When it comes to relationships, we desire what we are not. We look to bond with someone of the opposite sex not to make a commitment that pleases God but to improve or satisfy our lives in a material way, but why would someone who has the positive qualities we lack want to bond with us? So we end up spending the bulk of our 20s and 30s searching in vain, racking up hundreds of hours on Tinder alongside innumerable dating failures that make us bitter, jaded, and fearful, decreasing our value as a mate. All the while, we miss the basic truth that we attract our mirror reflection. If you don’t like the women you are pairing with, the problem is not them but you.

Before I accepted Christ into my life, I went on a worldwide hunt to find the most beautiful woman who was loyal, honest, loving, generous, patient, kind, and feminine, yet I myself was not loyal, honest, loving, generous, patient, kind, and masculine (in the sense of being in control of my passions). I thought that if I played a mathematical game of meeting ten thousand women through sheer effort and willpower, I would encounter many perfect women and one of them would decide to spend her life with me. I could have met ten million women and the result would have been the same: I did not meet a woman who came even close to possessing the qualities I dreamed of in my deluded mind. Instead, I met women who were a reflection of my own traits: disloyal, dishonest, extractive, calculating, manipulative, impatient, superficial, cosmopolitan, and faithless.

I have been walking with Christ for only two years, and during that time I have gone on marriage interviews (i.e. dates) with five women. Each woman possessed at least a moderate faith in God, and for that reason alone, all five were superior to every single woman I have dated in my past. In other words, if I had to pick a wife out of all the women I’ve ever known, these five would be at the top of the list. The reason is that as I ascend closer to God, I’ve attracted women whose souls have also begun to ascend to God. This process is completely automatic. No manual effort or conscious “game” is needed on my part. You can not fake the state of your soul, which can only bond with flesh that closely mirrors its state.

There are two levels when it comes to attracting your mirror reflection. The first: is your mental orientation primarily material or spiritual? If it’s material, you will attract and bond with a woman who is a materialist. If it’s spiritual, you will also attract a woman who lives according to the grace given to her by the Holy Spirit. The second level is degree. How much of a materialist are you? The more material you use to attract a woman (cars, money, muscles), the more of a materialist woman you will find. On the other hand, how strong is your faith in God? If you pray daily and attend church every Sunday, you will bond with a woman who either does the same or will have no objection to doing so in the near future.

If you remember the last three people you dated, you will find that they possessed the same general outlook as you and to a similar degree. The deeper your relationship was with a person, the more that person reflected who you were at the time. If you review all your past relationships, and evaluate every woman you dated, the conclusion you must reach is that each person was who you were at that period in your life. For some of you, that type of person didn’t change at all, and you kept getting burned by the same type of woman, and for others, it changed over time as you’ve changed.

If you’re mad or angry at a failed relationship, you’re in essence mad at yourself for not being the person you should be in the eyes of God. You were lacking in your faith and were tempted to see your partner as someone they were not. That person possessed a similar state of spirit as you, so if she was a cheater (lust), liar (pride), or overweight (glutton) then you also possessed an inclination to her sins or at least the willingness to commit sins that are similar in severity. At the minimum, you were in a relationship with someone who wanted to materially extract from the relationship as much as you desired to extract, but extraction is not confined within a relationship but applies with the entire world, so if your partner couldn’t extract from you the things that would make her “happy,” she simply began looking elsewhere for those benefits and there went your relationship.

If all good comes from God, and you are far from God, you will not attract a virtuous woman. Therefore the solution to attracting a faithful, traditional woman is not acting the fool and traveling around the world to spam a thousand women with a puffed-up composite character of masculinity, or complain endlessly online about how no good women are left, but to build your faith in God. A woman on the same journey will recognize your faith and want to pair bond with you. At the very least, you will get someone who aspires to the faith you have and has already started that journey with sincerity. And if no woman can be found, your faith will be at such a level that you will welcome without complaint what God has laid out for you. You will depend on His love to sustain you and not murmur against a mode of physical existence that He knows you can bear.

