Women Who Own iPhones Lose The Ability To Love

I want you to think of your grandparents and the love they had. It’s true that maybe your grandmother felt “stuck” with gramps, but for better or worse their relationship endured for some time and there was a golden period of at least a decade where they were completely dedicated to each other. Unless one of your grandmothers was a flight attendant on the first commercial jets and saw daily affections from new men, she was absolutely not cheating on grandpa.

Fast forward to today. What comes to your mind when I ask you to think about the concept of love in America? Did you laugh? Shake your head? When was the last time you ever heard a woman say “I love him,” even referring to her husband? The ability for women to love is being murdered, and the assassin is the smartphone.

Philosophers and poets have given many wonderful definitions of love, but to keep it simple, there are only two main components:

1. Mutual attraction
2. Lack of other options

You can argue that being “in love” is different in that it involves some sort of passion or lust, but for many centuries love has come to mean being attracted to someone while simultaneously not having better options. A married woman in the 1900’s would be hit on maybe once a year by the butcher and that was it. The love she had for her husband was not disturbed unless he went off to war. Today? She could gain 30 pounds and be hit on ten times a day. There is no other tool that increases the amount of times a woman is hit on than a smartphone.

For women, the smartphone is a bridge to receive offers of penis twenty-four hours a day. With text messaging and use of apps that connect her to Facebook, dating sites, Instagram, and the like, your average girl is receiving subtle and not-so-subtle sexual offers every other hour. She even gets to hear a bell tone when a new penis is putting in his attempt. The smartphone is a perfectly designed machine for women to field dozens and dozens of penis offerings every month when in the previous generation your average woman wouldn’t receive that many in a lifetime.

This constant shower of penis makes it absolutely and hopelessly impossible for a girl to experience love. She can experience passion, and she can be in lust for a short period of time, but within a year of any relationship, the sheer amount of cock still coming through her iPhone will make her feel like she didn’t get the best man she could have, or feel that her life isn’t as exciting as it could be. She will be unable to settle with one man and be happy. The pitiful option left for men to cope with these times is to “game” their wife—after she took a vow to serve him till death do her part—so that he can rise above the cock offerings that won’t stop coming.

I know what my female readers are thinking: “Well guys have smartphones, too! They are incapable of love just like me!”

And you would be incorrect. For men, the smartphone is a tool to gain a sexual option. Asking a woman on a date or trying to win her favor via text messaging or Facebook makes her a mere prospect. A potential prospect who might be sexually interested in you, who might say yes, is not the same as having guys at the ready immediately come over if you just say the words. The psychological effect of being offered guaranteed dick is not the same as being able to offer some dick. One is passive while the other is a numbers game that takes fifty times more energy for absolutely no set reward.

The minute a man stops using his phone is the minute all potential prospects dry up. If I take a week off from the game, my phone doesn’t make a beep. I don’t even need to re-charge it once but every three days. But if a woman takes a “break” from the game, or changes her relationship status to engaged on Facebook, will the cock offerings dry up? Will she stop receiving “What are you doing this weekend?” text messages? Of course not. Even when a man receives a commitment from a woman, he must still compete with other men as if his girlfriend is eternally stuck in a sausage fest nightclub.

Peer into a woman’s smartphone and you’ll find Las Vegas, nonstop blinking lights and action. Peer into a man’s smartphone who isn’t working on his game and you’ll find something out of a country Western with tumbleweeds rolling through. The only text messages he may very well receive are service notices from his cell phone provider announcing the newest data plan special. Love is dead only for women, not for men. If anything, men are much more interested in love and serious relationships than women are, but they cannot fight the culture tsunami that is drowning them. They want to love a woman who has become incapable of it because of her unconditional adoption of a machine that is only good for one thing: playing the field.

On a Friday night in Croatia I took a beautiful girl out for drinks. I weaseled her back to my place and we had sex. After she left, I fantasized about having sex with her again. I was excited that I could take a break and focus on her instead of having to chase new girls. On Saturday night, by accident, I met another girl in the club. We talked and kissed for hours. Her body was slightly better than the first girl, but she was otherwise similar. When I woke up on Sunday and lay in bed, the girl on my mind was the one I met on Saturday night, not the one I had sex with. The girl from Friday almost felt like a distant memory, as if she got bumped out of view by the newer girl, though my penis was inside her less than 48 hours before.

