Your Habits Get Harder To Change As You Get Older

All the habits that I currently do every week, at the age of 35, are ones that I was already doing by the time I was 30. I’ve noticed that it has been exceedingly hard to tack on a new habit or routine to my existing lifestyle and workflow. It seems that my brain is becoming more resistant to doing anything new, and instead seeks out the comfort and familiarity in those habits that it has already been doing for a decade. This has large implications for men of all ages who want to change their lives for the better.

Here are the habits that were ingrained in me by the time I turned 30:

  • Writing regularly
  • Visiting a coffee shop once per day
  • Approaching women day or night when the penis demands
  • Lifting weights more than semi-regularly
  • Reading regularly
  • Cooking my daily meals

To do any of the above takes me very little willpower. Sure I have some days where I don’t want to write or lift, but my failure rate is small. Since turning 30, I’ve tried to change my routine in four different ways but have run into some resistance.

1. I wanted to learn Russian within a rapid period of time. The only way I could do that was to reduce my other habits. For seven months I was successful, but my old habits started to re-assert themselves at the same time I was finding Russian to be less useful. Fast forward to today and I don’t study at all.

2. I’ve trained in boxing for two short periods, but the workouts were exhausting. Like with Russian, my other habits were in revolt at how much energy it was requiring. I couldn’t stick to it. Then again, I also didn’t like getting black eyes.

3. I’ve met many players who are killing it on the internet, encouraging me to go on Badoo instead of day gaming. I’d try for a few days until I couldn’t bear to look through profiles. I haven’t been able to make internet game a habit because of my dislike for it, even though my notch results could be higher.

4. I took up the piano a couple years ago. For one year I stuck with it, practicing one hour a day, but I couldn’t find a way to make it mix with my other habits, and I got tired of traveling with a keyboard, so I stopped.

Of course there are many habits I tried before turning 30 that didn’t stick, but I attribute those mostly to experimenting. Now I’m finding it quite hard to incorporate anything new into my life that isn’t closely related to something I was already doing by the time I was 30, telling me that it is critically important for men to get started as early as possible on whatever habit they want to retain throughout life. Thankfully I started game when I was 22, but how about the guys who are starting late? Will they be forever alone?

If you’re older than 30 and you want to start something new, you have to make it intensive for at least a year. This is the only way to “re-wire” your brain, making the habit become a part of you. At the same time, you have to mold your lifestyle to where doing the new habit is natural and expected. If you’re working in a suburban office park all day, are shy, have low testosterone, and lack confidence due to being overweight, how can you begin to make game a lifelong habit? You’ll probably just dabble in it, do less than 30 approaches, then turn into a keyboard jockey who trolls online forums. You have to accommodate the habit into your life to make it more likely that you’ll stick with it.

That’s what I did with Russian—I went to Russia. I didn’t like Russia so I went to a Ukrainian city where I knew I would still speak Russian, but then I maintained a relationship with a girl who spoke English. As soon as my lifestyle changed to demote the habit into something less urgent, I could no longer pursue it. On the other hand, if Russia and Ukraine become the only two places in the world where women remain beautiful in the future, I would easily study it again.

My newest habit is making videos. While it’s too early to tell, I’m finding it pretty easy to incorporate video production into my existing life, since it’s related to blogging and utilizes my existing content-creating skills. It should be easier for me to stick with it compared to Russian, but we shall see.

By the time you’re 30, you are who you are, and it will be tough to change. At this age, your brain says to itself, “Well, we made it this far and survived, so why bother taking a new risk with no guarantee of success?” You’re much more likely to rationalize inaction or let fear keep you down. It will take quite a bit more to start new habits later in life, but it surely can be done if you focus on it intensively while simultaneously structuring your (new) life around it. Otherwise, you’ll quit much sooner than if your brain was more pliant like in your 20’s. If you’re young, start right now and get the benefits of burning habits into your brain. If you’re older, you’ll just have to work that much harder.