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What doesn't explain though is how it explains the coupling of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. 2 very Disparate personalities that aren't really mirror images at all.

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What doesn't explain though is how it explains the coupling of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. 2 very Disparate personalities that aren't really mirror images at all.

I just assume every Hollywood marriage is a sham.

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What doesn't explain though is how it explains the coupling of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. 2 very Disparate personalities that aren't really mirror images at all.

That is why their relationship was so tumultuous. I think they are still in court over Heard's use of her settlement.

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What doesn't explain though is how it explains the coupling of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard. 2 very Disparate personalities that aren't really mirror images at all.

Their relationship was a perfect illustration of the like attracts like concept. Both were highly materialistic, ultimately in the service of dark forces, consumed with surfacey ego entanglements, pursuing short-term pleasure and gratification. Both wanted to extract from the other - "hotness" on one hand, status on the other. Peas and carrots.

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Their relationship was a perfect illustration of the like attracts like concept. Both were highly materialistic, ultimately in the service of dark forces, consumed with surfacey ego entanglements, pursuing short-term pleasure and gratification. Both wanted to extract from the other - "hotness" on one hand, status on the other. Peas and carrots.

Johnny Depp has as a result suffered actual physical injury, abuse and false accusations from Amber Heard for things he didn't do.

He is currently being vindicated in court and by evidence.

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When it comes to relationships, we desire what we are not. We look to bond with someone of the opposite sex not to make a commitment that pleases God but to improve or satisfy our lives in a material way, but why would someone who has the positive qualities we lack want to bond with us? So we end up spending the bulk of our 20s and 30s searching in vain, racking up hundreds of hours on Tinder alongside innumerable dating failures that make us bitter, jaded, and fearful, decreasing our value as a mate. All the while, we miss the basic truth that we attract our mirror reflection. If you don’t like the women you are pairing with, the problem is not them but you.

Before I accepted Christ into my life, I went on a worldwide hunt to find the most beautiful woman who was loyal, honest, loving, generous, patient, kind, and feminine, yet I myself was not loyal, honest, loving, generous, patient, kind, and masculine (in the sense of being in control of my passions). I thought that if I played a mathematical game of meeting ten thousand women through sheer effort and willpower, I would encounter many perfect women and one of them would decide to spend her life with me. I could have met ten million women and the result would have been the same: I did not meet a woman who came even close to possessing the qualities I dreamed of in my deluded mind. Instead, I met women who were a reflection of my own traits: disloyal, dishonest, extractive, calculating, manipulative, impatient, superficial, cosmopolitan, and faithless.

I have been walking with Christ for only two years, and during that time I have gone on marriage interviews (i.e. dates) with five women. Each woman possessed at least a moderate faith in God, and for that reason alone, all five were superior to every single woman I have dated in my past. In other words, if I had to pick a wife out of all the women I’ve ever known, these five would be at the top of the list. The reason is that as I ascend closer to God, I’ve attracted women whose souls have also begun to ascend to God. This process is completely automatic. No manual effort or conscious “game” is needed on my part. You can not fake the state of your soul, which can only bond with flesh that closely mirrors its state.

There are two levels when it comes to attracting your mirror reflection. The first: is your mental orientation primarily material or spiritual? If it’s material, you will attract and bond with a woman who is a materialist. If it’s spiritual, you will also attract a woman who lives according to the grace given to her by the Holy Spirit. The second level is degree. How much of a materialist are you? The more material you use to attract a woman (cars, money, muscles), the more of a materialist woman you will find. On the other hand, how strong is your faith in God? If you pray daily and attend church every Sunday, you will bond with a woman who either does the same or will have no objection to doing so in the near future.

If you remember the last three people you dated, you will find that they possessed the same general outlook as you and to a similar degree. The deeper your relationship was with a person, the more that person reflected who you were at the time. If you review all your past relationships, and evaluate every woman you dated, the conclusion you must reach is that each person was who you were at that period in your life. For some of you, that type of person didn’t change at all, and you kept getting burned by the same type of woman, and for others, it changed over time as you’ve changed.

