Women Who Become Bitter And Jaded

Why do people harden as they age? Why do they become bitter and jaded? The simple answer is to avoid pain. By forming a rigid shell, a person can avoid experiencing the same pain they’ve felt in the past.

Imagine that a girl falls in love with a football jock in college. She fucks him on the first date, thinking that he liked her. Afterwards she contacts him to say what a great time she had. He doesn’t respond, and ignores her when they cross paths in public. The next time she has a wild night with a man, she will be hesitant to compliment him or express her gratitude. She’ll pretend that she’s not at all that interested in him in the first place.

Now imagine that a guy meets a girl in a bar. They have an amazing four-hour conversation where it turns out that they share a lot of things in common. To prepare for the first date, he researches restaurants on the internet, hoping that his selection will provide the perfect environment to create a magical spark. On the day of the date, after reservations have been made and his outfit selected, she cancels with a lame excuse and disappears. Five years later, he considers all women in bars and clubs to be sluts.

Rejections in dating cause both men and women to change. They begin to withhold displays of emotion, compassion, or interest. This is especially severe in women, who are emotional by nature. You can argue that a man not being emotional or sensual is just a man being a man, but a woman doing the same turns her autistic. A man’s coping mechanism to rejection causes him to be more masculine, but a woman’s coping mechanism to rejection also causes her to be more masculine, a trait that decreases her ability to make men happy. Other negative qualities also take hold in her…

  • She is slower to open in any conversation
  • She distrusts men
  • She is less willing to put work in new relationships
  • She cares less if men think she’s beautiful or not
  • She unnaturally restrains her natural interest in men
  • She learns how to make a “bitch face” while in public, a frown that makes it seem as if she’s constantly smelling something bad

What women don’t understand is that by trying to avoid pain, they also eliminate the pleasure that precludes that pain, those positive feelings that are part of any budding love affair. By tossing the baby out with the bath water, all that’s left is a watered down version of both extremes: relationships engulfed in mediocrity, indifference, and vague disappointment.

While guys do this as well, it’s to a lesser degree. Women grown in the wild go from being 100% sensual to 10% sensual after five years of Western-style nonstop dating. Men go from being 30% sensual to 10%. In essence, men are going half retard while women are going full retard. I can’t say I’ve even gone half retard, even with the billions of rejections I have faced from women in my life. I don’t fantasize about a girl when I’m not in her presence, but when she’s in front of me I dive into the experience fully.

I encountered a fork in the road when I was around 25, four years after I started learning game. One side said “Bitterness (low pain and pleasure)” while the other said “Keeping it real (pain and pleasure).” I took the latter path. I leave myself open with no shield because I want to experience emotional pleasure, one of the best things about being human. Unfortunately, unless the woman I’m with has the same mindset, no emotional connection will result, with the ensuing relationship remaining purely sexual, satisfactory but not spectacular. In a modern world where everyone is ready to withdraw into their turtle shell at the slightest hint of pain, finding emotional connection is becoming increasingly difficult, and maybe even futile.

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“A man’s coping mechanism to rejection causes him to be more masculine”

If only that was the case…
I’ve seen men cry in public and settle for pigs because due to being dumped. *shudder*

And then there’s the guys that due to being rejected become the type trying desperately to be anti-titjobs, respectful, sensitive and compliant hoping it will help him score.

None of this especially masculine.

The rest of the post is on the money though. Few things can hold you back more than being bitter. The worst state I’d wish on an enemy would be for them to pity themselves, it is the most unproductive state you can fall into and everything set back will carry you further down the void.

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Meant to write “every set back” above.

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Dear Roosh and Readers and Commentators

Right now what we are witnessing with Roosh is an evolution like no other, I think it’s safe to say that Roosh has reached such a new plateau-a level of understanding with women and social dynamics that He is on a path to enlightenment.This post is surreal. It articulates some of the stuff I’ve been seeing/thinking/noticing myself but which I’m unable to explain for my mastery with words are that of child while Roosh’s writes like one our forefathers fromt he old tiems(with simplicity yet deep wisdom). I’ve only seen this with another guy before and his name is Pook.