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I’m noticing that to. Some of my good habits I can do with out thinking about it. Like working out and I’m pretty good with studing Spanish. Other ones like making sure I meditate everyday, it’s kind of there but not really and studying Android development I can barley get off the launch pad. No fap and porn is doing ok for the moment. I want to start the journal and do some writing about daily events to refelct upon but haven’t started that yet

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Roosh,
What does your daily menu often look like?

Do you eat many carbs or is it all just meats and veggies?

Somethig on Red pill nutrition would be cool.

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Yeah I’m planning on doing a “day in the life” video eventually where I’d show that stuff.

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You are right when you say what grossness and a social ill obesity is.
You are smart enough to stay thin and avoid the horrors of obesity.

In the real game of power all the gmo, high fructose corn syrup is a tool the elite use to harm (then profit with drugs) and kill off the masses. Many obese people had parents who did not discipline them and lead their nutritional behavior early on. The whole way of life in the US is messed up-
I’m sure all you International observers would agree.

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Whoa Im looking forward to watching that

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This is an individual thing.

Some science behind cognitive development would be more reasonae to illustrate your argument.

Like game and girls, the mentality one has about almost anything is cultural and the geography of where the wiring went down shines forth. Here, I can feel the ghosts of DC coming off your vibe in this article so many people there like to put everything in a box, be negative, and complain. They has a real hopeless downer aura and have this Atlantic seaboard goon accent that makes you think they’ll be planning a heist later in the week. The US West coast is more healthy and energetic in its vibe than DC which is a complete sewer of collectivism, negativity and depression. It’s just a corrupt old tired miserable
place- be glad you got out.

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http://www.amazon.com/The-Power-Habit-What-Business/dp/1400069289 This book totally comes to mind. Great read by the way. It would refute a lot of what you say at the same time explaining how to help your form the habbits you want.

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I have the same problem. Where to put my focus ? My conclusion is that anything that you are not good enough at or CANT never be good enough at to do on a professional level (get paid) you should forget about.
Imagine me spending next two years on intensively learning to paint if I had no real talent ? would just be mediocre at best or might still suck at worst. And would have wasted two years better spent on something real.
You should only spent your time on things that you really like to do and that you’re naturally good at. Rest can be classified as “hobbies” which is also OK, but you cant give them overshadowing focus.
Thing is you have already found the stuff that you like and that you’re good at (game, writing) and its unlikely that you will find something else ever like that again.
Still its a good thing to try something new out once in a while to see if that might be your new thing, like boxing, painting, pianoplaying etc.
Also its good for the brain to try out new stuff.

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I think the main thing is your reward circuits get burned out as you age. The carrots of minor achievement are less and less enticing because you’ve probably tasted plenty of carrots.

What does still work great is the stick! You have to set yourself up in circumstances where the penalty for failure is frightening. I’ve heard multiple great entrepreneurs say fear of failure was their main driver to success. It’s why the side gig approach rarely works; you have to quit your job and be staring down the prospect of penury.

Dunno how you’d set up a stick for something like learning a language or instrument. I suppose you’d have to commit to a series of public recitals and risk looking like a fool without proper rehearsal.

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I’m currently focusing on habits as an area of research because I have some bad ones I need to eliminate from my life.

There is a fair bit of science behind habit changing. The consensus seems to be that you don’t learn new ones, but rewire old ones.

‘The Power of Habit’ had some guidelines on this even though the rest of the book was pretty average.

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Interesting… I wonder what time your brain fully developed and if that has any impact here. I feel like mine wasn’t fully developed until about 27, a couple years later than most men.

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I think the best role models for guys in 30s would be Hugh Hefner and Larry Ellison.
Larry Ellison started his company at age 33, in 1977. Over the next couple of decades, he has lived a playboy lifestyle jetsetting throughout the world, fond of yatching and dating and sleeping with different women. Not to mention that he himself is married and divorced 4 times. He’s now dating a young Ukrainian woman. He’s done it all and still doing it at 70 today, even though he could be called a late starter. His achievements began all after the age of 35.

