of different cultures and world perspective.

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That’s been going on forever. Back in the 70s there were insufferable hipsters who had traveled to “India” and attained mystical proportions.

Kisse Ellis
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nonsense. the only way to know and experience a culture is to go there.

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I don’t think that’s a “hipster” thing. Most people I’ve met that travel-brag aren’t hipsters at all. Many of them are working professionals.

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“‘I’ve met that travel-brag aren’t hipsters at all. Many of them are working professionals”

It would also seem that the average american are rather envious of expats, even if the expat has no where near the income as an american with a higher paying job. Whenever I visit the states all my family’s friends kinda are in awe of me simply because I’ve managed to find a life outside the usa. It is not easy to expat and income is low, but I think deep down many americans are finding the banality of the current way of life in America (used to be every european’s dream to come to america, but now no more) to be getting to be too much.

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Just two cents but, devil his due, the irony is that the hipster thing was initially about junking a certain amount of consumerism, it was actually kind of cost effective (thrift store clothes, cheap beer, house parties not clubs, etc.), motivated at least a bit by being a lot poorer at that age than ones parents. Then someone figured out how to sell “authenticity” to trust fund kids and down the hatch.

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It’s been fun watching your journey over the years Roosh. I see you have come to a fork in the road. One path is marked “Fate” and the other is named “Reason”. I can see you’re eyeing the “Fate” path and I’m here to tell you there is very little happiness found on the path of “Reason”. However, choices must be made…Good luck!

P.S. Talk to Quintus first

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Correct, I am stuck at a fork. Fate seems to be pushing me towards martyrdom, however.

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if fate is pushing you toward martyrdom that is because it is a lifestyle you will be choosing – consciously or subconsciously.

All men in all times choose their lifestyle.

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No. It is because social-marxists want to kill him. Not RV’s fault that speaking truth is anathema. Unless speaking truth and hating evil are a ‘life style’ (they aren’t, they’re inherent character traits as their opposite is consciously lying).

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Maybe but your change is impressive. Probably painful at times

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What if you were worked at a factory, lived in a mobile home in Alabama, were sexless, and thought arts and culture meant watching Duck Dynasty, and going to Bass Fishing Tournaments and the Daytona 500? All I’m saying is perceptions vary and at least you’re a high IQ, well traveled, free thinking individualist rather than an underprivileged, dumbed down, backwoods cog in the ugly Mega Corp ran American machine. DC is souless- the evil that place has brought untold millions much suffering (wars, poverty, oppression) and would put a void in any non-sociopaths heart. They were ready to gun down WW1 vets after they fought for their central bank lies in WW1 when they demanded some post war benefits-anybody could write a massive book on all the bs coming out of that place. DC is sick and has got to be some kind of factor in your cumulative perception of things (aka living in that toxic hellhole f’d you up a little like it would anybody).

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Historic points taken – hell, Revolution vet’s got the shaft. Vet’s are historically treated like crap post-war thus the rise of the Roman General-as-politician.

Not sure how:
“What if you were worked at a factory, lived in a mobile home in Alabama, were sexless, and thought arts and culture meant watching Duck Dynasty, and going to Bass Fishing Tournaments and the Daytona 500?”
fits.

So what? Above needs income and chooses his leisures. Those points do not define the man.

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Vets and youth that are being targeted for recruiting need to look hard at
History and wake up. Even a lifelong badass Marine Officer (Smedely D. Butler/”War Is A Racket”) wrote a book in WW1 about what bs the military industrial complex was.

About the small town Southern cliche’- no as men we don’t disparage the value of masculinity in general. Guys from that environment are played as pawns in every war the Wall St. corporate raiders lie America into. I just mean that type of environment and lifestyle is not ideal for social development/game etc and Roosh thinks life is grey/dull etc. I was saying if he was from a place like Alabama the odds are he wouldn’t have received as good of an education and been able to launch from a professional career to full time international game,
Travel,
and neomasculinity blogger.

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I’m not sure what these two “forks” are DM is talking about. “Fate” and “Reason”? But you seem to know.

I am a believer but I do not believe in fate. I believe in a Plan laid out by God, an Infinite-Personal Being whom we “mirror” in both life and consciousness. But I also believe that Plan is undergoing constant modification and adjustment because of the near-infinite number of free choices individuals make every day. God’s will will be done ultimately, but along the way there are clearly many bumps, bruises, twists and turns He did not intend but which He utilizes for His purposes.

As in chess, we make our best decisions and move. Then God moves. God’s move is affected by our move and our move by God’s move. The universe, and God’s plan for it and us, is unfolding.

I believe in reason as the scholastics practiced it as they learned it from the Greeks and adapted it to their Christian faith. There is SO much that Reason can teach you about Faith. Check out Peter Kreeft’s lectures on Thomas Aquinas. In the ones I have listened to he does not get into Aquinas’ catholicism, but his philosophy.

Aquinas is perhaps the MOST relevant philosopher today. He is so unique more than a dozen different branches of philosophy and theology attach “Thomist” to the rest of their philosophy.

Also, if you want to save your life and revive your soul, I would recommend “The Pilgrim’s Regress” and “Surprised By Joy”, both by C.S. Lewis. Also, his fantasy trilogy, “Out of the Silent Planet,” “Perelandra” (the BEST book on the Creation of Man and the Temptation in the Garden, as well as the most AMAZING alien world ever imagined), and “That Hideous Strength”. I read Perelandra first and did not feel I’d missed anything.

“The Christians are wrong, of course. But everyone else is boring.” C.S. Lewis, Surprised By Joy

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@Roosh I think your fork in the road is this:

You’ve come to realize pure evil aka “The Beast” (mainstream media, SJW’s, the PC “narrative”, etc.), especially after the meet-up situation.