In terms of this post, he is telling the truth, the more women get screwed over, dicked down, the more cold they become. This is why “Women are the new Men, and men are the new women”. Women are starting to encompass the traits of men. While men are rocking skinny jeans, and singing to Justin Bieber and becoming more feminine

Great job Roosh

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That’s a good analysis.

The thing that inspired me to study Game was ONE rejection that hurt like hell.

But now its no big deal. I’ve accepted that half the fucking world is female and I don’t need ONE PARTICULAR woman to like me.

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“In a modern world where everyone is ready to withdraw into their turtle shell at the slightest hint of pain, finding emotional connection is becoming increasingly difficult, and maybe even futile.”

This isn’t new. In the 1970s before AIDS and herpes, there was tremendous emotional dissatisfaction with the dating scene. There was lots of bed hopping and alpha men cleaned up with the new sexually liberated generation of young women.

This was the era of the “zipless fuck” and Erica Jong’s book, Fear of Flying. The Baby Boomers were getting their grove on yet there was a lot of hand-wringing because of the lack of emotional commitment going on.

But with herpes, then AIDs, and the Baby Boomers getting older, the singles scene quieted down a bit leaving people like me just coming of age in a curious moment in our society’s sexual landscape. We wanted the sexual freedom but were scared shitless.

We’ve returned to a 1970s era-style of sexual behavior.

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I have a great emotional connection with my girlfriend ,who is a nurse. Honestly , sometimes I realize just how much work it is (for example, de-escalating arguments with humor, etc) But for me , and my personality, it’s been worth it.

First I’d say any guys, work on yourselves and any baggage if you’ve got it. This is not a domain exclusive to women.

And also:

I’d suggest anyone looking to find a girlfriend of the type who is ’emotionally open’ look towards women in ‘feminine’ professions which involve taking care of lots of different kinds of people (nurse, teacher, etc)…

In my experience, these sorts of women (nurse, teacher, daycare, homeless activist, vet tech, etc) tend to be MUCH more emotionally available and healthy than other types (lawyer, NGO monkey, etc).

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I really liked this post man. There’s a great quote by C.S. Lewis that encapsulates your point about pain.

“The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before. That’s the deal.”

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Roosh, I don’t mean to be mean but obviously for any woman to open up to YOU would be plain stupid. What exactly have you got to offer that a decent woman wants. Faithfulness? Loyalty? A family? No, just sex and fun – that might be your priority but not a woman’s if she’s an ordinary emotional vulnerable woman. And that’s what you’re demanding? Clearly that’s self-contradictory

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And I know for sure you’re never going to allow yourself to connect with any girl for serious because you called David Deangelo a hypocrite for getting married, so I guess that’s the standard you’re applying to yourself

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This recent post has a connection to your other post regarding the destruction of man – the technological world aint helping. Women don’t really care for men if you read Manipulated Man by Esther Vilar – but todays global village with iphones, social networking technology and gynocentric culture todays female are completely fragmented bitch faced zombies. Emotional connections between men and women are a thing of the past.

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excellent article but a great paradox game and alphas create a cycle of damage that comes back to bite everyone

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This is a terrible burden for a lot of people. It’s bad enough if you start out with a good state of mental and social health. But a lot of men and women or boys and girls don’t.

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Just want to say that this is totally awesome man. These are thoughts that many of us have, but you have put it down so clearly and succinctly. Kudos.

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That’s why a guy like me, who isn’t a PUA, still supports game mastery for every Harry, Dick and Tom…

When you learn “game”, you learn the ways that a new gal can disqualify herself — sometimes within 30 minutes of meeting her. It happens to me constantly, whether or not I’m in a relationship of value — a pretty, slim, energetic gal who seems to be interesting does a few little things that open her 500-page-long-APPEARING book and shows it to be mostly blank pages with just ugly images on the printed pages.

Remember: if all you want is a hook up, that empty/ugly book is just fine. If you want to find someone who takes care of some of your needs more efficiently than you do (excitement is a form of efficiency, too), you’ll probably want a gal who is ahead of the pack of most of her friends.

There’s a big difference between promiscuity-seekers and need-seekers who have a grasp of what they truly want out of the opposite sex. Are they looking to fill up a dark hole, or are they actually looking to see how this particular key-lock combination fits and operates?

Great post, Roosh — you always surprise me with some of the most on-target deciphering of the “war” between man and woman.