Hefner after his first divorce at the age of 33 in 1959, remade himself as a bon viveur and man about town. The same could be said about him about women et al.
Every man can change at whatever age he wants to, as long as he believes in himself. The most limiting thing a man can do to himself is to hold his own age against himself from trying out new things, when his body could still be willing to try. The mind can be trained, but it would take more effort as one gets older, but nothing is impossible. Some men lead more carefree and younger lives when they’re older as compared to younger men.

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Presently in my 40’s breaking bad habits and starting new more positive ones since I’ve swallowed the pill of the red hue about a year ago. My life was stagnating….. believing the horse shit about female male relation ships, etc. Dodged a few bullets re marriage. I know its difficult but many of the articles and the man above (Rooshy Baby) have been quite inspiring. It all helps although the most difficult part is consistency, in learning, physical improvement, and gaming the ladieeees….keep it up then it comes naturally…

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While I am entirely sympathetic to the topic of this article and all the guys that relate to it, don’t forget that your brain truly is plastic (changeable) throughout the lifetime.

It takes approximately 10,000 hours to become proficient in a new skill.

For example, when I started playing guitar at 15… I fucking sucked… I fucking sucked for like 2 years straight… but nonetheless… I was motivated to do it and I loved it. At around the 3-4 year mark… It finally clicked… and even when I was playing badly I could still hear music coming back at me. That is when my playing truly improved, because I stopped seeing the mistakes as mistakes and rather opportunity for hearing new sounds.

Learning new skills is tough no doubt. I’m simply making the point that it is often an issue of motivation rather than being “unable to change”. The research shows that your brain can modify itself throughout the lifetime.

Here is a great book on the topic of brain plasticity.
http://www.amazon.ca/The-Brain-That-Changes-Itself/dp/0143113100

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The brain is an efficient organ, always looking to optimize resources and minimize risk in order to survive. By the age of 30-32, most men’s brains are fully mature and will subconsciously try to keep the status quo.

While the brain’s synapses can rewire in as little as 3 months when exposed to new stimulus, developing proficiency in a new skill does take a year or more.

That is not to say that changing at 30 is much more difficult. For example, a man learning game at 30 has the life experience and, hopefully, mental maturity and financial resources to help him. It will take a lot of willpower, unlike your 22 year old who has the natural energy of youth.

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Everybody struggles with this. What isn’t urgent, and takes effort and time, gets pushed aside. It has nothing to do with how old or young you are.

Even game gets pushed aside when you have a couple of fuck buddies. All of a sudden making an approach becomes almost insurmountable.

But once you’re all alone, and the approaches are ‘your only hope’, all of a sudden you’re aaall into it.

And about online game:

Some people get much more notches definitely, but the personal growth factor is gone.

Meeting women the old school way requires you to man up in so many ways, and that’s a good thing.

And most people don’t do both types of game exactly for the reasons above – because “now you don’t have to”, so old school game gets pushed aside.

Bottom line – with online game you get a bit more pussy, but you go downhill as a person and yes your happiness and well being definitely suffer as a result.

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this comes back to that whole fluid versus crystallised knowledge thing. when you’re younger there’s a level of adaptability to novel and new situations, people lack knowledge but they are if persistent, able to fumble about and quickly orientate themselves in unknowns. as you get older that experience crystallises into a mind map of the world. this is mostly used so when new nodes are encountered they are likened to existing nodes on the mind map. so while the novel fluid innovative part of the brain goes away, the crystallised wealth of knowledge and analogous experience part of the brain takes over.

there’s ways to mitigate this but it takes as roosh says intense effort.

i would recommend james altucher’s daily practise and in particular his stuff about writing 10 ideas a day to be able to keep your mind fast as you grow older.

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This blog is a first class example of what happens when you spread your focus. You created ROK and now spent a lot of time creating videos and other stuff. And because of that this blog is not as it used to be at all.
You still give it attention but not the same KIND of attention..it is not your main focus anymore..

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Best blog on the net

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Roosh is smart-Ill say it 1000xs-hes the guy who made everyone go aha! to the feminine glories of foreign girls. Im a LTR/marriage kind of guy-its my moral code-but I agree with the players here on foreign girls are real women as the Rockefellers and Steinems have really wreaked havoc on the USA poon supply.