You must now either purse “martyrdom” by going all-in against “The Beast” (expand operations – ROK – new books, partner websites, etc)

or

Toe the line in a semi-blue pill manor, while continuing to seek a NAWALT to satisfy your (and all Men’s) biological imperative.

Your gut is calling you to martyrdom, but your “modern” programming and biology is fighting you.

“There are only 2 mistakes in seeking truth; not starting, and not going all the way”

I my self am faced with the same choice Brother and am deciding to go MGTOW and completing my Great Work against evil aka the NWO before I leave this world for the next.

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This comment resonates with me

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The ‘fork’ IMHO is on the one hand, loneliness sucks and full-time warrior is somewhat compromised w wifing up/family.

On the other hand, years in the trenches is exhausting and the Enemy are legion. He’s fought more than a thousand(s) men. Life is finite.
Is the hope of opening eyes and scattered victories in a long war, w no end in sight, worth continuing full-on unto a lonely death?

Roosh has trained many and fought relentlessly. Few have joined him on his hard road. He is 100% patriot to the cause. Should he continue? His conscience and character say “yes”. His humanity craves respite.
Even Cincinnatus returned to hearth and home.

It is time for others to take up Roosh’s mantle, whatever his decision. He is a hero regardless.

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Makes me sad to hear that, Roosh.

I hope that you’ll find the answers to the questions that you seem to ask yourself at the moment.

However, I do miss the Roosh of some years ago, who produced unforgettable things like the Youtube-video “The hard truth about Medellin, Colombia”.

Your tone has become a lot more serious lately, which I guess is part of your journey, but I just miss the “old Roosh” with his Medellin diaries and travel journeys, I couldn’t get enough of them.

Grüße,

Der Weltenbummler

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Can anyone share some ideas about effective community or tribe building? All generations seem to be loosing the vital skill of communication to make human connections to their compulsory abuse of, ironically called, “social” media. Thus, leaving us all feeling alone within the masses.

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Start by having children. All else will flow from that.

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I have 2 boys and want to raise them to be men who follow a lot of the neomasculine ideals. However, aside from letting their father teach them, I find it difficult to learn and find ways of guiding them as their mother. I still feel alone as a parent who doesn’t buy into our consumerist culture and definitely doesn’t adopt the “urban hip parent who is raising narcissistic children” lifestyle.

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Sounds like you are on the right track. All you have to do is be a good mom. As for encouraging masculine behavior the fact that they have a father may be enough. In the end it will just be you and your family. Strengthening that will help them against cultural indoctrination. Social media must be a real challenge for today’s parents. I would suggest some real-world activities such as camping or fishing combined with limiting social media while you are doing it. At times I had to kick my sons off their games and drag them outside. I took them each camping and fossil hunting etc. which was often a lot of work logistically but paid off in good times together.

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Thank you. I remember a lot of what my father did was real-world experiences. At the times, I hated going camping on a cold and rainy day. Today I look back with nothing but love and respect for everything my father did that was unpopular. I just wish my mother would have done more to teach me about femininity instead of letting me fall through the cracks feminism has created. I’m not saying I haven’t benefited from its changes, I’m simply acknowledging the ways in which it has harmed me.

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The way a mother can best raise a son is to respect his father and his father’s and your son’s masculinity. They are men. Your husband now. Your son later. Don’t ever wish they were more like your girlfriends. Call upon your son to be “the man” for you when your husband is not around.

Let your son see you respect his father’s strength, his power, his intelligence, his endurance. Everything you can admire about your husband let your son see you do.

What a gift that will be!

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be a mom.

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Something tells me you are loved.

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Refreshing to hear a woman speak in such a “sober-minded” manner. The first thing to remember in which you have already demonstrated is that you can’t raise them to be men, only another man can, however you can encourage them. Do your best to try to suppress your natural desire to nurture and support them as they grow older. They have to bump their head, get hurt, have some scars. Don’t stifle their adventurous spirit for the sake of safety. This same spirit will allow them create inventions, run corporations, even conquer countries. Be that dose of motherly love every man needs, but not so much they drown in it.

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Church. There’re all kinds from flake to creep. But there are (usually) realists too. These are generally active peripheral to the Sunday only crowd.

Don’t nec. have to Be a Xistian. Sense of morality and some level of “fed up” is enough. Takes time to find fellows, but anything worth doing requires investment/sacrifice.

If Xistianity turns you off think of it as…whatever gets you through it.

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Roosh, I respect your opinion very much, but I have to respectfully disagree with you now.

Ask yourself – would you have been happier if you married some dumb bitch say 12 years ago, had a few kids with her, got a mortgage and a car loan or two, and then had her divorce-rape you and take everything from you?

If that would have come to pass, then you wouldn’t have travelled the world, and you would have banged much fewer women than you did.

Would that have given you more purpose than what you have right now?

You were on the right path up until recently, but now you need to change your path because it’s clearly no longer making you happy.

That is why God gave us dreams. Ask yourself what your dreams are right now. Fortunately, one’s dreams are always there, one just has to reach for them (and not allow distractions to get in the way).

Oh, and Roosh. You never “arrive”. Never. There’s always further to go and more to achieve.

Musicians don’t stop playing because they’ve grown old. Musicians grow old because they’ve stopped playing.

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“would you have been happier if you married some dumb bitch say 12 years ago, had a few kids with her, got a mortgage and a car loan or two, and then had her divorce-rape you and take everything from you”

Of course not, but there’s guarantee that would’ve happened.

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Happiness is a fleeting emotional state. It’s a life style otherwise: superficial status signaling.

Babies and pampered pets can’t even pull it off as a state of being.

Struggle is motivation and the path to wisdom and action. Conversely, lifestyle happiness is the avoidance or denial of struggle (evil, moral outrage, red pill awareness, etc).