For women who have smartphones, you’re the one getting “bumped.” You get bumped down the list as more cock offerings come into view and the memory of having a conversation or date with you travel farther away in her mind. The smartphone alone changes her behavior. It changes the way she dates and how she selects men for sex.

I’ve been to many countries and it’s no surprise that foreign women with smartphones are much more similar to their American counterparts than the ones without. Her attention becomes more fragmented, her attitude increases, and she’s less willing to put work into the interaction, symptoms that come from receiving an overload of male attention via a tool that seems to be perfectly designed for it. If a girl has a smartphone in hand, she is simply less able to commit to a man. She will experience constant malaise because of all the hot action she’d hate to “miss.” When she’s ready to cheat—and she will—she will have at least five guys who would jump at the prospect without her having to do much more than send a “How are you?” text message.

If the changes brought by the internet weren’t disruptive enough, men now have to compete with smartphone devices that simultaneously force them to compete with other men who in the past wouldn’t even fall under their girl’s radar. We’re arriving at the point where women don’t need to lift a finger to get with men because so many desperate, supplicative men inflate her ego, worsen her attitude, and make her lazy when it comes to any relationship. Why should she put in work when she doesn’t have to? Why should she commit when she’s so obviously desired? Did you not notice that the last self-shot photo she uploaded on Facebook got 40 likes? She doesn’t care if you get annoyed when she flakes. She doesn’t care if you don’t like her flip flops.

Soon every woman in the world will have a smartphone, and the idea of commitment and love will be a throwback, something that belongs in old movies. Until then, when I’m talking to a girl and she pulls out some piece of shit old Nokia phone, I can’t help but get a little excited. I know she will be warmer, I know she won’t flake, and I know that I’m about to have an experience with a woman that will give me an honest shot. But if she pulls out a smartphone, I know that she’ll just be adding me to her collection of penises. She’s the celebrity, and I’m nothing more than a fan.

Read More: How Culture Affects Game

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Frisky business
Frisky business
7 years ago

So true.

Wald
7 years ago

I met up with an Au Pair a week ago. Before the meet up, I had made fun of her and her orbiters.

“Look at this picture”

“Wow – so many likes. It’s probably because you’re on the beach.

The guys think – (creepy beta voice) Oh, you like the beach.

Let me tell you..”

She laughs (sometimes until tears come out).

Thank god she had a nokia.

trickykid
trickykid
7 years ago

Solid post roosh.

Brandon
Brandon
7 years ago

jesus dude…good observation. This is more reason to be playing the field instead of committing to the average women with a smart phone. Like Tomassi said, ‘men are the romantics and women are the realists.’

Men want love but lots of women are increasingly becoming incapable of it. It’s best to have a steady rotation and screen out the worst of the worst…however, most modern men can never accept this and will probably be destroyed by a woman.

Wodi
Wodi
7 years ago

Fucking wow Roosh!

Ronfar
Ronfar
7 years ago

So things will only get worse? Great.

Even the ugliest chicks will think they’re supermodels with enough attention. We’re seeing that happen…

Fantaman
Fantaman
4 years ago
Reply to  Ronfar

I see it already at work

greenlander
greenlander
7 years ago

LMFAO! It’s so true!

Niko
Niko
7 years ago

Great observation. I always judged LTR potential based on how e-connected a girl is. Facebook account, bad sign. Smartphone chiming every two seconds, bad sign. iPhone and/or iPad, horrible sign.

Unfortunately this isn’t going to go away, quite the contrary. So it’s either moving somewhere where relationship dynamics aren’t yet influenced by technology so much, meaning second world countries or some shitty province in almost-first-world countries, or adapt.

Turner
7 years ago

haha You could write the next blink or tipping point on this topic.

Ralph
Ralph
7 years ago

By now we know what a genius you are, but here you have outdone yourself. Today, a picture of you is going up on my wall!

Henry
Henry
7 years ago

I can’t decide if you are absurdly reaching, or spot on.

JackBlack
JackBlack
7 years ago

If you have any experience dealing with twentysomething American girls these days, you would know that he is spot on.

3rd Millenium Men
7 years ago

Absolutely brilliant Roosh.

“For women, the smartphone is a bridge to receive offers of penis twenty-four hours a day.”

Haha too true. Girls have the opportunity to live out Paris Hilton-esque fantasies if they want.

Keep the great writing and insights coming.

Drama
7 years ago

Good points on the personal interaction with the users phones.