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Roosh
How has your perception changed since you got in the game to pile up
Notches as opposed to now?

Do you feel empty?

Do you regret it all in any way or look at an element of game or life in a profound way you would not have done otherwise?

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I’d has been briefly mentioned by others – more difficult than acquiring new habits is letting old (bad) habits go. Habits are activities of any sort that you do through the day. The day is finite, so there’s only a handful of these activities you can do through the week. In order to acquire new habits – which are meant to contribute to your personal growth, one must let go of bad habits that offer no value to your life.

I am 29 and currently going through this at the moment. I have been partying my ass off since I was 16 and have been recently using drugs such as blow which totally ruin your mind for the following 4 days. At the same time, I am rugby player, hit the gym often, training for a triathlon, respectable job. These habits (partying and traiing) are incompatible and one must make a choice.

But letting go of old habits that are ingrained in your mind, drilled down for years and years is one of the biggest personal challenges I am currently facing.

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Roosh u can’t be more right.

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Roosh V
I’ve read you everyday going on 2 years and have all your books.

I think Patricia’s smart phone is one of the coolest things you ever wrote.

Maybe you could illustrate to us how to call a girl out you’re seeing on her being on the iPhone in your prescence.

Do you call girls out if they are buried in their phones when they’re with you?

Is it mainly just Anglosphere chicks who have a smart phone out 24/7?

How do women in LA or EE act with their smart phones? Are they glued to them like clowns like American chicks?

All these question circulate in my mind. I can see how the smart phone turns everyone into a vain clown hoping to get 80 likes because they’re smiling from a vista overlooking the City. Humanity is really in a deplorable state.

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Roissy/Heartiste covered this back in 2010, in the context of iPods and headphones:

Address the iPod first and disarm it. Make a nonverbal gesture with
your hand to your ear signaling the girl to remove her earpiece. That’s
one way to unplug her so she can hear you. Another way is to simply talk
loudly enough so that the girl will be able to hear you over the dulcet
tones of Karen O. Most girls will unplug if they think someone is
trying to talk to them.

Opening girls who are walking down the sidewalk with iPods is more
difficult. You’ve only got a brief window to catch her attention and
she’s not going to hear you until you’re right on top of her.
Nonverbally signaling her as you and her close distance is an option,
but most girls are not going to remove their earpieces because some
random dude walking toward them is gesturing for them to do so. You’d
have to instead make strong eye contact and open your mouth as if you’re about to say something, as if you’re a tourist about to ask for
directions. This is probably the most elegant way to cajole a girl to
unplug so that she may fall victim to experience the full joy of your player charms.

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Those are good tips for sure so thanks for sharing.

I guess I wasn’t the clearest in my writing- I meant like you’re on a date or chilling somewhere- you ready know her and her Facebook and I Phone is blowing up and you know it’s her bitchy friends or some beta orbiter out there try to hustle her via electronic supplicator/validation game.

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I think if you really were in a ‘comfort’ zone, you’d be at your old job working on biochemistry working your 9 to 5. Your brain is probably just resistant to new habits because you are constantly moving from city to city and your brain is struggling just to cope with adapting constantly. I suspect your resistance to new habits is probably just because of constant exposure to new experiences, putting your brain in defense mode. I’m 32 and I don’t feel like I’m in the rut you describe, but on the other hand my life is more stable (i.e. boring) and that gives me more motivation to try new things to break the monotony. So I think you underestimate just how much constant change you put yourself through by purely focusing on your habits.