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This relatively new obsession with being a 20 or 30-something perma-traveller (or at least the desire to be one) and capturing copious amounts of “flags” while occasionally seeing a pretty waterfall or ten has been the result of three things.

1. Social Media
2. Technology Miniaturization
3. Breakdown of Family and Childbirth

Facebook and Instagram literally bombards people with the notion that everybody seems to be on vacation BUT YOU. Isn’t your life of working and paying sky-high 1st world rents and mortgages seeming like the lifestyle of a chump when faced with this relentless stimuli? Wouldn’t you rather be “that guy” with the gorgeous Colombianas or Brasileiras around his arms, which also changes every week?

Through technology and miniaturization, Laptops and a Smartphone are pretty much the only tools people need to travel nonstop. Banking information, plane tickets, photographs and video, and endless entertainment options are right at their fingertips. Wifi is everywhere.

Children are seen as the ultimate hindrance in taking part in these sex & stimuli filled lifestyles, yet having children and continuing our species and bloodlines is our true biological purpose. We are trading it all to snap the same damn photographs of Machu Picchu, Angkor Wat, and Balinese rice paddy fields that millions have snapped before us. Yet we think we are doing something special.

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Let’s not get carried away here. Seeing things like Machu Picchu and Angkor Wat ARE amazing experiences. And these places draw millions of visitors for good reason. Nothing wrong with getting out and appreciating what the world has to offer.

As for the Instagram photos and FB, we all have to have the common sense to know that we heavily filter our lives on these platforms. Only showing people the highlights. Nobody is going to post of pic of themselves hugging the toilet bowl with food poisoning in some 3rd world country. The pics only represent about 1% of people’s lives.

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Playboy has been in the business of lifestyle creation for generations….Esquire and “GQ” are similar trash.

I prefer Walden Pond. Less is best.

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Interestingly, all three mags are essentially male homo lifestyle guides.

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Read the first chapter on Hinduism and you will understand the path the happiness.

http://www.amazon.com/Worlds-Religions-Plus-Huston-Smith/dp/0061660183

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“For example, for the past two years I’ve been completely stuck on where I should live, and no analysis I’ve done has given me the correct answer.”

the correct answer is that there is no right answer for you. Therefore you need to be able to live in many places at will. Multimillionaires solve the problem easy because they have money to do so: home in LA, apartment in NY, London, house in Paris, home in the Caribbean etc. The solution is easy then. Make more money.

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And: “wherever you go, there You are.”

Not ‘you’ personally. Point being, flitting around doesn’t make one a better man.

I’ve been all over the World. Found it gross for the most part. I learned the West is (or was) the best. People are the same everywhere but more crass where Western mores are not at their foundation.

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Roosh, if life no longer has purpose for young men, what should we do? How do we move forward, especially men in our early 20s, if the odds of us getting any source of meaning, satisfaction or legacy in life are pretty much nil?

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In the beginning was the Logos,
And the Logos was with God,
And the Logos was God.

The same Logos was in the beginning with God.

All things were made by the Logos,
And there was nothing that was made
that was not made by the Logos.

Deeply study what has been said about the Logos and you will be on your way to understanding the meaning of your life.

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You can devote yourself to “God, family and tribe”. I’m not religious, but I’m devoted to my nation and race. Stand for truth and beauty. Let that be the basis of your “lifestyle”.

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It’s all part of the journey, Roosh.

Only by banging hoes and engaging in meaningless debauchery were you able to come to this realization.

Enjoying an abundance of pussy, like money and privilege, can lead a man to see there are more important thing in life.

But to a poor man or a virgin incel, money and pussy are the most important things in the world.

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Yeah, no kidding…I don’t understand how people can make proclamations like this. It only makes sense if you’ve taken the journey yourself and been there and done that. “It won’t make you happy in the end” is such a crock. Who cares, if along the way you banged 50 women?

In order to burn out on a lifestyle, you have to burn out on it. You have to do the things, you have to live. And when that happens, it’s OK. But don’t go around telling other people who haven’t done it that the whole process was meaningless. This is solipsism and shows a sad lack of self-awareness.

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I think you may be misunderstanding the definition of the word lifestyle. One can in theory live a religious, tribal and familial “lifestyle”. However, I would recommend not relying on deeply flawed orthodox ways of thinking to design your lifestyle.

Lifestyle (noun)
the habits, attitudes, tastes, moral standards, economic level, etc., that together constitute the mode of living of an individual or group.

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Only as an older man do I see that the old Lynyrd Skynyrd song ” Simple Man” was describing the best life you could ever hope to live. Advice from mothers, fathers, grandfathers, is almost always right. Old tribal wisdom beats modern thinking every time.

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Yes, but our elders will not understand the struggles of adapting to the modern “instant gradification world” like we do.

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They just told us to stay clear of the world of instant gratification.

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When men lose touch with their tribal wisdom, their women change too. They get vacant. Women in droves have abandoned their nests like smpty mindless bots and become the runaway estranged women who say they have to ”find themself”. Ever heard that one? ”I had to find myself”, like she lost or misplaced something, woops. Those women aren’t home anymore. No one there. Mindless like they always were only the man ceased to superimpose his mind and authority over her. Woman came from the rib of man. She is a shadow of man and also she is energized and illuminated by man.

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I disagree, it’s fatalistic thinking to believe this. My life can be equated very simply to the following ingredients. Creation, non maintainence(as little of it that I have to personally partake in as possible), improvement, wonderful environments, wonderful copious amounts of women(2-3 per day). I live that lifestyle. My ego or whatever you want to call it has said “That’s good enough” It appears to know it’s limits.

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I like Roosh’s writing much better when he stays away from the politics and talks about more heartfelt topics like this.

