Why You Shouldn’t Get Excited About A Girl

In this clip I discuss how your emotions should be tame after meeting a girl….

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  1. Hencredible Casanova September 9, 2012 at 12:21 pm


  2. Dirt Man September 9, 2012 at 12:25 pm

    “Cheeseburger of game”, I love it, man.

  3. Crazy Cuban September 9, 2012 at 1:08 pm

    “Don’t get excited she’s just like every other HO” LMAO Epic! Very true none the least.

  4. rivsdiary September 9, 2012 at 1:57 pm

    i’m liking the videos.

    but what’s with the GWTW poster? is it a prop, so girls think you are romantic.

  5. Red Pill September 9, 2012 at 2:17 pm

    Cool. Thanks for doing these.

  6. Miley Cyrax September 9, 2012 at 3:00 pm

    Roosh, you look like what I remembered Rasputin to look like back from when I took European History AP in high school. No homo.

  7. Agent X September 9, 2012 at 4:23 pm

    You’re a funny persian pirate roosh, your advice are gold as the one you guys hide on islands.

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  9. Victor September 9, 2012 at 6:49 pm

    When I get excited about a girl, it actually improves the interaction.
    It’s so rare that I meet a girl who is BOTH beautiful and interesting AND compatible with me and I always let her know that, which has a ‘qualification’ effect.

    Meeting an attractive girl who has no personality is disappointing. Once you’ve had enough beautiful women in your bed and you become numb to (just) hotness, you automatically take on this qualification frame.

    My experience in Medellín was that the girls reciprocated these open feelings of excitement and mutual interest in each other but coming back to Miami Beach I’ve found that the women expect me to act aloof.

    Anybody have similar cross-cultural experiences?

  10. M September 9, 2012 at 7:06 pm

    Victor brings up a great point. People that get into Game for the NUMBERS and NOTCHES can be tempted to gloss over the fact that Game gives you the best weapon to take down your ideal target.

    Actually finding a real life girl! That you’re genuinely interested in! Is what makes it all worth it. I have yet to find such an ideal gal, yet when I do cross paths with a hottie who has a good head on her shoulders – it makes it much more worth while.


  11. Wigwam September 9, 2012 at 8:51 pm

    Suspecting that #9 and #10 don’t have tight game. If you still have mushy beta feelings, maybe you’re not meant for this place.

    We’re talking about real game here. Roosh doesn’t say don’t get excited at all.

    He says game all girls like those sixes you can get almost every time you try. Don’t put any more effort than that.

    Would you get overly excited if you had that genuine connection with a 6? No, you would be cool and spit your normal game.

    The problem is when some guys get all dorky as soon as an 8 or a 9 is nice to them. They smell that nerdy excitement right away and start throwing hoops to see if they jump into them. The guys do all sorts of shit they would never do for a more average-looking girl.

    On the other extreme, some guys try to act too tough and aloof and pretend that they’re not attracted at all. Hot girls see through that insecure shit so easily and will immediately tag you as another dweeb poser. Why would you talk to them if you were not interested?

    Aim for the middle. Treat a hot girl like the chicks you pump and dump regularly.

    Her mind will be like: Why is he not at my feet? He didn’t even text me back right away? His texts are awfully short. I WANT HIM. Finally a man that treats me like the bitch I know I am.

    Btw, you can’t suddenly let your beta core spurt out after sex. Don’t cum fast, try not to have an orgasm at all the first time (masturbate before if you have no control). If you do come fast. Don’t apologize or give excuses. Just act completely normal. Go pee, get water, try again after a couple minutes. Afterwards don’t tell her the sex was great/amazing or any shit like that. Just fuck her hard and treat her like a 6 pump and dump ALWAYS.

    She will love you forever, be faithful and ignore much better men to please you sexually, even if you cheat on her (but not to often).

    I love girls, but they get on my nerves so bad sometimes. I have a lot of trouble having respect for them:

  12. Ryan R September 9, 2012 at 10:19 pm

    Roosh, I just bought Bang Poland and I’ve only read the first few pages but without a doubt my favorite line so far is:

    “That discovery led me to the conclusion that eating too much food is the main cause of weight gain.”

    I was crying I was laughing so hard.

  13. Raj September 10, 2012 at 3:26 am

    Dating is negotiation. Game teaches the art of negotiation.

    When you are making an offer to buy someone’s car, you never highlight its pros and only subtly mention its cons. No matter how bad you want the car.