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hey Roosh, sorry to know you don’t practice the piano anymore. You certainly have what it takes, I have been a musician for almost 20 years. I have played piano and guitar for years and am pretty good at both, and I also write my own music. And that piece by Handel isn’t a pussy piece either, it’s Baroque counterpoint and counterpoint is pretty complex. Handel is a favourite composer of mine, do you know the Passacaglia in G Minor? I have heard it as a kid on a recurring TV jingle that showed mountains and old buildings in Italy, as in a photo album. Everytime that jingle came up, I would be in another world. But yeah, the piano is a very hard instrument to master…I have worked my ass off on it for over a thousands hours in 2012 alone, and I thought it was just the start. I am someone who has been deemed as ‘having lots of talent’ by experienced pianists and teachers. So I am not shit either. Congratulations for the Handel piece, there are a few gaps during the leaps, but overall I’d say you certainly have what it takes to be a pretty good musician. Have you tried other instruments too? And also various styles of music? Try it all, man. I love classical but I like stuff like smooth jazz too. If you can play Handel without much difficulty, you can play lots more that feels way easier and fun. I hope you keep playing. Remember, it’s never too late. Being a good musician is fucking hard and it takes lots of work, no matter how much talent one has, but you start living a dimension that all other people don’t see or feel. I’ll never give music up….it’s a world that no one can take away from me.

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My reaction to the piano video was-
Roosh is fit, lives in Europe, and can play pretty good- why doesn’t he try to a house or trance Dj and makes some $ selling mp3s. I love house music and would love to be location independent in Europe pushing my art.

Did your passion for house and trance music die Roosh? Do you prefer melancholy acoustic guitars nowadays?

If your music is as creative as your personality it would be some cool stuff.

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I was a DJ for a short while. There is a slight musical seed in me, but I had trouble sticking with. I was unable to commit to music to take it to the next level.

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Except for Cordoba that brunette white girl in the black looks better than all the chicks pics from your Latin American tour that ive seen pics of (I could be wrong).

My thought was (at least for girls- personal growth is cool) why did he bother with the jungles, food poisoning, and barrios?

The Latin tour era writings have an undertone of today I hope I don’t get mugged, there’s no reptiles in my lodging, the food doesn’t give me the runs, no shoot outs in the favela, and the bus doesn’t stink too bad or have a bunch of pick pockets on it.

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Yeah, but unfortunately the girl in black is an outlier for DC (where the photo was taken, probably back in 2005-2007). She looks to be a NoVa (Arlington/Fairfax) skank who would only come in to DC and the old ‘Spy Lounge’ so that the World Bank/IMF expats buy her drinks — and because it’s better than the boring guys back in Ballston.

If you want a real example of DC nightlife women and ratios, check out the sausage fest photo under point #3 in Roosh’s old post about DC [“15 Reasons Why Washington DC Sucks For Guys”]

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Roosh, I understand, no shame in not taking music to next level. I firmly believe that you will take to the next level only your true goals. As a musician, for me making music has always been my top priority. I could never resist it. You felt the same thing with women. One can have potentially multiple talents but it’s hard enough to commit to one of them, so one must make choices. I’ve got the music, you’ve got the pussy, eh eh smile

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Thats a bad bitch IMO

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How could most guys be inspired from DCs culture for art?

Would you want to meet lots of new women in Toronto or Kiev?

When I want to get creative I like Georgetown pencil holder Fabian socialists, ruthless lobbyists, cheesy politicians, political staffers with the personality of ice cubes, middle age foreign diplomats more wasted than Rick James in Tokyo, post wall anal retentive power suit lawyer babes, and psycho idealists with toxic mind sets like the Jezebel loons. Art is in the air with all of that, right?

Commercial successes like Henry Rollins and Dave Grohl were from there but they left there for California and Seattle.

Also Dave Chapelle, Lewis Black, Ben Stein (that guys my DC archetype), etc.

DC inspires things like Carol Quiqleys writings (aka if you sheep all knew how messed up it was you’d freak out) and tons of delusional, self aggrandizing commie dogmatists who push the virtues of collectivism and tyranny with their new books on CSPAN.

DC needs a Girls Gone Wild kind of clown tape of all the political industry’s antics late at night.

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to ‘whatever’: man, sorry but I don’t understand a word of all the nonsense you speak. I guess your ‘name’ is my answer: whatever. Your thoughts sounds like ridiculous, married girl bitching converted into pompous clever wording. Form, to me, is never a substitute for substance, it’s only a complement. Problem is, ridiculous bitching and trivial bullshit sounds like it sounds, no matter how much clever wording you use.