I’ve always had the dream of “lifestyle design” as well. I’m not logistically ready for it yet but I still see that as a very likely option in the next few years. Whether we call it lifestyle design, location independence, digital nomading or whatever the buzzword of the day is, I think some men just want to be freed from the conventional 9-5 lifestyle and expectations. Some men truly are happier abroad if your culture is not providing you with what you want, e.g. feminine women.

I think that perhaps Roosh went about things the wrong way. He set off around the world primarily for the purpose of sexual pleasure. At a certain point, how many more vaginas does a man have to see? Does it make a difference if it’s 200 or 300? At the end of the day, you won’t even remember these women’s names or what you said to them.

There are many reasons to travel that are more deeply satisfying than just busting a nut, adding a flag to your bedpost and moving on to the next specimen. I think Roosh got burned out because he based his lifestyle too much around pursuit of carnal pleasure. Maybe that was a necessity to keep his business going as selling bang guides was his bread and butter. But I think if a man finds a healthier balance, some sex or even relationships with quality woman in a location he desires and stays long enough to learn the language and develop a social circle, and make some greater longer term goals that don’t simply involve sensual pleasure, he can be fine. Many people do this.

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Agreed. I’ve worked from the internet from over a dozen countries the last nine years and have grown a lot but I’ve also met plenty of degenerate expats who seemingly haven’t matured much at all. Living abroad can be a waste of time or it can be an irreplaceable learning experience. Travelling with the right attitude, hobbies, and goals can allow for a lot more personal growth than living in the same city most of your life.

If you are mobile there are tons of options and there will inevitably be some second guessing, but you have to remember when two options are very hard to choose between it’s usually because both are decent choices. After years of travelling my preferences have evolved to the point where I find it pretty easy to rule places out. If you feel stifled by a massive language barrier or a poor climate you can pretty much rule out the majority of cities right off the bat. Only once you decide what you really value can you make a good decision, and that might take some travelling to figure out.

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It’s hard not to write about politics when it directly affects the lives of men.

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May I suggest reading “Fallen Leaves” by Will Durant. He is a Pulitzer prize winning writer and philosopher who wrote that particular book at age 93. An extraodinary amount of wisdom between those pages.

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That’s a good one; I also recommend his classic “The Greatest Minds and Ideas of All Time.” Durant’s user-friendly writing style has a way of compacting/distilling complex theories into practical, almost magical high-density nuggets.

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This is disappointing that Roosh is starting to go the god route. So we can cite evolution all the time but now claim that the answer is in God and family. This ignores the problems with modern culture and the incorrigible hypergamy of modern women in the age of Tinder and Instagram.

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Well, Bob, if you have a better answer than “the god route”, why don’t you share it with him? Share it with all of us.

I find it strange that you dismiss out of hand, stigmatize even, an answer that the wisest, bravest, noblest, smartest men throughout history have embraced.

Roosh is right about this whole “lifestyle engineering”. We are into engineering a life “style” because we lack what makes life essential.

Meaning.

In a universe without an objective infinite-personal God there can be no meaning beyond the short, limited life of the single individual.

How strange that something so existentially essential to man’s existence was not provided for him by a universe and a planet and a process that provided him with everything else he needed!

If there is no God, it must be as Rust Cohle said so eloquently in that first episode of True Detective:

“. . .[I]n philosophical terms I’m what’s called a pessimist… I think human consciousness is a tragic misstep in evolution. We became too self-aware. Nature created an aspect of nature separate from itself – we are creatures that should not exist by natural law… We are things that labor under the illusion of having a self, that accretion of sensory experience and feelings, programmed with total assurance that we are each some body, when in fact everybody’s nobody… I think the honorable thing for our species to do is to deny our programming. Stop reproducing, walk hand in hand into extinction – one last midnight, brothers and sisters opting out of a raw deal. [So why get out of bed in the morning?]. . .I tell myself I bear witness. But the real answer is it’s always been my programming and I lack the constitution for suicide.

https://youtu.be/hcK-dg3FPRM

Rust denies there is anything objective to give meaning to life. But before he expressed that conclusion, Paddy Chavesky had one of his characters, Eddie Jessup in, “Altered States” (a greatly underrated movie!) express the hope of every Meaning-Seeker; that there IS a real Self behind all of OUR Selfs and it can be found!

“Jessup: What dignifies the Yogic practices is that the belief system itself is not truly religious. There is no Buddhist God per se. It is the Self, the individual Mind, that contains immortality and ultimate truth.

Emily: What the hell is not religious about that? You’ve simply replaced God with the Original Self.

Jessup: Yes, but we’ve localized it. At least we know where the Self is. It’s in our own minds. It’s a form of human energy. Our atoms are six billion years old. We’ve got six billion years of memory in our minds. Memory is energy! It doesn’t disappear — it’s still in there. There’s a physiological pathway to our earlier consciousnesses. There has to be; and I’m telling you it’s in the goddamned limbic system.

Mason: You’re a whacko!

Jessup: What’s whacko about it, Mason? I’m a man in search of his True Self. How archetypically American can you get?

Everybody’s looking for their true selves. We’re all trying to fulfill ourselves, understand ourselves, get in touch with ourselves, face the reality of ourselves, explore ourselves, expand ourselves.

Ever since we dispensed with God, we’ve got nothing but ourselves to explain this meaningless horror of life….

Well, I think that that true self, that original self, that first self is a real, mensurate, quantifiable thing, tangible and incarnate.

And I’m going to find the fucker.”

What a GREAT monologue! One of my favorites!

https://youtu.be/aLYWDYxuKSY

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> if you have a better answer than “the god route”, why don’t you share it with him? Share it with all of us.

Living in science based reality.

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a universe without an objective infinite-personal God there can be no
meaning beyond the short, limited life of the single individual.