    Things are worth what the seller thinks you are willing to pay for it.

    If you are good in business, you will do good with women.

  14. Jay September 10, 2012 at 5:20 am

    Yea, Owen over at RSD talks about this a lot, it’s refered to as drawing a positive state from within as opposed to having it come from an external source- which in game speak is the target, or woman.
    Another closely related term for it is called outcome independence, in which your emotional state is not tied to the outcome of any one interaction or attempted pick up. You can youtube his videos about this, it’s good stuff and can be hard to grasp (yet alone accomplish) not just for newbies, but for a lot of experienced players as well.

  15. demezel September 10, 2012 at 10:12 am

    ahah thanks roosh, and keep working out you are getting bigger.

  16. xsplat September 10, 2012 at 12:04 pm

    The guest post Roosh recently posted from Krauser suggests a very different attitude. And Krausers buddy Steve, who we’ve recently seen in the fast seduction video of him kissing a columbian girl within 3 minutes also talks about strong interest being seductive.

    On Roosh’s blog Krauser says “t’s the purity of focus and self-belief which will be conveyed through your subcommunication and offset the (mistaken) theory that letting the girl know your interest before she shows interest is a weakness.”

    And Steve says “So – don’t be afraid to show emotion – in my view so called “Pick Up” advice is dead wrong on this – appreciate women for their beauty – but try to get used to the idea, build it into your psyche, that they are not remote, unobtainable creatures.”

    I quoted those guys about the subject here


  17. Anon September 10, 2012 at 12:29 pm

    Good that you’re coming home to rest. You could make it 2 months realistically. Heck, my mind told me i was still abroad the first 2 weeks.

    But DC is not America. Seems like you’ve never left the DMV. Places like Florida, Texas and California have much better chicks on average.

    And dude, you need a haircut. Make sure to hit a top stylist in NYC when you get back.

    And last thing, where’s the ticket to?

  18. madmax September 10, 2012 at 1:39 pm

    and if I think I used to get excited for a fucking PHONE NUMBER…..gasp….

  19. lucy September 17, 2012 at 7:02 pm

    You are jealous because women are leading the way in logistic innovation and the corporate world where as men are whining. We do not need you

  20. PoodogR May 28, 2013 at 10:14 pm

    I like the idea of -consistent game-, girl-to-girl, the world over, in theory.

    Like you mentioned, I’ve seen the emotional “rock” act with girls and more or less come off as autistic or socially retarded. Girls invariably respond that they “didn’t feel the connection.”

    I did vow, however, years into my 20’s single life, post-college, that I would stop these “girl biographies”, which was exactly what you were talking about at the beginning of your video.

    “OMG, I met this most amazing girl! She does this, and that, and went to school here, and likes to do this, and she majored in this!”

    Those girls invariably have told me a couple weeks later, “I’m sorry, I’ve met someone else that I feel a better connection with”, etc.

    My answer: Stop producing and telling that “amazing girl biography story”.

    Hold off.

    If something develops, awesome! Then talk about it.

    But don’t jump the gun to the biography story after the first date.

    I hope this doesn’t translate as “always assume the worst”, because I know guys whose overall dating strategy is like that.

  21. RichSpirit March 7, 2016 at 4:06 am

    All true as I have come to these conclusions long ago as well.

    I once had a girl that was at least a 9.7 in my car, huge round tits, tan skin, gorgeous jet black long hair, mini skirt with perfect legs and a fat around ass popping out of that skirt that was so short I could see she had on white panties.

    I was thinking in myself.. OMFG is this girl hotttttt. like me dream girl as I love brunettes with spanish look.. she was amazing with little make up and a gorgeous face too, big lips, etc..

    I looked at her and said in a neutral tone and expression. You look ok… could have done better though I think.

    She was like “What do you mean, you don’t like how I look?” I said, no, you look nice, just could have done better..

    About a minute later she starts leaning on me as I’m driving with her hand on my leg and she says out of the blue “I’m a good girl”.. I said, “so should I fuck you before dinner or after?” She said, “oh, it doesn’t matter, whatever you want I’m yours”.

    i noticed every time I was not excited about a girl either on the phone or in person, they would hang on me, flirt and sometimes start grabbing my cock.

    When I was younger if I got excited when I talked to them on the phone or such.. I never heard from them again.. western women are SO fucked up it’s not even funny.