You think where I come from, there was space for inspiration ? Man, I come from a Italian village of 6000 people.

There’s a difference about talking about real, personal experiences and listing negative sides of something or someplace, for practical purposes, and just rambling like:

”cheesy politicians, political staffers with the personality of ice
cubes, middle age foreign diplomats more wasted than Rick James in Tokyo”

What a load of junk: have a more in-depth look at history, it better clarifies stuff like tyranny, than engaging your mind with trivial bullshit

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Clarifies tyranny? DC and all the related political innuendo is a living 3d example of tyranny. You must be a pinko blue pill guy who voted for Obama.

You’re a foreigner and out of touch with American politics and the irony is life is probably better back where you came from.

Call me effeminate- that act is effeminate. I’m amused. I get 99-100% masculinity rating on my face which is boxy and square like Lenny Kravitzs- you’re a comedian with that one.

How could the European countryside not inspire- are you really from Siberia or Turkmenistan- if so then I understand?

Do you even read anything published before 1970?

From your tone you must be a
Millennial-
There was a time when people read big books written by old dead white guys not the Huffington Post.

Many people have told me I should write a book- I know I’m a thinking man.

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“The chains of Habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken”

Via Warren Buffett

Write down the qualities of people you admire….you’ll find most are qualities of character built by good productive habits as opposed to self destructive ones!

Then again:

“The road of excess leads to the palace of Wisdom”

William Blake

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This was at the club in Ukraine.. I saw the pics of the Latvian girls, and figured I would share a few I took. I think this was on a Wednesday or Thursday night. This was at the nicest/richest/fanciest night club in town. After going to clubs in Ukraine, the American clubs make me fucking sick. They are full of ghetto ass people.. and to top it off, it’s always a sausage fest. Btw, I don’t know if they are all showing.. you might have to click the broken picture image.

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Looks like a Victorias Secret model meet up. What City was this? Are the local guys equally as fly or do you mainly see girls like these with older, busted dudes?

Let me guess your local club is typical California-1/3 commie youth hipster, 1/3 la raza, and 1/3 suburban commuter Asia. Diversity isn’t the issue but gmo eating, Huffington post reading crowds , brain washed crowds are. Many are clueless how insane it all really is.America is dumpster diving for red pill guys.

Surely you gotta be planning a way to spend more time in a place like Ukraine.

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Phil, If you enjoy posting here I would recommend signing up for an account/logging in through one of the options. I already can tell I like your style, and see our mentalities are similar. We have to stick together as a community here, and help each other out. There is more than enough pussy to go around in Eastern Europe (EE), especially in Ukraine.

It indeed did look like a Victorias Secret model show.. These were just a few pics I took. You would have had to see it for yourself.. fucking nuts. This was in Lviv, Ukraine. I don’t know what your experience is on the Ukraine scale/level, but no.. Ukrainian guys have no game. They look like dog shit. Aside from being skinny (generally), they are not built very well, regarding muscle mass/proportions (IMO). If you took a random guy there in Ukraine, and put him in a club here in California, he would be shut down so fucking hard, it wouldn’t be funny. Something in the genetics produces the most beautiful women, and the most retarded men. Things are changing (I think), but generally, most men there stink like shit.. B.O. They don’t wear deodorant.. they don’t bathe regularly, and their hygiene is usually shitty. Busted old dudes do well, if they have money, because they can buy girls drinks.. They do it in a different way than Americans.

The local clubs here? I live in an exceptional part of CA luckily.. The clubs here (depending on the club), are filled with college students. I’m only 30, but I feel like I’m 80 when I go out. This place is hipster central.. You have a bunch of privileged youth here, who are spending mommy and daddy’s money, on an overpriced education.. There are plenty of good looking girls here, but that’s just it.. they are girls, not women.. And it doesn’t matter.. It’s still a cock fest.. because why? Every dude is out trying to get his fuck on. Where I grew up, yes, it was Viva La Raza 24/7. Mexican central shit hole. I don’t care what anyone says, most clubs here in CA, are shit. If you like dealing with Mexican and Black gang bangers, by all means, it’s all you. Aside from a few cities/clubs, it’s always going to be a cock fest.