Non-sense.
Life is MORE meaningful if you only get one shot. Why would your life
have more meaning if this god of yours exists? That’s such a bleak
view that you can’t find any value in life beyond the idea of an eternal
being observing and judging you.

Roosh is taking the easy way out and giving up with religion.

I don’t want to argue with you too much because while I disagree with your premise, I love your citations and those are among my favorite moments in film. For the record I kind of agree with Rusty Cohle. The leap of faith goes against everything I hold dear about understanding the world.

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Bob, any time I can find someone who can discuss these issues without snark or bile – I’m there!

I understand perfectly you feelings towards the direction Roosh SEEMS to be taking, although I think you and so many others are jumping the gun. Roosh, like all of us, is on a journey and he has no idea what may happen in the next ten minutes. None of us knows what might happen. Although it is true, as C.S. Lewis observed, that an atheist cannot guard his faith too closely, surrender to the enemy is never guaranteed.

You answer that “Living in science based reality” is a valid and adequate alternative to “the god route”. I am left to wonder if you were just being flip or if you really think that “science based reality” can answer any of the deepest needs of the human heart. The truest hungers of the human mind! Science is merely a tool. An instrument for observing the world. On its own it is incapable of telling you what anything you observe MEANS. It can only describe to you what it is capable of observing and what it appears to be and to do and it can tell you NOTHING about any aspect of reality it is INCAPABLE of perceiving.

Most importantly, Science cannot tell you, can never tell any human being, what anything it explains MEANS.

Do you think people who believe in God are not living in a science based reality? Seriously? You must check your atheist arrogance at the door, Bob. It blinds you to too much reality. All I need to do here is list the names of a few hundred of the believing scientists that have lived and are living to prove you wrong.

But even a peasant like Joseph, the foster father of Jesus, knew how and did live in a science based reality. That’s why he wanted to quietly put Mary away when he found out she was pregnant. Why would he want to do that? Because Joseph understood that for a woman to get pregnant she had to first lie with a man and he wasn’t that man. It was only after he was given another explanation for her pregnancy that he agreed to marry her.

Now, if you are a man who believes in God and you are convinced that God has spoken to you in a dream and told you your fiance is carrying Divinity in human form, fulfilling a written promise made to your people hundreds of years ago, you have not abandoned a belief in science based reality if you believe what you are told. Your view of “reality” simply includes a level of reality not currently available to scientific study. More reality than in an atheist’s worldview.

I find your attribution of meaning to life somewhat amusing in it’s. . .not dishonesty. More like it’s sneakiness. You use a word a scientist cannot use when claiming to be speaking scientifically, yet you have told me only a science based reality is valid. You are what could be called, “a bootlegger”. You are stealing from philosophy and religion words you refuse to define or validate and “smuggling them” into your view of life, thereby escaping from the empty sterility of a “science based reality.”

And this explains why you are not, like Rust Cohle, a pessimist. But as regards to both of yours philosophy, he is the honest broker and you are not. You are what Professor Peter Kreeft calls, a “soft atheists” instead of a “hard atheist”.

Nietzsche vs. Camus. Nietzsche is the soft atheist. Camus the hard one. Nietzsche believes one can Will meaning to life and so escapes despair. Camus does not and so considers suicide the only serious philosophical question. He considers this most fully in his book, “The Myth of Sisyphus”. In the end he determines that the Absurd must be embraced and not evaded by any form of suicide (he identifies several). His reasons why, as I recall (I have not read the book in decades. I read it when I was about 20), were weak, but he did embrace despair. Or as Cohle say, “pessimism”.

Atheists love to mock hypocritical theists who live inconsistent with their beliefs in a God of Morals. I, however, love to mock hypocritical atheists who pretend that they can create a life of meaning out of nothing, just as they claim the universe was created out of nothing. Again, an Absurdity.

Well, Bob, thanks for sharing. I appreciate it. I confronted my existential abyss when I was 15 and embraced suicide. But before I could carry it out, God stepped in and revealed to me what I now understand to be the supernatural origin of consciousness. Thinking is NOT controlled by the law of cause and effect. Human consciousness is the proof of God. With it we prove that the physical world is not all there is because thinking is not, cannot be, governed by the law of cause and effect. And from there all of philosophy opens up to you!

God’s best to you, Bob.

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One can’t simply claim that because something is not understood it must be the making of a god, because it presents a flawed circular logic where now you must explain who or what created god. When people didn’t understand the cause and effects of weather they just lazily created gods of wind and rain to explain it to quell their anxieties. To the uneducated, weather systems are just as lacking of cause and effect as human consciousness but in time new discoveries allowed for a thorough understanding of something that was once inexplicable and seemingly supernatural.

As the veil of understanding keeps getting pushed back, religious types just point to what we still don’t understand as evidence of the supernatural but in time the hard work of scientists consistently reveals that it’s really just the natural. Regardless, the burden of proof is on the person making specific grand claims about a particular phenomenon. “I just feel like it’s right” or it doesn’t seem to have a “cause and effect” isn’t permission to pull fictional causes out of thin air with no justification. Aside from it being delusional and unfounded, it just creates new unanswerable questions and gets humanity no closer to the truth.

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I apologize for not answering sooner. Your points are ones I have responded to many times before but since I don’t save my previous comments to cut and paste I was feeling a little too busy to give a proper response. Am still a bit too busy but I will come back and answer ASAP.

My new puppy is looking for a place to shit! Gotta go!

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This! This! This needs to be its own article. Very well put. However, just “knowing” there is a God can still lead us to feeling despair. Look at King Solomon, a man who knew God, given untold wisdom by God, however he still felt that this human life was vapor, smoke, and ultimately amounts to nothing. But there is a difference between “knowing” God and being “led” by God. Only by finding the Holy Spirit through Christ will our lives have true purpose, God’s purpose. But either way, your comment is one of the all time greats for this site, or any for that matter.