If you’re mad or angry at a failed relationship, you’re in essence mad at yourself for not being the person you should be in the eyes of God. You were lacking in your faith and were tempted to see your partner as someone they were not. That person possessed a similar state of spirit as you, so if she was a cheater (lust), liar (pride), or overweight (glutton) then you also possessed an inclination to her sins or at least the willingness to commit sins that are similar in severity. At the minimum, you were in a relationship with someone who wanted to materially extract from the relationship as much as you desired to extract, but extraction is not confined within a relationship but applies with the entire world, so if your partner couldn’t extract from you the things that would make her “happy,” she simply began looking elsewhere for those benefits and there went your relationship.

If all good comes from God, and you are far from God, you will not attract a virtuous woman. Therefore the solution to attracting a faithful, traditional woman is not acting the fool and traveling around the world to spam a thousand women with a puffed-up composite character of masculinity, or complain endlessly online about how no good women are left, but to build your faith in God. A woman on the same journey will recognize your faith and want to pair bond with you. At the very least, you will get someone who aspires to the faith you have and has already started that journey with sincerity. And if no woman can be found, your faith will be at such a level that you will welcome without complaint what God has laid out for you. You will depend on His love to sustain you and not murmur against a mode of physical existence that He knows you can bear.

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"the image of God in woman is a reflected image, a second hand image as it were.
Man is created directly in the image of God,
and woman, Paul tells us is created in the image of man; the reflected image of God.
Moreover “a help as before him”
means “a mirror”.

First she mirrors his image, second in a sense she mirrors him so that a man finds himself not only in relationship to God, but in terms of a woman.
And it is significant that it does make a difference in the character of men when they become married.
Insurance statistics bear that out. A young man has to pay a very heavy insurance as a driver until he marries, so that whether he is 17 or 21 his insurance is very high until he marries, and then it drops.
Because now, so to speak, he has found himself; he has assumed responsibility and he has become stable. Or at least he becomes stable in a sufficiently large number of cases to make a marked difference in insurance statistics."

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Johnny Depp has as a result suffered actual physical injury, abuse and false accusations from Amber Heard for things he didn't do.

He is currently being vindicated in court and by evidence.

His weakness was being enticed by a femme fatale (seductive woman who lures men into dangerous or compromising situations). The "bad boy" played with a snake and got bitten.

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Originally posted on RooshV.com


When it comes to relationships, we desire what we are not. We look to bond with someone of the opposite sex not to make a commitment that pleases God but to improve or satisfy our lives in a material way, but why would someone who has the positive qualities we lack want to bond with us? So we end up spending the bulk of our 20s and 30s searching in vain, racking up hundreds of hours on Tinder alongside innumerable dating failures that make us bitter, jaded, and fearful, decreasing our value as a mate. All the while, we miss the basic truth that we attract our mirror reflection. If you don’t like the women you are pairing with, the problem is not them but you.

Before I accepted Christ into my life, I went on a worldwide hunt to find the most beautiful woman who was loyal, honest, loving, generous, patient, kind, and feminine, yet I myself was not loyal, honest, loving, generous, patient, kind, and masculine (in the sense of being in control of my passions). I thought that if I played a mathematical game of meeting ten thousand women through sheer effort and willpower, I would encounter many perfect women and one of them would decide to spend her life with me. I could have met ten million women and the result would have been the same: I did not meet a woman who came even close to possessing the qualities I dreamed of in my deluded mind. Instead, I met women who were a reflection of my own traits: disloyal, dishonest, extractive, calculating, manipulative, impatient, superficial, cosmopolitan, and faithless.