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Quote: “I leave myself open with no shield because I want to experience emotional pleasure, one of the best things about being human.”

Best thing you’ve written yet, man. Ever.

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This is why I date 18-year-olds.

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So true. A mutual distrust has developed between men and women, with each manuevering to mitigate what they believe will be inevitable disappointment. It’s funny, because I tell women this all the time when they whine about being hurt before – you have to be willing to risk that hurt to be happy. EVERYONE has their own story about how they were hurt or disappointed. If you don’t have a story, you’ve never jumped in and actually tried to have a relationship with the opposite sex. If you’re going to constantly be on your guard with every man that comes at you, because years ago you felt like you got burned, you’ll be continually spinning your wheels, and you’ll NEVER experience happiness again. Women want all of these guarantees going in, while they expect men to go purely on faith.

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…excellent article but a great paradox game and alphas create a cycle of damage…

One slight flaw with your analysis:

Women CHOOSE to be with these alpha alley cats.

Since women are the gatekeepers of sex, they are the one’s *primarily responsible* for all of the fallout from such ‘relationships’ – be it heartbreak, ‘unwanted’ pregnancies, etc.

Women and their mangina girlfriends ain’t foolin anyone here.

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…because I tell women this all the time when they whine about being hurt before – you have to be willing to risk that hurt to be happy

Women want all of these guarantees going in, while they expect men to go purely on faith.

Part of the problem is that too many women – especially of the ‘Anglosphere’ (AmeriKwan and especially British) are narcissistic cowards right down to the marrow of their (arthritic) bones.

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Sad, but Great post.

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I think a big reason women become bitter is because when they get screwed over by men, it’s a huge loss on their part. Women have, what, 6-8 years in their prime?

Men, on the other hand, have at least twice as many prime years, anywhere from 15-20 years to find a good mate. A man getting rejected means shit when you have so much time.

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Again Roosh points it right. It´s becoming a fucked up world. Distrust is more and more prevalent. Mentally it´s exausting.

We all live in shells. Like fucking robots without emotions.

Recently I heard a girl telling me this:

“My father abandoned my mother after 20 years of marriage. She discovered he was having an affair, but forgave him anyway. But still he letf us. After she had passed the last 20 years cooking, cleaning and ironing his shirts. I will never be like that.”

At this time and this may sound betish, but I really felt like smacking the litle fucker. He had a nice family could bang girls on the side and still abandoned is entire family.

The trauma of abandon is becoming more prevalent in society, and as times passes more and more generations of traumatized people will exist, till we all become numb to feelings and robots.

Thankfully the US will crumble before this shit arrives to Europe.

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I will never allow any woman to turn me bitter.

I am in control of that, and people who get bitter and cold to avoid pain are fearful butt-hurt pussies.

I take my pain like a man, and I keep my heart and mind OPEN. I’m not going to let anyone ruin me.

I manage my expectations and ego so that when and if things go bad, I pat them on the ass and keep rolling. I care, and I love, but I don’t kill myself just because of heartbreak. I don’t need to cry to mommy, I don’t need to hate on chicks for being chicks, and I don’t need a heart of stone to cope. I don’t give people that kind of power over me. Love them when they’re here, miss them when they’re gone, keep being the awesome ME that I was all along.

Good post Roosh.

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Yep, agree. If it doesn’t work out, then move on. I give each woman one chance (or ride on the bus). Once she gets off, or I let her off…that’s it (no going back). You need to give every woman one chance and there are many women out there.

No need to try and stay with someone (or return to someone) who didn’t want to be with you.

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I think a big reason women become bitter is because when they get screwed over by men, it’s a huge loss on their part.

‘Screwed over’ by men that T.H.E.S.E W.O.M.E.N C.H.O.S.E.

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To be fair most of these men don’t come with a warning label stuck to their foreheads. Most of the time in especially in the beginning these assholes will do their best to play the sensitive sweet kind loving partner all women look for, only for them to show their true colors after they’ve gotten what they wanted. It’s called the game.

So later on when a woman meets a man who is nice and open and kind comes along and it’s questionable for her as to wether or not he’s genuine.

It doesn’t necessarily mean she’s bitter because she doesn’t immediately reciprocate.

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“I leave myself open with no shield because I want to experience emotional pleasure, one of the best things about being human.”