If I could live in Ukraine right now, I would. I love that place. The novelty might wear off if you live there, but come on.. It beats this place hands down.. I earn my living here, so I’m stuck for now. I’m looking at Bulgaria as a retirement spot, due to the price/weather/etc.

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Dude what moves could you make a living full time location independent?
Do you think asking a business Professor, local business guys, reputable Internet marketers, etc. could break you free of California?
Like you said let’s share knowledge and help each other learn and be free like Roosh.

Why do you feel 80 at California clubs? Is it the bitch shields of the hot younger girls that says you have no chance with them without social circle connects?

That’s what’s so bad about also these younger US girls no tact or grace- the Euro women have real grace and composure. Even the UK and Scandinavia girls I’ve met have a grace and feminine aura about them American girls don’t.

Where are the good clubs in the US?

I’d vote Miami but I stead of that breezy, granola vibe mixed with Midwest charm like you often see in California Miamis got this favela hood rat meets NY Mafia meets Florida suburban douchebaggery (they drink lame Dunkin Donuts coffee down there not Starbucks like Cali, they don’t have a book/learning culture too much in Miami its more like a Southern redneck resistance to learning and growing COMPLETELY different from the West coast, people sit around more where everyone in Califonia seems to like to go out and do things, etc.).

I know the US is bad but Miami and the South as well as the whole East coast is so lame- I hate it, the middle of the Country is full of fields and rocks and 2 bit towns, the NW is full of Forrest’s and passive aggressive stoners, Vegas and Phoenix are like desert urban slums, Texas is so backwards, really Southern and central California outshine most of the US in spades even if that’s not saying alot. Ride around Georgia dude you won’t see the vistas of Santa Barbara there-not even close.

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Phil,

I would love to break free of the BS here, however, it’s where I have my work. I have full medical, dental, vision.. I have a 3.0 per year retirement.. caps out at 30 years, 90%, at 50 years of age. I get paid vacation, sick time, etc. and I’m able to swap shifts, so I can take a month off at a time, paid.. or longer.. it really just depends how much I want to work. If I could do what Roosh is doing, I would in a heart beat. However, it’s not that easy.. So I’m good where I’m at right now. I can’t complain too much.

In America, the age factor is real. In Ukraine, I can bone 18, 19, 20 year olds.. it’s all good. In America however, women at that age, think any guy past 26 is too old. It’s the culture here, which is shit.

I’m not too far from Santa Barbara.. I’m on the central coast near San Luis Obispo. It doesn’t matter what clubs you go to.. USA is shit. My buddy swears that San Francisco is great.. and my brother swears San Diego is amazing.. tons of hot women, not many guys. Maybe they are right.. however.. don’t waste your time, energy, effort, money; on pursuing American women. Save it up all up, and go overseas, where it will be a much better investment.

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Dude I do like your West coast mentality. From my mileage of girls I’ve met from all those places I like NorCal (Bay Area and up-No on the Oregon and Washington chicks- ugly and passive aggressive). Giovanny on the Roosh forum has broken down SFO real good- the rep up there is the girls are super chill, a little quirky, love sex, and not super materialistic (they’re still Americans). San Diego is full of military bases and bros who lift and want to fight. Lots of girls are gym rats with a bubbly hollow personality IMO- ill pass. LA is better- lots of diversity- vote goes to Burbank, West Hollywood- that while grid- Orange County is so lame- cant stand Orange curtainers. The Inland Empire has some hot girls but you must look. In SoCal a lot of girls are Mexican (Im cool with that as Im Brazilian) including San Diego. Many chicks from LA and SD I have flirted with are cute Fergie looking half Euro half Mexican girls. I like the feminine vibe of Asians and the Slavic American girls in the North State better. I know my rant may be long but Im passionate about this stuff like a Sushi, Cigar, Wine, or Coffee aficianado. NorCal girls are pretty decent IMO. Santa Barbara has a bit of a trust fund baby jerk mentality but there are ton of fine girls there on State St. and that places beaches and views are extremely beautiful. Elliot Rodger did not know what a paradise he lived in man- his Dad shouldve either made him live in a trailer in Alabama for a few months or let him go to the Philipines to mingle as the confused, angry kid did not know how good he had it and let the hatred eat at him. I know nothing of SLO other than Chuck Liddell and caly poly is supposed to have some real talent. I’ve see. Some dime pieces from Sacramentos suburbs as well. In the States people can do far far worse than the Bear Republic my friend.