I have been walking with Christ for only two years, and during that time I have gone on marriage interviews (i.e. dates) with five women. Each woman possessed at least a moderate faith in God, and for that reason alone, all five were superior to every single woman I have dated in my past. In other words, if I had to pick a wife out of all the women I’ve ever known, these five would be at the top of the list. The reason is that as I ascend closer to God, I’ve attracted women whose souls have also begun to ascend to God. This process is completely automatic. No manual effort or conscious “game” is needed on my part. You can not fake the state of your soul, which can only bond with flesh that closely mirrors its state.

There are two levels when it comes to attracting your mirror reflection. The first: is your mental orientation primarily material or spiritual? If it’s material, you will attract and bond with a woman who is a materialist. If it’s spiritual, you will also attract a woman who lives according to the grace given to her by the Holy Spirit. The second level is degree. How much of a materialist are you? The more material you use to attract a woman (cars, money, muscles), the more of a materialist woman you will find. On the other hand, how strong is your faith in God? If you pray daily and attend church every Sunday, you will bond with a woman who either does the same or will have no objection to doing so in the near future.

If you remember the last three people you dated, you will find that they possessed the same general outlook as you and to a similar degree. The deeper your relationship was with a person, the more that person reflected who you were at the time. If you review all your past relationships, and evaluate every woman you dated, the conclusion you must reach is that each person was who you were at that period in your life. For some of you, that type of person didn’t change at all, and you kept getting burned by the same type of woman, and for others, it changed over time as you’ve changed.

If you’re mad or angry at a failed relationship, you’re in essence mad at yourself for not being the person you should be in the eyes of God. You were lacking in your faith and were tempted to see your partner as someone they were not. That person possessed a similar state of spirit as you, so if she was a cheater (lust), liar (pride), or overweight (glutton) then you also possessed an inclination to her sins or at least the willingness to commit sins that are similar in severity. At the minimum, you were in a relationship with someone who wanted to materially extract from the relationship as much as you desired to extract, but extraction is not confined within a relationship but applies with the entire world, so if your partner couldn’t extract from you the things that would make her “happy,” she simply began looking elsewhere for those benefits and there went your relationship.

If all good comes from God, and you are far from God, you will not attract a virtuous woman. Therefore the solution to attracting a faithful, traditional woman is not acting the fool and traveling around the world to spam a thousand women with a puffed-up composite character of masculinity, or complain endlessly online about how no good women are left, but to build your faith in God. A woman on the same journey will recognize your faith and want to pair bond with you. At the very least, you will get someone who aspires to the faith you have and has already started that journey with sincerity. And if no woman can be found, your faith will be at such a level that you will welcome without complaint what God has laid out for you. You will depend on His love to sustain you and not murmur against a mode of physical existence that He knows you can bear.

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"But the woman is called his helpmeet, his mirror. And even as he mirrors God, she mirrors him.

He understands his responsibility by looking to God and he can see how he is fulfilling his responsibility and how he is proving his obedience in relationship to his wife,
as she mirrors his nature and responsibility."

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His weakness was being enticed by a femme fatale (seductive woman who lures men into dangerous or compromising situations). The "bad boy" played with a snake and got bitten.

For a bad boy he was pretty nice person and every other person including his own children and women he has been with has testified to that fact.

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Once again you make me consider my previous life and how I can improve upon my current one.

God bless, Roosh.

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For a bad boy he was pretty nice person and every other person including his own children and women he has been with has testified to that fact.

You can start the Jonny Depp fan thread in the Public figures subforum instead of hijacking this topic.

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You can start the Jonny Depp fan thread in the Public figures subforum instead of hijacking this topic.

Alright. Just saying because I have been following this case from the very beginning courtesy of certain youtubers.

So it is a case study that I can cite since there is far more publicized information to allow a judgment on. Due to aforementioned court proceedings.

And I did love Pirates of the Caribbean. Btw. :D

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But there are studies showing that the dating market is skewed in the way that 80-90% of women only go for the same 10-20% of men and that they basically find 80% of men unattractive, meanwhile men rate women more like a bell curve.