There is an enormous difference between this and allowing yourself to be manipulated. Game allows you to do two things: (1) manipulate women, and (2) avoid being manipulated by women. It is both a sword and shield, but is brought out only when needed. Game is needed only when a woman is unable or unwilling to recognize the prize that is the man before her.

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Call me a masochist, but the periods after a breakup or rejection are amongst my most lucid ones.

I don’t like feeling bad, but I do enjoy the intensity of feeling at those times. And Roosh: Awesome post man. I’ve been hovering on your site for quite a while now and it is exactly this personal type of writing like this that makes you a good blogger.

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These offhand observations you post are actually more profound (both psycjhologically and philosophically) than just about anything else out there right now. Keep up the good work – you’ve really taken your game up several notches of late and i’m guessing you have some real timeless literature ahead of you

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Another winner, Roosh.

The same fire that burns women to a crisp, forges a man into steel.

(Roosh: Unless the man is beta to start with, then he turns crispy as well.)

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Great post, Roosh.

My quest lately, like that of AB’s, above, is to create solid connections emotionally, and to avoid the “pump & dump.” My goals are to be as honest as possible, to be charming and gracious, and to keep these girls as friends after we’ve done the deed. They can become a regular on the rotation, or just remain friends. So far, of the last 10 women I’ve been with, I’m maintaining great relationships with over half. We may not hang out often, but when we do, it’s fun and chill, and I get a ton of DHV out of it. In fact, it’s led to more interest and has led to several great additional connections.

The interesting thing is, I believe I’ve seen a lot less bitterness creep in from these girls. I don’t just drop them from my life, I’ll return a phone call, email, or text, even if it takes a few days. If she indicates a desire to hook up again, I may entertain the notion if I’m feeling it.

You can be a solid winner with women, have variety, and still keep them as friends. It’s amazing what honesty, compassion, and charisma can do.

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Did Roosh just describe about 90% of the Black female population in America ??

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“The same fire that burns women to a crisp, forges a man into steel.”

This is only partially correct in my opinion.

The more partners one has, the more one’s ability to form long-term bonds are impaired. Yes, I agree it effects men much less than women, but the effect is there for both sexes.

For men, a few bad burns of rejection in relationships can make a man’s character stronger (and teach a man to learn exactly what he wants and needs out of life).

But to say you can act narcissistically /psychopathically (disregarding human relationships in favor of purely sexual ones for 15 to 20 years) without an impact on your personality is nonsense.

Acting psychopathically/narcissistically is SIGNIFICANTLY more severe in its effects on women, but ALSO effects men as well — particularly if you are not actually a narcissist or psychopath.

To say that “I’m a SUPER KEWL PUA , aND I can be a serial monogomist /pump-and-dump artist for 20 years and HAVE NO ADVZRESE EFFCTZ!! ” — This is nonsense. Some personalities will be more impacted by this behavior, some less so, but 20 years of this behavior WILL have an impact on your psyche even if you are a macho natural ‘alpha’. To think otherwise is naive at best, and delusional at worst. Be realistic.

The “best” arrangement for a man are healthy relationships with a stable, grounded, clever, and beautiful women , with tacit approval for ‘look the other way’ tail on the side.

Unless you are psychopathic , all humans need some both stabilizing forces and fulfilling relationships in their lives.

To claim otherwise is not only delusional, it plays right into the hands of the forces which intend to destroy and break up society via. methods of divide and conquer between men and women.

Don’t play into the hands of the rules of society — follow your own path. THAT is what ultimately makes a man. It begins with individual thought and personal agency/autonomy, rather than blind groupthink to the status quo.

“I suggest you read more of Huxley’s writings and those of Bertrand Russell, who himself was given a royal license to operate special schools where he conducted experiments on children. He encouraged them to have pre-pubertal sex, with no inhibitions and with as many partners, of either sex, as possible. The goal was to discover how to break down the natural bonds between mating adults, ie life partners. He accomplished his mission and we can see the results of this today in our society with mass sexual promiscuity and the promotion, through the media, mainly music, TV and cinema of the sexualisation of children whereby they want do dress like their ‘celebrity’ icons.”

http://www.sovereignindependent.com/?p=5758

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Totally accurate comment, I agree 99.9% (didn’t like the “looking the other way” part!)–and the LULZ part was hilarious! 🙂

This is a great start for anyone interested: http://russell.cool.ne.jp/beginner/COH-TEXT.HTM

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forgot to note that Russell married 4 times, had 3 kids, and was the legal guardian of his son’s 3 daughters..An overall amazing person, and I hope people get to read his work..