However I find this article at the Chateau good for a more big picture context.

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/11/22/social-media-and-female-self-esteem/

OldHornDog
OldHornDog
7 years ago

Roosh – put the gun down and call the suicide help line 😉

Word – here in Spain most chicas are too broke to afford a decent smart phone. The fees are too expensive as well, so I rarely see them use it. Result – more open minded, feminine, friendly women. I hope they raise the fees during the crisis – the more unaffordable this shit gets the better for us.

willy wonka
willy wonka
7 years ago

“On a Friday night in Croatia I took a beautiful girl out for drinks. I weaseled her back to my place and we had sex”

Don’t lie Roosh, she was a fat bitch like all the other girls, when are you going to start posting some pics of these girls like your content suppliers?

You are nothing

Seb
Seb
4 years ago
Reply to  willy wonka

LOL YOU ARE NOTHING LOL THAT MADE MY DAY, even though I completely disagree with you the guy is spot on.

Glupak
Glupak
7 years ago

Does anyone remember the HIMYM epsiode ‘Rabbit or Duck’? In it, Barney has a magic phone which is ringing non stop with hot booty calls. In the end, he ends up not banging a single one because he’s constantly worried the next girl calling might be hotter.

This post make it plain obvious why this wouldn’t be the least bit funny with the sexes reversed; it would be a documentary, not comedy.

Jon
Jon
7 years ago

Yeah, this is true. In the Philippines, few girls have smartphones. Moreover, it’s a country with few stable, faithful men, so the girls are very warm and friendly towards stable, decent men.

Unfortunately for us men, the country is growing economically. God help us all when most of the world has smartphones. That’s the day when men will commit suicide in droves.

Oregonziggy
Oregonziggy
7 years ago

Even women in my age group are the same. 40 ish women are the same if not worse. They are getting attention like they never did in their 20’s.

Glued to their phones getting tons of attention

Nomad77
Nomad77
7 years ago

This trend of access to people and information will only continue and the pace will increase. Regardless, quality men and women will always be in demand and probably more appreciated the more options you have and the more people you know.

Heywood Jablome
Heywood Jablome
7 years ago

This is an arms race of sorts. So what’s the countermeasure?

cape codder
cape codder
7 years ago

So true. This MURDERED my last LTR.

bodmon
bodmon
7 years ago

real talk

Aureo
Aureo
7 years ago

Exactly! What is the fucking countermeasure?

Isaac Jordan
Isaac Jordan
7 years ago

Spot on, Roosh.

I remember my college girlfriend freaking out one night when she lost her phone. It wasn’t that she was worried about the cost of replacing it, or that someone might steal her identity. No, she was worried about MISSING OUT.

What if her sorority sisters organized a girls’ night out and she was the only one not attending? What if all her friends had some amazing adventure and she wasn’t able to relive it during lunch discussions the next day? What if everyone develops some hilarious inside joke she’ll never get to be a part of?

The female need to be in touch with the herd is something most men will never understand. Being excluded from the group is a status-destroyer, and we all know how girls live and die by their status. Using a smartphone to stay connected to the herd is today’s equivalent of sitting at the cool kids’ table in the high school cafeteria.

Facebook makes this even worse, because people only post the fun, interesting things they do. When a girl logs on, she doesn’t see her friends doing their homework, or washing the dishes, or slogging through expense reports. She just sees FUN FUN FUN and OHMYGOD does she HAVE to be a part of it all.

Like the Barney hook-up phone example from one of the above posters, the idea that something better is going on somewhere else makes it impossible for her to enjoy whatever she has (whether it be a man, or an activity, or a job, etc.). It’s like hypergamy applied to social situations. You can’t enjoy a night at home watching movies with your boyfriend when you can SEE all the parties/boys/excitement going on elsewhere. Social media and women’s need to both stay connected and climb the status ladder makes it so that the grass is always greener somewhere else.

Dan
Dan
5 years ago
Reply to  Isaac Jordan

I know a lot of people think that contemporary pop music is crap, but your post reminds me of the song “Halfway Gone” by Lifehouse. The lyrics are actually quite good at describing the dilemma that men face with a lot of women these days. Two lines from the second verse stand out: “You got one foot out the door / and choking on the other / always thinking something more / is just around the corner…” And part of the chorus really says it all: “‘Cause you’re halfway in / but don’t take too long / ’cause I’m halfway gone…”

Never be with a woman who wastes your time.