The easiest way to fail with women is to expect to see them again, whether you have already had sex with them or not. Their increased options on the dating market combined with a decreasing attention span and zero tolerance for being “bored” or “weirded out” means that most of your encounters with women will have a fleetingly short lifespan. Unless you are always closing, you won’t even receive a scrap of sexual reward.
My natural propensity when it comes to sex is to have at least some semblance of seduction. While I can get aroused at the sight of a beautiful woman, I like to ramp up to sex through a process of basic conversation, touching, comfort, kissing, heavy petting, and then sex. If that process takes less than 2 or 3 hours, rushed to the sexual end by horny drunk girls like I experienced in Scandinavia, the overall pleasure I receive will be low and strange feelings are sure to surface.
I am able to wait two or three dates for sex (or longer) with a girl that I like, but unfortunately I have no choice but to pursue sex that is much more rapid than that, almost to the point of it being unnatural. If there was a guarantee that a woman I went on one date with would show up for the second or third, I would have no need to drag her back to my cave with some ruse to “listen to music” or “drop off my bag,” but rush it I must, because before sex a girl has as much attachment to me as the brand of vodka that goes in the cocktails she drinks on a weekend night.
If you make only a couple small mistakes on a first date and fail to get sex, she will over-analyze them, maybe even broadcasting it on her social networking accounts for a reward of ten likes, and come to the firm conclusion that you are a sub-standard male who is not deserving of her vagina, even though you would have fucked her proper if you pushed it hard the night you had her out. This is the result of a society that encourages a woman to fuck for emotional reasons (he’s sexy, I’m turned on right now) instead of logical (he’s a good man, he will make me happy in the long term).
The less investment a girl has into you, the faster you must push the interaction to sex, even if it does not feel wholly natural to you. If you’re meeting her through standard game methods (day, night, or internet), her investment is definitely low, even if she puts on the nice girl act that she just broke up with her boyfriend of six years and is looking for something serious. Even worse—and I don’t mean to depress you further—is that fucking her is really no guarantee she’ll reply to your next text message a few days later.
It used to be that when your penis was inside a girl, you’d get at least a future courtesy date, but now even that is going out the window, because by the time you contact her for another encounter, she’s already on the next guy who can better fulfill whatever degenerate fantasy the media has installed into her brain. If keeping a girl on the line is hard enough when you already fucked her, I’m sure you can understand the importance of pushing all interactions to the bed as quickly as you reasonably can before that.
The biggest mistake you can do is assume you will ever see her again, even if she made a declaration that she likes you, enjoyed the conversation, and can’t wait to meet for a future date. You’ll walk out of that bar thinking you have a solid prospect on your hands and then not even thirty minutes later another guy gives serves up a decent enough game that in her mind makes her think a little bit too hard on whether you are as worthy as she initially thought. The dating market is so fluid and free, with such little lag for the time it takes girls to meet new men, that sitting on a girl’s number for more than three days has the same effect as throwing it in the garbage can.
If an approach I make today goes well, I must absolutely try to fuck her the same day even if I was not really in the mood. I have over ten years of game data that tells me the majority of phone numbers will not lead to sex, and so if I don’t do all that I can to seal the deal that same night, I might as well put her number in a bottle, throw it in the ocean, and then pray it somehow comes back to me before I die. Girls have trained men that unless their value is absolutely explosive in their eyes, a rare occurrence, they will barely get better treatment than the tattooed barista at Starbucks. As long as a girl is speaking to you and giving you her attention, you must go all the way. Otherwise, I would gladly take the bet that you won’t ever sleep with her.