And again, let me emphasize on how much I agree with this sentence: “Some personalities will be more impacted by this behavior, some less so, but 20 years of this behavior WILL have an impact on your psyche even if you are a macho natural ‘alpha’. To think otherwise is naive at best, and delusional at worst. Be realistic.”

I hope you’re reading this Roosh! Sorry for re-commenting..

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“I don’t fantasize about a girl when I’m not in her presence, but when she’s in front of me I dive into the experience fully.”

This is a very smart policy. This could be one of the best, though indirect, indications that someone is a good player, PUA, Alpha…whatever you want to call it.

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“I don’t fantasize about a girl when I’m not in her presence, but when she’s in front of me I dive into the experience fully.”

Not to repeat someone else’s post, but this strikes a chord with me, and I’ve always lived by this. Even if she doesn’t mean anything to you beyond that night, treat that night like she does. Go all in. Bring your “A” game. You should feel this way with every new chick…that excitement of the “first” time because it IS the first time with her. Go at her HARD, with all the passion you can muster. After it’s done, there’s no harm in reminiscing about how great she was (IF she was great of course…HA HA!).

The first time a chick broke up with me, I was crushed. You think you’ll NEVER find another person to like you like that again. That lasts until the next time you find someone that likes you that way. Then you realize there’s ALWAYS going to be someone else at some point, unless you lock yourself in a room somewhere forever and don’t come back out. From that point on, while I’ve parted ways with chicks and felt some disappointment, I’ve never felt as bad as that first time again.

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If you go “all in” with an American girl, today, on your first encounter, then enjoy it because it certainly will be your last encounter with her.

That kind of approach (or thinking) will get you many ‘first dates’. Women, today, have been programmed to view that behavior as being ‘weak or needy’. It’s a sad truth but it certainly seems to be a reality. If you seem to be too interested in a woman (right away), then there is no fun or chase…and she gets bored.

Again, it’s very sad because you want to be yourself (if you’re the type of person who shows a lot of emotion). But in the end, she’ll stop answering your calls and she’ll start to chase the opposite (usually a guy who would treat her well but it will be ‘exciting’).

I tell guys (as a joke, but seems true)….on your first date with a woman smack her. She’ll be in love with you forever (lol).

I’ve seen this happen all too often with guys. A woman will always choose an abusive guy over a guy who treats her well.

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I am from the “Slap a Ho Tribe”.

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It’s easy to spot these “jaded” women. They say catch phrases such as “waiting for a real man to prove to me they’re not all the same.” etc. She obviously had to go through several pump and dumps before being able to utter a phrase like that.

Often you can bring this up in conversation by teasing “hey why do girls play games so much? Guys never play games.” Then just sit back and enjoy the show.

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“‘Screwed over’ by men that T.H.E.S.E W.O.M.E.N C.H.O.S.E.”

All the more reason to be bitter when you only have yourself to blame.

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Nice, and agree. Women choose (usually the wrong choice) and then wonder how they become bitter and jaded). The wrong choice, usually, treats you very badly in the end.

I guess wrong choices in life?

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http://youtu.be/dH4p9BQ3V9o

Scent of a Woman – Al Pacino speech

It’s an interesting watch for anyone. The part where he brings up Charlie’s spirit being ruined rings true in this post.

An amputated spirit is truly destructive and only begets a complete melt-down of the self. Doubt creeps in all thoughts drying out desire where confidence once ran like a spring river.

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Well, men harden too.

I have the effect in Mystery, Tyler and Jlaix. What’s so exciting yet another woman? She’s just one of a thousand really; she doesn’t offer salvation or purity, you’ll orgasm, collapse and then move on.

You never hear about the old time PUAs, like Style, Ross Jeffries, or Eric Weber. They have known these sensations. Your friend VK is also experiencing this.

But I don’t feel pity. Nothing is free in this world. A man pays for everything one way or another. One becomes a PUA to learn the pleasures of the flesh; so be it, but there’s a price to be paid and you will tire of the same in time.