We can assume that it is basically due to superficial stuff like their physical attraction and the perceived social status. But what says it wouldn't be a skewed market based on virtue on morality too then?
If I just look at the social circles I have been in, I think feminism, social media etc. has created a skewed market in this sense too and that there are far more women who are superficial than men. On the other hand I've read studies saying that there are more women who are Christian and says religion are very important for them. So I don't know?

Either way, I think the point here is just to make sure you step up and live a more virtuous life, come closer to God and you will be more likely to find a woman like that. But I don't think there's any guarantee for it, it's harder to find a woman like that today than in the 50's.

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Roosh, I watched your talk on Orthodoxy First. I just want to say that good, Godly men are hard to find. If you want to be a husband and a dad, I don't think you'll have any shortage of good prospects. Not only are you reforming your heart and mind, you're the rare Real Man that all good women are looking for.

And the same for the rest of the good, strong, Godly men out there. Good, Godly women need you and you're in short supply. Just come and get us :blush:

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Roosh, I watched your talk on Orthodoxy First. I just want to say that good, Godly men are hard to find. If you want to be a husband and a dad, I don't think you'll have any shortage of good prospects. Not only are you reforming your heart and mind, you're the rare Real Man that all good women are looking for.

And the same for the rest of the good, strong, Godly men out there. Good, Godly women need you and you're in short supply. Just come and get us :blush:

A woman would have to be brave to marry Roosh, seeing as he publically goes against the main stream.

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Solid and true article.
And I will add, don't make any important decisions (as looking for a wife, husband) in life when you are away from God.
First, return to Him. Anybody can be temporarily suspended from His grace because of his own foolishness or laziness in seeking God, but everyone knows how he stands with God.

However, when you are away, you are lacking protection, wisdom, and blessings. Your decisions would be made only by your mind, emotions and influenced by momentary circumstances.
And even when later you would return to God, your decisions already created consequences and you will bear them.

Do nothing without God or you will suffer. World and history are full of godless fools, don't be one of them.

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Q: Two eternal sworn enemies, who already know none of them can definitely overcome the other, what can they do?

A: They divide the loot evenly between them and unite to ensure there will never be a third contender.

God created Pleasure & Pain (the primeval siamese twins) and they immediately seized Him. Now God dreams of Peace, who will come to exterminate Pleasure & Pain forever.

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I see the conversions to faith among so many prominent or for a lack of better word (I am a non-native english speaker- sorry for potential errors); so let's say famous figures- that makes me think that God makes this move on purpose to first gather crowds to follow a certain lifestyle that shows later to be false; only to keep our attention to witness the conversion.

I am positively surprised to see it happen among new age crowds (see Doreen Virtue and her former new age guests speakers) singers (see Justin Bieber) former porn stars (I don't have nsmes as I heard about them anegdotally) former pickup artists (I am not sure if this label relates but I also enjoy videos of yogiobs newborn). I think that God guides people who are in public eye to demonstrate the results of choices to lead each path.

Thank you God for showing us your mercy and intelligence through talents that you demonstrated through Roosh who thanks to you teaches us how to be closer ❤ to you every day!

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I see the conversions to faith among so many prominent or for a lack of better word (I am a non-native english speaker- sorry for potential errors); so let's say famous figures- that makes me think that God makes this move on purpose to first gather crowds to follow a certain lifestyle that shows later to be false; only to keep our attention to witness the conversion.

I am positively surprised to see it happen among new age crowds (see Doreen Virtue and her former new age guests speakers) singers (see Justin Bieber) former porn stars (I don't have nsmes as I heard about them anegdotally) former pickup artists (I am not sure if this label relates but I also enjoy videos of yogiobs newborn). I think that God guides people who are in public eye to demonstrate the results of choices to lead each path.

Thank you God for showing us your mercy and intelligence through talents that you demonstrated through Roosh who thanks to you teaches us how to be closer ❤ to you every day!

I get your sentiment, but Justin Bieber is not a good example, as he is clearly a heretic. He advised his fans of staying clear of religion. Somehow he vaguely believes in Jesus Christ, but not in religion. I just think he smoked too much weed.

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