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Respect roosh. As a reader of only around 2 years I can strongly sense your change in direction and it is a positive one. Full of maturity and the sort of wisdom that you gain from experience.
A sincere congratulations on the personal growth

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Ok. So basically modern d*ck and h*e has evolved into selfish, narcissistic pricks who refuse to uphold tradition, honour, and history.

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Pretty much!

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Thanks, Roosh. This hits home. I live in a beautiful ski resort town in Colorado…But it doesn’t fit me half the year as it is small in terms of the toxic, local pool of women which are all hippies & the dudes are all losers that don’t care about anything other than snowboarding & getting messed-up nightly. I bought a condo here…so, yea. I am a future landlord.
I am currently trying to relocate to Kyiv for 2-5ish years, which hits on your second point you made.
Seems like every time I find a “dead end” or a personal problem, you write about that exact topic. Thank you.
I actually have developed a desirable lifestyle many men would envy…But where one lacks, another is better, but lacking.

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This article was timely for me too.

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Honest post. Thanks for writing that, Roosh.

As someone who has led a (somewhat) similar lifestyle to you (minus the books and blogging) I found a sublime path to inner peace by looking within, not without. I still play in the outside world (money, pussy…) but do not look there for any lasting satisfaction.

What worked for me was a mongo dose of psychedelics* and then these three books:

http://www.amazon.com/I-Am-That-Nisargadatta-Maharaj/dp/0893860468

http://www.amazon.com/Who-Am-Teachings-Bhagavan-Maharshi/dp/818801804X

http://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808

Psychedelics alone don’t quite do it. Books alone don’t quite do it. Meditation alone doesn’t quite do it. But if you combine all of them (responsibly and with great respect) you might be surprised what you might find.

And if you ever wanted to meet a living wisdom master in the flesh, I can vouch for the following three. True teachers are like finding a needle in a haystack, since the vast majority have vested interests. But these three are about as close to perfect integrity as you will find:

[Gangaji] https://www.youtube.com/user/stillinawareness
[Mooji] https://www.youtube.com/user/Moojiji
[Spira] https://www.youtube.com/user/rupertspira

And while none of the above advocate using psychedelics a prerequisite, they have all used it and admit such tools can be useful. In my opinion, a full blown psy experience is the only way to really “see” what any of them are saying at the deepest level.

*Note I am not advocating that anyone else take a mongo dose of psychedelics. That could be very dangerous, depending on your mindset and setting. I am only relaying what worked for me.

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Hippy/Atheist solution to inability to find God: Take a huge amount of psychoactive substances and start reading reductionist paganism/buddhism or hindu conartist cult gurus.

razz i’m just teasing i get that people have that before and after feeling with this stuff and there’s been good evidence to show it does permanently alter the brain and perceptions which can be a great thing.

Its just when you have faith, this shit is just not needed. especially the esoteric areas where meditation is baked in so to speak.

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No problem on the teasing.

Although I have to fundamentally disagree with “when you have faith, this shit is just not needed”

Faith is too often just another word for fear, especially when it comes to the Abrahamic religions. I grew up in the Catholic system. My best childhood friend even went on to become a high-ranking Catholic priest at the Vatican. I know all about faith. And in the context of western religion it is sadly just a tool of brainwashing and nothing more.

True faith is listening to, and following the hint, of that spark of divine intuition deep within ourselves. Most people cover up that spark, either with worldly pursuits or with religion. Both are egoic escapes. The only path to enlightenment is to drop ALL mental structures (science, philosophy, religion, even mental images of Self) and discover the simple truth of what we really are. And don’t get me wrong – science and even religion have their use – just not for the path of Self awareness.

And while it is true that psychedelics alter the brain and perceptions – I’m not even talking about that either. In the right set and setting and with the right intention, the right psychedelic experience (or 20 years of zen meditation) can open a window to That which is beyond perception.

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I’ve also experienced both sides, creating a lifestyle in the area I was born and moving far away, to my ancestral homeland. In both places I hit a wall where pleasure, comfort and new experiences brought diminishing returns. I’m glad I moved, otherwise I would have always wondered, but I do see the limits of “lifestyle design” when separating oneself from traditions and cultural norms of the past.

The fact that American culture has become so homogenized, globalized and degenerate, has added to the restlessness that many of us feel. If we were alive 60-70 years ago we’d mostly be content to stay where we were born, raise and family and live a “normal” life. I’d still like to have that, but I don’t think it’s possible in the far left SF Bay Area where I’m from. In that instance the lifestyle design element of finding a better environment is sound.

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My 2 cents: Live frugally. Desire everything, don’t want anything. Build a house, plant some trees, have a family. Protect and support your own blood. Have a higher purpose: find a cure, invent something new, create. Spread goodness. Don’t be afraid to love or dream, even if it comes crashing down. Cherish your friends. Enjoy every bite and every step. Be thankful for any hardship, it will only make you stronger. When you’re old and your nephews come visiting, don’t complain how much your bones hurt. Smile. Never forget that death is the only certainty.

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Simple things make your life. That doesn’t mean your dreams need to be simple and certainly not easy. But your basic life it’s fundamentals that needs to be simple. In the end it’s those we’ve touched and what you leave behind that matters. Find your basic purpose push for it and as you said don’t be afraid. If people relationships life beat you down it does make you stronger don’t give up

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Make kids. It’s biological.

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Truly thanks for sharing your personal life experiences to the world for people to know and learn from what you’ve experienced, Roosh.

So… I take it you haven’t really “delved-in” to the “spiritual area” of your life?

If you believe in God, man, I strongly suggest you just read and explore the Word of God in a King James Version Holy Bible. Lord Jesus Christ is the Son of God.