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Not all people who get into game are extroverts. Some are quite introverted and learning game helps them break out of their shell. To say someone could not be content with living a monogamist lifestyle is a little off base imo. Speaking as an introvert myself a few close friends and bringing home a couple women a week would be enough to keep me content. Unless you want a family at the end there’s really not a whole lot to gain from long term relationships or marriage.

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I have to say that this was the case with me and my last relationship. Her x shitted all over her so what does she do, she devalued my offerings in order to protect herself. She ended up giving back to the universe by shitting all over me. I was very hurt for a while but I then decided to let it go. I realize that I was too busy being a beta male and not an alpha male.

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…Her x shitted all over her so what does she do, she devalued my offerings in order to protect herself. She ended up giving back to the universe by shitting all over me. I was very hurt for a while but I then decided to let it go. I realize that I was too busy being a beta male and not an alpha male.

Isn’t it ominously funny HH that most AmeriKwan women treat the bad men good…

…and the good men bad?!?

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“hey why do girls play games so much? Guys never play games.”

Women choose – men are chosen.

Hence (most) all of this is primarily the fault of women.

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“‘Screwed over’ by men that T.H.E.S.E W.O.M.E.N C.H.O.S.E.”

All the more reason to be bitter when you only have yourself to blame.

Yup.

Translating from Rationalization Hamster to English – Gerri Comen’s daughter and her friends got chewed up and spat out by the cock carousel and they’re blaming men for their poor choices.

Every single woman who’s ever been in an abusive relationship claims this – that their man didn’t start OUT as an abuser but suddenly transformed into one, like overnight! She had no idea it was coming!

Bullshit. No human being on earth is capable of that kind of sudden, instantaneous transformation. Most people are as unvarying as amoebae. You can put on a mask, but eventually it slips, and no disguise is one hundred percent foolproof. If any of these girls had paid attention, had thought with their big head instead of their little one, they’d have seen all the warning signs, all the pieces of the puzzle. If you’re either too deluded or desperate to see this, you have no one to blame but yourself.

Guilty of Being Male, Part 2: Smells Like Rationalization Hamster

Women choose… men are chosen.

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Agree. I’ve seen this same situation happen a couple of times to friends of mine. A girl would have a ‘choice’ as to which guy she wanted to see (short term or long term). Given that choice, the woman always seem to choose a guy who would treat her the worst (i.e. verbal or physical abuse or cheat).

Even if or when the woman broke up with the abusive boyfriend…she would still return to him because (get this)…she loved him.

So women are bitter and jaded because of their choices in men (not because of men). I get pretty tired of hearing this bullshit and rationalization by women that it’s a man’s fault.

Women – Make better choices.

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“Isn’t it ominously funny HH that most AmeriKwan women treat the bad men good…

…and the good men bad?!?

that implies you didn’t let yourself be treated poorly. Nice personal accountability.

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that implies you didn’t let yourself be treated poorly. Nice personal accountability.

Huh…?

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“Every single woman who’s ever been in an abusive relationship claims this – that their man didn’t start OUT as an abuser but suddenly transformed into one, like overnight! She had no idea it was coming!

Bullshit. No human being on earth is capable of that kind of sudden, instantaneous transformation. Most people are as unvarying as amoebae. You can put on a mask, but eventually it slips, and no disguise is one hundred percent foolproof. If any of these girls had paid attention, had thought with their big head instead of their little one, they’d have seen all the warning signs, all the pieces of the puzzle. If you’re either too deluded or desperate to see this, you have no one to blame but yourself.”

Real talk right there. The signs of abuse are always apparent before a couple marries. He’s already been abusive in some way, even if he hasn’t outright slapped her up. He’s already been verbally abusive, and he’s probably already grabbed her forcefully by the arm or something like that. She thought, “once we’re married he’ll calm down” or “it was my fault, I shouldn’t have said/done that.” Their weakness and insecurity leads them into abusive relationships and perpetual victimhood. The first time he showed that side, you should have walked away.

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Men offer, women accept. Both get to choose in their own way. Women often signal interest too.

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Men offer, women accept.

No.

Women CHOOSE … men are CHOSEN.

*If you understand anything about Evo-Psych, you would readily understand the implications of what this fully means.