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Yeah dude CA is huge.. there are so many variations, it’s crazy. I prefer the non-materialistic women, when I do hang out with American girls. It’s nice just having someone who is laid back, and can just enjoy things. Remember though.. it’s only a fading moment.. these bitches will change with the wind. However.. it sure beats the Ukrainian social status mentality.. They will drop you in a heart beat, to elevate their status with another guy. I actually like Elliot Rodger.. He was a dumb ass in the sense that he had it really good.. But at least he stuck to his guns.. I give him that. Maybe if he had found Roosh sooner, or had the forums to vent some frustration/anger, he would have realized that in Ukraine, his dick would be raw from the amount of pussy he could get.. The possibilities are endless.. Like I have stated before, Ukraine is a big play ground/game/arena.. it’s all how you approach things, angles, strategy.. It’s like war.. it’s just how much time/energy are you willing to put into things?

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Tinder: I have closed my FB account as I have started to be more aware of everything. Tinder is another addiction, you have to be very aware to “detect” your brain quemistry making you do things you will regret on the near future,

Looking for tinder and dopamine I found this, you might be interested
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ross-a-rosenberg/tinder-and-human-nature_b_5513655.html

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Yup, Tinder can become an addiction.

Everytime you see a new photo you get thrill of either:

1) seeing an attractive chick in skimpy clothing
2) getting the chance to judge and reject an ugly girl or obese landwhale

Dopamine pinpricks over and over….

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Its a part of life man..All things are temporary and must come to an end..Very thought provoking and slightly depressing considering the vanity and mortality of life.

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Here’s something that works for me in many areas. Try everything two times. You tried to learn piano, and the first time, you failed. Wait. Second time you will play beautifully. First time sets the mind like pouring a foundation. Cheers.

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It really boils down to one simple concept, risk versus time left on Earth. The “IFs” carry more weight with age… especially if many previous attempts at things have failed. Now that I’m older, a mantra I’ve adopted is;”better to do few things very well, than many half-assed.” Is that a rationalization of avoidance? No, I call it wisdom, the ability to expand your field of view of your own existence.

Oddly enough though, I guess I’ve never really known anyone who between 30-50 range tried some extreme change in their life, so I don’t have a quality reference for comparison. It would be however, one of life’s ultimate gambles, yet surely ultimate rewards.

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Some good points. I changed some major shit at 33: Before then I was pudgy and inactive. Sold my car to save more money and began biking everywhere. Got really in shape. Also began taking music a lot more seriously in my mid 30s and played quite a few shows to adoring fans. Part of this was structuring my life around these new habits.

Career wise, I used to be sloppy with my work and didn’t really care about quality or being detail oriented. I’m retraining myself to give a shit now in little and small things.

I do agree that being consistent with approaches/game is important because it’s easy to make a little progress and then fall back into online game out of convenience.

I believe the trick is to do **something** towards your new goal every day, even if it sucks. Even if you’re completely unmotivated. Pick up the guitar and play an uninspired scale. Fall on your face with a lame opener at a cafe. The difference between 0 and 1 is infinitely larger than the space between 0.01 and 1. The important thing is to keep on moving.

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Awesome post. A man can never give up. What’s sad is how all the negative social programming stifles many people’s hopes and dreams. It’s better to always believe and always go for it. Hard to apply but you feel so alive when you do.