Now you may already know this in in “intellectual knowledge” but DO YOU KNOW GOD PERSONALLY?

THAT’S the difference between a true, genuine born again believer of the Lord Jesus Christ and a unsaved unbeliever who may know of God cerebrally but NOT know God as He shows Himself in His Word, the Holy Bible: http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Bible/1611_authorized_king_james.htm

Please SEEK AFTER GOD Mr. Roosh, I don’t know if you’ll actually look over or respond to this comment, but GOD is trying to GET YOUR ATTENTION.

Please seek ye the Lord while He may be found. Amen.

Sincerely,

Bro. Jed

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Nice article. Reminds me of two quotes from St. Augustine of Hippo:

“And men go abroad to admire the heights of mountains, the mighty waves of the sea, the broad tides of rivers, the compass of the ocean, and the circuits of the stars, yet pass over the mystery of themselves without a thought.”

“Thou hast made us for thyself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it finds its rest in thee.”

There’s not much we need when we search for God within us. Happy Easter season all. He is risen.

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“For example, for the past two years I’ve been completely stuck on where I should live, and no analysis I’ve done has given me the correct answer.”

Men move away from their families to seek money. So if you have enough money until now, live near your family. This is the correct answer.

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Well im gonna get us to Mars and deep space. But first we have to unlock and trudge through the bullshit to achieve our natural human potential.

I’m personally done travelling for now and will focus on my business ventures.

It’s just gonna be another challenge.

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Roosh and his fellow Persian-American Laci Green share basically the same problem: Their respective parents’ miscegenation and migration inadvertently damaged them. Both Roosh and Laci grew up without a sense of meaning and belonging in a land that they had no roots in, and they have tried to fill their respective voids with sexual hedonism.

We can see how well that has turned out for both of them. Laci suffers from recurring depression and has the Thousand-Cock Stare as she approaches 30, in addition to sounding increasingly ridiculous in her videos; while Roosh has apparently undergone an Augustine-like existential crisis that his sexual adventures can no longer distract him from.

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Jeez – everything is about race with some of you guys. It’s as if Soul, human nature, normal human experiences don’t matter if anyone moves somewhere he wasn’t living in 100 years ago or someone fucked someone who was of a slightly different race or culture.

Roosh is growing constantly, changing and evolving all in one lifetime. Most men remain the same until death with hardly any internal movement after 25.

Laci Green became a broken feminist at age 18 and stayed the course. She will run the script.

As far as Roosh is concerned – he can easily marry, have kids and be a happy husband with some occasional side dish on the side. Also life itself isn’t about having the traditional life either. The reason for existence itself is experience and growth.

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My God, its almost as if there are sexually delineated responses to adversity. Men rise to the challenge of adversity and are placed on a path towards spiritual enlightenment, and women let their sexual appetites run rampant then turn to blaming “society” for all their problems.

What did the Greeks say about there being two great tragedies in life? One is not getting what you want, the other is getting it.

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Very interesting view. As an immigrant myself to the US, I can see how lost second generation immigrants are.

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Roosh you seem to be seeking the perfect solutions or nothing. I’m surprised you pursued biology which is sloppy kitchen science compared to mathematics, physics or engineering which is precise and for the compulsive perfectionist. I’ve landed myself in unforseen and unplanned environs and have always made an oasis for myself. It takes an artistic eye to reassemble the components in your surroundings to make a functioning environment that matches your tastes. It takes visionaries with the exacting sciences to rise above the Earth and look beyond and outward with the eyes of your species. But wait, the elites scamper to keep us corralled and Earthbound like animals on a farm plantation. The elites will prove sickly and too inbred to maintain control over man much longer. They will be fescue beneath foot. A new cycle for man will begin within this century.

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I expatriated several years ago. I have a job that enables me to work about 10 hours a week and get by at a subsistence level. I agree with most of what has been said here, especially the part about the limitless possibilities and trying to get the most out of all of it. Right now I’m in a country where I get tons of interest just by being on a dating site and listing my location as in the country. I feel like I “should” be taking more advantage of this but I’m not really moved to. What is so great about empty sex anyways, after you’ve already experienced it. I mean I wouldn’t say no, but at the same time I don’t feel moved to base my life around it.

I’m happier than when I lived in the US, but mostly because I was trying to get away from all the bad things. But what am I going towards? When you go deeper than “lifestyle,” you reach philosophy. All the who, what, when, and how is not as important as the why and the results of your actions. According to Indian dharma there are four stages of life, brahmacari, grhastha, vanaprastha, and sannyasa. So for most people marriage and family life is an important step, just have to find a way to do it out of the US, which I have.

I think the idea of having rental property and maintaining a semi-mobile existence like millionaires do is a good solution for the practical setup. There is still more I want to see. Some of them places I have been to already. I’m sure Czech Republic and Poland will be cool as long as my expectations are realistic and I’m not expecting them to be paradise, which I’m quite sure they are not.

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I hope to do the same, and at least have the opportunity to enjoy more and learn more abroad. Rather than face the same cold, difficult American women and the daily grind of American life, I do want the opportunities that are becoming so hard to enjoy here.

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This article made me sad. Men and women are supposed to form a complimentary partnership. The masculine and the feminine balance each other. It’s natural and beautiful. At the end of the day, we all just want someone to love and to feel loved. Why do we play these stupid games?

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19th amendment causes it. It needs to be repealed

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While I will admit that women do tend to vote with their hearts (and not their heads) as evidenced by their support for democrats (http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/11/05/as-gop-celebrates-win-no-sign-of-narrowing-gender-age-gaps/ ), stripping away our voting rights will do nothing to ease the tensions between the sexes. I don’t blame the 19th Amendment, I blame the cancer that is feminism.

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I find the very word lifestyle to be absolutely loathsome. A life or way of living should not be styled, it should be authentic.

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Walking the earth as a bum isn’t as fullfilling as Roosh thought it would be. Damn, who would have thought that and why isn’t it a surprise?

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Where you live will give you the life style you want. Think long term. Buy a house. Where? In the best school district for best resale value. Why? If circumstances change, you never have to move. If you get married and have kids, you can just stay where you are. Move at least one city away from your friends and family. Maybe it’ll be a better city with more amenities.

But you might say you want to live near friends and love to party near the urban areas. You can still do that while retreating to your quiet neighborhood. Eventually, you do settle down. You don’t have to move because your area is nice and quiet.

You grown up and time to look for new friends. They are where you live now. No need to look far provided that you picked the city with the right racial and professional level you prefer.

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This article is right on, and extremely relevant.

I’ve also concluded (after years of trying to make it work) that lifestyle design is just another form of escapism.

“God,” “Nature,” or whatever you want to call it prefers that you stay and fight for your principles. If you disagree with the dominant culture, then push back and make your opinion heard. Fighting and growing strong is part of the fun.

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“…if I had the meaning in my life that my grandfathers had…” I wonder what meaning your grandfathers found. My grandfathers had their health robbed by the US Army. They went through the hell of war and I don’t think they ever saw meaning in it, though I can’t speak for them. I don’t think one generation has some monopoly on truth. Disillusionment has always existed.

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Fear is stupid. So are regrets – Marilyn Monroe

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Fear is stupid. So are regrets. – Marilyn Monroe

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Excellent post, Roosh. I’m in a similar situation. We never got as much as we have right now, but we can very easily feel empty. Something that helped me is to finally realize that live is finite and, even if we may not know wich “lifestyle” to follow, or at least, not being sure if the current one is the appropiate, we must make sure to not to waste any single moment. At least, once in deathbed, we will make sure to not to have such regret. Reading Seneca “De brevitate vitae” helped me.

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“Wherever you go there you are”

I sort of agree and disagree with your post Roosh. I do think that godlessness ends up in a empty unfulfilled life on the long term, because satiation is not a state that can be achieved by getting up to X or Y point but from some kind of perceived inner spiritual satisfaction.

The whole grandfather’s having it better stuff, well I think people venerate their ancestors a lot without really knowing them all too well, their thoughts or ponderances and rather through their vagueish memories of them when they were small. They may have wished to swap their lives with yours had they known.

Unlimited freedom ain’t great, people don’t have anything to push back against, that’s why faith fills up that part quite well.

But I do think you are overly self critical about your past 10 years and circumstances as you strip the joy from your actions and now only find numbness.

In short, just pick a place to live, that has some kind of link or roots to that which is familiar for you, don’t search for optimal, search with constraints and expect some of them will be unfulfilled.

Next do a seneca, give up some of that freedom financial or otherwise to restart those dormant biological processes that tell you, you have to be awake right now and in the moment, rather than boundless and ephemeral (such is the case when someone is totally comprehensively independent in where he can live, who he can fuck, what he can buy, what he can do).

Third, finding God. I think it’s quite hard for someone to come to faith when they’re doing it from a pragmatic perspective of “I am doing this functionally because I have evaluated that this gives me stability, access to tradition, formality, tribe and family.” That’s not really faith that’s cosplay.

You think very logically, and you look at history and you see how religion has kept man in check awake and alive, and you want to feel like you can revive that within yourself to find satiation. I’m not sure how that method of finding faith will work.

Study the religious books, look at the esoteric edges and find something that awakens a part of you to the unknown.

I think the problem is, you’ve created a pussy paradise for yourself, and it numbs your tastes for any kind of heavenly one. (which is by all the faiths that support that concept, supposed to be something which is better than What’s here).

If you have too much of a good thing here, maybe it feels hollow because you don’t materialistically or hedonistically need anything else, whereas constrained worshippers always have some of the wants you’ve satisfied, still unsatiated in the back of their head, which perhaps they believe an afterlife will tend to in a more comprehensive fashion than they can find here.

Wish you the best of luck, I don’t think you can out analyse your way from this situation but the above 3 may help in providing a start.

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wherever u go there u are

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So after years of traveling the world and banging girls you realized that this lifestyle will not make you happy. Where is part 2 of this post, what will make you happy?

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What’s missing is Jesus and adherence to the Bible. People can do all and everything and yet wonder why that spiritual void is never filled.

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This article is relevant to me. Have the freedom to travel a lot but not giving me great pleasure. Ive already done it all.

But what’s the alternative…waste away in the Anglosphere?

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I’ve banged hottie hoes of all races and from all corners of the globe. Then I got married and had kids. Looking back, having a family and raising children was much more satisfying and fulfilling than wasting time sniffing out the next bang. Even now that I am divorced (after 24 years of monogamy), I do not plan to have a mid-life crisis and go back to the endless pursuit of random bangs. Being in love and committed to a good woman who will bear your children and build a happy home is infinitely more rewarding. Of course, my next wife will be half my age or less and insatiable in the bedroom, but she will only be so with me and no one else. This age-old tradition of being a devoted husband, father and provider for his woman and family is most fulfilling, in my experience. No amount of bang trophies will compare to it, and I mean no disrespect to Roosh by saying that. I did the same thing as Roosh did when i was younger, and luckily discovered the true meaning of manhood on my own. Now I see that Roosh has discovered the same truths on his own, and through his great gift of communication and leadership, he can guide other men on the timeless path to man’s happiness: marriage and family, and to a career that supports it.

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This same blog post was written a couple thousand years ago.

By a guy that did much more than we can imagine, he was a King, had harems and was very wise.

He too came to the same conclusion.

Its here in Ecclesiastes 2:
https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ecclesiastes+2

All those whom have eyes will See.